Wwyd - dp looking at beautiful women

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By beautiful I mean that perfect, unattainable look. Soft porn style.

I am hurt and upset, and disappointed. He doesn't get it at all, and thinks him looking at them does not detract how he feels about me.

How would u feel?

I didn't think he was like this - I'm a feminist and thought he was too.

"Men are visual creatures"

Tired, very tired.

"Men are visual creature"

BINGO!

Nocoment - women are just as visual as men. Please don't take advice from the misogynists handbook.

Its that sort of bollocks being spat out that makes men like the Ops OH think it is ok to disregard a partners feelings over wank material.

Is nocoment the OP's faintly ridiculous partner ?

Darn you AF

wot ?

Sat in McDonalds using the free wifi with his copy of nuts and a Cezanne print?

heh

Fairenuff, there's probably no point me saying this as you seem argumentative, but please stop putting words in my mouth. What I should have said then is let's focus on the ops issue rather than disagreeing with each other over the best advice to give.

Also, I wouldn't normally get drawn into this but at 6 months pregnant and with 2 hours sleep last night I'm obviously being very reactionary. Should not in my original post have written that some other advice is absurd (whatever I believe).

Whats the difference between him masturbating over a picture of a beautiful woman or just imagining in his mind a beautiful woman or thinking of someone he works with etc...... ??

By the time I've managed to post, another poster has read my mind and posted sooner.

Being the Captain of Hindsight though, I suppose it is to be expected.

Hindsight is 20/20 vision

innit

What I should have said then is let's focus on the ops issue rather than disagreeing with each other over the best advice to give

Please stop telling me what to do.

I'm not telling you what to do. Post or don't post. I will comment where I choose.

Really not trying to argue with you RRR but if I want to respond to a comment I will. It is the whole point of the forum after all.

Oh for goodness sake.

Also on the other issue...really? Do some people genuinely think porn is art, do they actually take that seriously. That has to be a joke.

MysweetAudrina

Erm, it doesn't smack you in the face when you fire up the laptop?

Discretion is a massively underrated attribute.

Imagining a beautiful woman in his mind or a work colleague is not as derogatory to women as the porn e images being paraded on the internet. No one is being exploited by his thoughts...

OP you have the right to be offended or upset by this and don't let anyone tell you otherwise - what anyone else might feel about what their partner does is simply not relevant.

He should be taking your feelings into consideration, he's not.

He also clearly thinks this is fine whereas you're feeling hurt by it (indicating you don't think it's fine). Meaning your morals don't match - this is a make or break thing for a relationship.

But a woman who choose to pose in a sexually explicit way is almost inviting men to wank over her but a female colleague maybe horrified at the thought that someone would wank over her. Surely it is the content of his mind that is the issue and not the form the material take itself in ( unless of course someone was abused in making it)

Literally the ONLY thing that's relevant here is that the OP is upset.

It doesn't make a difference if he's wanking over Victoria's Secret, the queen or a squirrel dancing a jig on a motorbike, OP is upset and he is being dismissive.

He doesn't get it at all, and thinks him looking at them does not detract how he feels about me.

Op you need go grow a bit of self esteem. 'Soft porn' to mean means page 3

Unless you want him to walk about blind fold and never look at another person again ..... oh and , never ever ever say you think Robbie Williams/George Cloony/Benedict Unpronounceable is good looking or fuckable

Do what I say. Agree with me. I'm in charge. Your views do not count. Only my feelings are important.

Hmm. If a guy was trying to lay the laws down like this, MN would be in uproar.

Have a look at this, this is before and after make up shots of porn stars (it was linked on an American news show I watch on YouTube) but I found it fascinating to see what make up can achieve!

Huffington Post Article

The same could be said of the OP's partner, beach.

What a shame, CS. Many of those women are naturally very beautiful without the slap.

I know, I just wanted to point out that what he is seeing isn't real. That these women don't roll out of bed looking like that. That it takes the skill of a make-up artist to completely transform some of them.