Staying DRY

[MrsSippie]

This is a continuation of the last thread DRY We are all doing our best to abstain completely from alcohol.

Thanks for the pep talk Biggles! Nice one

We are going for some food first and I am so hungry so fixating on that rather than the booze now!

Good evening all!

Just a quick post from me tonight, been mad busy with work but I'm on day 64, never in a million years did I think I'd get to where I am today

Wishing you all a happy, sober Friday and as Biggles says, play the film to the end if you're tempted! I also play the happy ending in my head too, the one where I climb into bed remembering my evening, like what I've said and done, who I've rang/text, what I've watched on TV or the book I've read, being emotionally and physically present for my DC.... then waking up without a pounding head and mouth like an old slipper, no feelings of guilt, shame and waves of paranoia, cringing and wishing the world would stop so I can throw myself off.

I know which movie I'd rather star in

Love to all x

Hi all.
Have not had a drink now for 7 days.
I have drunk a bottle of wine every evening for the past 12 years, give or take the odd dry spell when pregnant.
Can I ask how long before I start to feel better? ATM I wake every morning after a rubbish night feeling like I have been hit by a bus.
I feel tired, ratty, anxious and am sweating horribly.
I can honestly say I felt better when drinking.

biggles YES! thinking about how it will all end is what is stopping me at the moment. and slipped "being emotionally present for dc" is a big one for me too, and the being able to remember the evening the next day...
all excellent reasons not to crack!
My danger time has passed for today and I'm feeling a bit better. I am totally Exhausted though so will be having an early night as we have quite a busy weekend.
Have eaten pizza (yum!) and just waiting for dh to get back from collecting ds the will be having CHEESECAKE (yum,yum!!)
happy af Friday evenings to all.

I can just see us starting a StayingFREE[from cheesecake] thread soon.

dripty It took me a good 9-10 days before I got over feeling awful.

I am back to Day 1 tomorrow. :( Just a single glass of red and now am off to bed before I do any further damage.

Hi chaps, may I join??

I gave up drinking over 4 months ago, and loving it so far.

Now the sun has come out (a few times) the temptation to drink has come again...hmmmm...never planned to be teetotal forever, but I don't know if I can trust myself to drink in moderation if I start again.

I have to play that film quite often still!

hi dripty and well done! I guess it takes around two or three weeks until you start feeling a bit better - sleeping well and waking up feeling more clear headed. I've done six months and feel very well, but the reality of life without booze takes some getting used to. It's more than worth it though, it really is. stay with us

Thanks.
Am off to drink some more bitter lemon and ginger beer.
Wish I could find something more interesting and one that will stop me constantly eating too

I DID IT!!!!!!

I can't quite believe it. It was fine! Pub I used to go to and there was a DJ and everything (ie not just a quiet sitting around place) and I did it!!!!! Yay!!!!

Out tomorrow in the pub with DH and all his v hard drinking mates, who I used to be able to match pint for pint. Not sure what excuse I will give for not drinking, they may all assume me pregnant Still, after tonight am feeling good about it!!!!

dripty I think it was about 3 weeks for me, there are posts on here about feeling dizzy and stuff from around that mark. I feel really well now though (7 or 8 weeks in) I think it takes a while for your body to get over the shock. Eat marmite and give in to sugar cravings might help.

Brilliant Love. :) That is great. :)

Welcome again dripty and 6789 and everyone.

Day 1 here. Not sure what or why. It was just mindless. i am kicking myself for having to start again and for putting the drug into my system again. I don't even like red wine.

Am furious with myself.

Rainy glum day here.

Hope everyone is fine. :)

afternoon all.
chips don't be hard on yourself. On the grand scheme of things you're still doing really well. At least you limited the damage.

love Well done you , and good luck tonight.

dipty I am eating ridiculous amounts too. Am thinking though for now I'm focusing on just not drinking. Will tackle the eating later !

6789 Hi

have had very busy day here today. So glad that at least I'm not trying to fit everything in with a hangover too! Also will be out visiting relatives all day tomorrow so need to try and get everything ready for Monday before then. Also dd3 going away on school trip on Monday so that needs to be all packed up and sorted...and need to finish sorting things for dd2's bday next weekend...so still loads to do this evening , at least no chance of me getting bored LOL

Hope you're all having a good day.

Oh nochips :( Never mind. What is it do you think that's stopping you from 'stopping' sometimes? Are you scared? I still am! It's a frightening thing to do and scary to think you won't drink again. You are ding fab though - just keep it up

Ran 4 stupid miles last night! (in 40 mins which made me very proud though) Leg was killing me by the end and very very sore this morning but I've done 'rolling' and 'stretches' and other athletic type things and it seems ok now. Very tired today, faffing about doing little, dh at cricket, dd and ds lounging around.

All is calm though :)

Eurovision or BGT? Who's watching what??

Eurovision for me with a giant bag of peanuts and a cup of green tea.
Am also trying to cut down on my caffeine intake and smoking, all at the same time .
I must need my head looking at.

I don't know what is stopping me Biggles. It might well be fear.... fear of creating a new me perhaps? I honestly do not recall why I drank... what the reason was. I sort of just did it. I was feeling tired and a bit angry and depressed.

Sigh. Anyway. Every time I slip I just realise why I want to stop. I am not sure if I WANT to stop forever. But I want to stop for now.

I am so tempted to watch Eurovision, but am tucked up in bed as the combo of watching Eurovision and drinking is too tempting. So I am in bed and am about to get a head start on a project that is due next Friday.....Lordy..... I hear how careers take off when people go sober..... and here i am voluntarily doing work on a Saturday night!

On the plus side..... this evening I looked at the leftover bottle of red and thought that I should finish it. I thought 'This is me. I drink way too much. That is who I am, maybe just accept it'.

Then I decided to consider it for a bit and walked away.The craving passed, and I feel like I kicked booze's arse today.

fab! I will start another thread first thing tomorrow if that's OK with everyone??

Evening all.

I did it again! I don't understand this. It was fine. I feel like there is some massive trap that I am going to fall into as this seems far too easy. We went out others got hammered, I stuck to coke, had a bit of a dance, I didn't even want a drink. I don't get it, something has to go wrong surely...

Yay for me I guess but this is making me worried.

nochips can you bin that wine? You will still be you without the drink, I know how you feel though, like, what do I do if I don't do this, who am I? It's always been a massive defining part of everything about me and facing up to losing that is so hard. Worth it though, for all of us

I am ready for that new thread. :)

Love i binned the wine this morning. A part of me thought i would keep it in case DH wants some- but he is not home until next Friday so it would be off anyway. Congrats on the second pub night. :)

Yes, it feels like not drinking will be losing a massive defining part of me. But it IS worth it. It is so so worth it.

I am reading the Ann Dowsett Johnston book.... I am getting alot out of it. Will report on the new thread. :)

hi all, I've started a new thread. I can link the other threads when I'm on a proper computer!

Nice on Biggles and I have taken the liberty of getting the link

Nochips great job on binning that wine, and you know each time we slip it hardens our resolve. We will be sober, there is no other sane option

Hope everyone is having a good day so far. We are cooking sunday roast for 7 so that will be fun!

Having a massive Sunday afternoon blues today. I haven't managed to forget about work all weekend, having got a bombshell email on friday evening and sent some responses to it on Saturday. Now the whole thing has hardened into a massive knot of anxiety.

I am trying to tell myself that it is good that Monday morning is coming, as going there will help to move this on and stop being a horrible unresolved mess of nasty possibilities.

Ugh. Sometimes I really feel things are going backwards for me at work. I keep getting illusory moments of moving forwards and then getting plunged back into... feeling lost, threatened, unconsulted, like my job is a dustbin for crap that no one else wants to do

Daydreaming about the great escape... giving it all up, being a SAHM - it's not workable, but I would hate it anyway.

No desire to drink which is odd as I feel rotten and this is my key danger zone. Maybe because I am on here talking it all out. thanks for listening, everyone

PS Interested to see how many of you struggle with those late afternoons / dinner time with children. My nerves feel very raw at that time and I am ashamed to say quite a few times after resolving not to drink I have opened a bottle because of whining about something I have cooked and put on the table. Pathetic I know and I should be bigger than that! I pep talk myself now before I call them to the table, telling myself to detach no matter what happens in the next half hour... doesn't always work.

mab can you look for another job?

We are nearly maxed out on this thread, link to new one a couple of posts up.

I am getting sunday afternoon dreariness as well...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2076662-Being-DRY?

mab here we are [waves]