The Dating game - welcome all daters to the DATING THREAD 70!!!

[girliefriend]

Thought it was my turn to start the thread!!

[TheCrow]

Santa why would he have any reason to come off tge sites unless you talk to him and tell him you're uncomfortable with him still being on them? When he's mentioned that he should come off, he's giving you the opportunity to say you want him to but you haven't, and if you still log in he's probably thinking that makes it ok for him to log in too. He probably thinks that you're looking for someone better to come along too so he should keep his options open just in case. The only way to know is to talk to him :)

[Blossomflowers]

Queen I have know idea, can't make him out. Agreed 10.00 is a late finish and he would need to get changed and drive here, so getting really late. He is so lovely when he texts and when we actually see each. When I asked him outright he is actually wanted see me he replied of course. I just don't have time for games. Go me I am getting better @ being direct.

[QueenandKingMum]

Hello I would react the same if I was being messed around. Does he want to see you?

[QueenandKingMum]

Blossom, definitely go you! I am finding after a divorce and starting again after two failed long term relationships I have NO time for bullshit. Go you

[dippinmytoe]

santa say to him straight yes you would like him to take his profile down and you too. He has introduced you to his family etc. So unless he is a total twat , he is not going to introduce a lot of random women to his family.

I don't know whats happening about my date tonight :( he text last night and said long day at work... and that was it !! So far nothing today !! I think I shall make alternative arrangements!! And this from a meant to be really nice guy !!

[Blossomflowers]

Thanks queen I don't want to appear needy and I do appreciate it is hard for him, and I think he really does want to see me, willing to give him the benefit of the doubt this one last time, I have many others wanting to chat and take out but have kind of held back a bit. Yes to know bullshit, I read on here time and time again about men not communicating. Sometimes straight questioning is the only way to go, I gave him the out.

[QueenandKingMum]

Have any of you done a friends with thing?

[QueenandKingMum]

Blossom definitely give him the benefit of the doubt, he wouldn't make the effort if he wasn't into you!

[QueenandKingMum]

Dipping I wonder if he's just busy at work? My exh used to not be able to make plans even for that night if he was busy. Very annoying!!

[NumanoidNancy]

Hello, delurking here having read a lot of responses to Folkgirl that said her guy was an arse, cunt etc etc. Well he may or may not be I guess but having been the person who was caught checking OD by a partner I kind of want to put another opinion. The first man I met OD after my exH ran off with another woman I ended up dating for about 8 months (I did meet a fair few for first dates in the first few weeks but he really grew on me over the second and third basically). He was so very different from my exh and had some lovely qualities. Unfortunately sex wasn't that great and a large part of it was related to the fact he had been sexually abused as a kid and he was bipolar too. Now none of this was his fault but it obviously did end up affecting me via our relationship and about six months in I sat down with him and discussed how much I cared for him and wanted to be with him but there were some issues we had to sort out etc. He was in pieces, said he loved me would do anything etc and so we kept going.

The thing is nothing changed, he was so stuck and needed so much professional help and it was just heartbreaking for me. I was going through all sorts of hellish divorce shit which he tried to help me with and indeed he was my absolute best friend in many ways but I was in mourning for the sort of relationship I really wanted with him and couldn't have. Friends kept saying he was no good for me and in the end I did just sign back into Gsoulmates and have a look. I made the mistake of bumping into someone that seemed really cool and sent brilliant emails and I got myself so conflicted that it all came crashing down around me. The saddest thing for me is that i never ever wanted to hurt my boyfriend, I still miss him and would love to still be friends, I just couldn't cope with his mental health issues and the way that his past kept crashing through the present. Understandably he has never ever forgiven me and basically thinks I am the antichrist. The stuff he said about me n his blog was just blistering. I did a bad thing but it wasn't because I am a bad person if you see what I mean.

This probably doesn't help at all, I'm just trying to say that sometimes it is very easy to diagnose extreme cuntishness over the internet when life just isn't that black and white.

[HelloBoys]

QueenKing - I think he wants to see me (can't remember what email says) but probably not yet, wants to keep in touch. He wants to sort through his problems and not feel like he's dumping them on me/expecting me to deal with them which is grown up of him.

He said we were very good together (we were) which makes it even more.... .

[dippinmytoe]

queenking having just been on whatsapp .. he was online 20 mins ago. I think I let this one go... I really am amazed at these guys....
Thankfully I am chatting to a couple of other guys ...

[jesy]

Blossom

I really like him, I decided last week that as I know a fair bit about him and his mate's it would be ok if he picked me up and dropped me off at mine not just end of the road situation.
At weekend his house mate out so we'd be alone, he very flirty with me but not pushy .
I think he has had bad experiences with OD,as well.

[Blossomflowers]

jarlin you are probably right, but I don't want to get heavy we are only on 4th date, if this is how it is going to be though then he can only be good for passionate sex on a Friday night, would rather do it with him (as he is veyr good)and keep searching for person who is wanting a ltr if that makes sense. He has been single for 3 years beginning to see why, as so wrapped in kids and work and little time for anything else. Also have a telephone call arranged for this evening with interesting man, I have been messaging this week.
jesy Go for it but would not advise not to listen to me on reading the above

[dippinmytoe]

blossom I am probably the female equivalent of your guy. Officially I have every other weekend off from my kids. Midweek is bad for me as my mum works evenings and I really am not paying for a babysitter. I work from home so do not get lunch breaks and a chance after work to meet anyone. I can get my mum to mind my dc on my weekends with them. So I probably am not too easy to arrange dates with either. I chat to aguy reregularly , we flirt , but have our kids on opposite weekends, so impossible to meet up. If I met someone I liked , I would let him come to my house when children are in bed. Dating with kids and getting older is hard work !!

[TheCrow]

Dippin and Jarlin yep, i work 4 evenings a week until 10 and have my DD on my 3 days off so I'm left with a few hours during the day (when they're probably at work), after ten or on the very rare occassion that I get an early finish. Thankfully we're changing things at work at the end of the month that mean I'll be doing a maximum of 2 evenings a week instead of 4 so should hopefully see an improvement in my social life!

Mr Blanket is coming over after I finish work tomorrow for 'a cup of tea and a film'. He can have tea, I'll be cracking open a nice cold cider :)

[dippinmytoe]

Sounds good crow :) look forward to the update !

[Blossomflowers]

dippinI know it is a nightmare, I am giving him all the chances, to make matters worse every other Friday he officially finishes @ 10.00 but most times get off earlier. I just would like him to atleast try a little harder but you can't make some do that.
I am now chatting to 3 different guys at the same time, hope I don't get confused. lol.
I have a horrible feeling he is going to stand me up tonight but might be my own paranoia.

[jesy]

It's difficult wen your time limited me and my ex made an effort when I did shifts.
But not when I did 9 _ 5'

This one he is busy what with his football commitments and work but he does see. Keen

[Blossomflowers]

oh no, I actively avoid men who are football or FL obsessed. Am chatting to a naughty Welshman, but not too naughty, just teasing and fun. I am beginning to wonder if there are any women left in Wales.

[Blossomflowers]

I meant F1 not FL, that means nothing. lol

[dippinmytoe]

Lol blossom the guy I chat to but can't meet is also Welsh , but lives away from Wales !

jesy football will always be prioritised !

[Blossomflowers]

I think the Welsh men in general seem to be a bit naughty. Do you remember that one I was talking about sometime ago when he was suggesting absolute filth on his profile. I was quite shocked and I am not easily shocked, lol

[jesy]

Like football , so it's ok plus my theory was if we got on I can work lol