The Dating game - welcome all daters to the DATING THREAD 70!!!

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Thought it was my turn to start the thread!!

Hey Santa....sounds like a good guy. And yes, sometimes Ive not initially been bowled away by someones looks....but they can be alluring and attractive in other ways. Good luck :0)

"...so maybe I am just not giving out the right signals and am making him nervous!"

Maybe not nervous, but perhaps he's erring on the side of cautious. Whisper to him in the church that you're going to push the beds together when you get back to the room and then you can both leave dash off quick before the cake cutting ceremony.

Push the beds against the wall though, or tie a belt round the legs to keep the beds together. Dont want to fall through the middle just when things are getting jiggy.

Im having erotic dreams about Mr 4 but i think it might be the tramadol im taking (just had a minor op).

Jarlin Oh that is so funny! I think he's waiting to take a lead from you. He probably thought, "twin beds. She's definitely going to say something about that one!" I like MadeMan's suggestion

I feel slightly happier, yes. I think a lot of that has to do with the fact that I will have seen him within the fortnight period. It felt a lot more natural I suppose.

It doesn't feel quite so long to wait now.

I would like you advice, as you know have been talking to mrscottishaccent and due to see him again tonight. We were texting a lots last night and I said I was looking forward to tonight and he said he was sorry but not sure what time he could meet as work ( I know he officially finishes @ 10.00 but hope to get off earlier) So I have suggested just coming to the house for bite to eat so no time constraints. Am I nuts? I feel really comfortable with him.

So...can I update y'all on my date last night.

Went for drinks (just a couple). He looked yummy, all suited and booted. Think (?) it went well. Was a bit disappointed we didn't have more than just a couple of drinks tbh.

But he texted me last night saying he'd had a nice time and then variously flirty texts last night.

I find it impossible not to second guess people though. I think I've got to a point with guys where I just don't trust them. So even though he seems lovely I am over-analysing, thinking ' what is it he wants from me?'. :(
I've had too many bad experiences and it's made me extremely cautious/wary.

But I sort of like him.

oh, he has just texted me to say, hello :)
he is quite full on, but I think I like it.

No time constraints might mean you'll be sitting around at home all evening waiting for him to get in touch. I personally hate vague plans because it means I can't get on with anything else while I'm waiting.

Previous post was reply to Blossom.

blossom, he will be expecting bedroom action, I think.

Made to be fair I know his shift will officially finish @ 10.00 but he hopes he can get of earlier but obviously can not say 100%. He cannot do Saturdays as he always has his daughter for overnight. I pushed him a bit because I do not want vagueness I don't care if it late tbh as long as he turns up, basically if he was using it as a excuse I would rather know, so asked whether outright it he was still keen to meet and was a def yes. Fed Bedroom action, not sure I would say no has been a drought in that department for a long time

fedup I'm like you - I've been messed around so much I assume they are all liars & cheats. It's not a good place to be to be honest. My problem is that if I say I will do something or phone someone I do it & expect the same standards from men - who sadly don't tend to be on the same page!
blossom - that's a tricky one - you don't want him thinking you'll just sit around all evening and wait for him. I'd probably just say 'not to worry we'll do it another day when you're free' and let him know you have other options. No harm in keeping them on their toes

scorned Sorry to hear you have had bad experiences, there have got to be some good ones out there. Re MrScottishaccent I think he has been nothing but honest so far as I can see, not is fault he has to work till 10.00. We both have work commitments and I like he is commited to seeing his daughter on Saturdays. Could turn out to be a load of bollocks but I am not into playing games.

Spoke to one guy on the phone but was turned off, he didn't sound my type at all, since then I've been messaged by two potentials, one in particular sounds very on my wavelength...but have had disappointment after disappointment lately so am very much eyes open, hopeful at least a meet will come of one or both of them.

Blossom I agree with Scorned, at this stage you don't know him enough to decipher whether the work is a reason to cancel or an excuse, you are forcing his hand. I can understand it lets you know where you are but it sets a pattern, at this point he should be doing the chasing. We're all different though so if this feels right to you then hope it goes well

But he did not want to cancel just said because of work he would not know exactly what time he would meet. Has been texting me every day saying all the right things. Also a longish drive to get here, not sure he has done anything wrong and so far. Will look forward to finding out more about him tonight. Have lots of men I could see but keeping at bay for a bit. I am a very open hearted person but not long out of a 20 year relationship so expect the worse in everything atm. Will find it hard to trust someone

Just checking in, busy thread already!

blossom I am hoping that there are somewhere - they are just well hidden With Mr Scottishaccent if you are getting good vibes, then just enjoy it. My reservation with new relationships is that if I show them I am too relaxed about things, they will take advantage. You've got the right idea though - it may be a 'load of bollocks' as you say - I think Bant summed it up nicely - it IS a load of bollocks until it happens!! As you say though, some of them must be nice!

ugh, just been messaged by another chap who wants to be a male servant, also a crosser dresser, profile pic wearing a french maids outfit.oh for FS there must be specialist sites for these people. Anyone urgently need their house cleaned ?

jarlin when is the wedding, I've lost track? Is it this weekend, if so have a fab time and GET THOSE BEDS TOGETHER!!

flora hope alls ok after your minor op

blossom I think I would call off him coming to your home when the plan sounds vague. Make him arrange a date with you and take you out.

I don't know what to make of my feelings about Bricky. He's nice, I feel comfortable, we get on, on the surface anyway but we've only had 4 dates. I look at him and I don't fancy him, to me he just looks pleasant, happy, a nice person. Yet things have got a bit heated between us following the last two dates and he does turn me on when we get into it. Is that normal?

He's always planning date ahead, which I like. Thing is he asked if I wanted to meet his family this weekend, parents, brother and fiancé , just to have something to eat at their house. Don't think I'm ready for that yet tbh. He just seems so normal after the utter wankers I've known since my marriage break up :)

santa its a bit soon for meeting family imho... but it is nice he wants to introduce you :)

My date went well last night, nice meal and ended with a quick snog ! Lots of texting when I got home. He text this morning inviting me to dinner tomorrow night :) He is a nice guy, the conversation never stopped last night and I wasn't clock watching... di that has to be a good sign ? I think

Oh god Brickys. another one wanting to rush things then. The last relationship from OLD I had lasted 3 months and he was saying how much he'd fallen for me, wanted me to meet family, making future plans, all too soon. It didn't last he stopped being as affectionate started to distance himself it was horrible. Although at least Bricky hasn't said he's falling for me ect ect yet

blossom what site was the french maid from? I'm thinking of joining a pay-one. I didn't have much joy with Match last time & 'Short Fat Estate Agent' was from OKC which was full of loons. Am thinking of EliteSingles maybe? Any recommendations?

santa Now are you finding MrBricky unexciting because he is not a challenge? In which case hang in there because maybe its because he is making it seem to easy. He may be a 'good one'. On the other hand, if you really don't fancy him, maybe it's better to cut your losses now?

And BTW, he can come and do my hoovering if he's at a loose end