The Dating game - welcome all daters to the DATING THREAD 70!!!

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Thought it was my turn to start the thread!!

Enjoy it blossom .. its scary realising you have no feelings for ex, but great :) my two children are gone too.. so party time. Glass of wine poured

Thanks, I have just poured a beer, best not touch wine yet might get tipsy then god help poor mrscottishaccent, lol. Could be a long night especially if he does have to work full shift, would not want him to find me blotto

Have fun blossom

Let us know how it goes!

Well in that case, just have fun and enjoy it.

And if he does cancel, well you'll look fab and can pop out to the pub anyway. Who knows who you might find there....

Good luck and I hope it goes well. xx

folkgirl you have obviously not gone out to the pubs where I live, you would then realise why I have resorted to OLD, ha ha

Well just had a message for mrscottishaccent, has finished work and will be here after shower, shit best get my self into gear, gonna be here @ 8.30. Going to go for a couple of drinks out, eeek, wish me luck

Enjoy :)

Blosom Have fun tonight.

Jarlin Enjoy the wedding and afterwards

I have a date with Mr Banana tomorrow!! Only my second ever actual date. We're going for a few drinks in a pub which most people say is a dive but that I actually like that's the kind of thing I'm into Even if it's awful I'll be happy!

POF guy messaged me earlier too saying sorry for the late reply but he broke his phone and had to get it repaired, no mention of going out but think he might have thought I was pissed at him. I tried to make a joke of it but might have come across as bitchy. No reply so far so he might have taken it the wrong way!

blossom good luck for tonight!

Jarlin extra good luck for tomorrow, twin beds made me laugh a little! Maybe it was the last room?! Get them pushed together and show him who's boss ;)

Blossom, nice of Scottish bloke to let you know he'll be over at 8.30 after he's had a shower and a shit. Enjoy the evening.

Jarlin Have nice time at wedding rearranging the furniture.

Crow why is he called Mr Banana? I seem to have missed the reason why, but for now I am going to assume he carries one in his pocket.

@ mademan's evening summary.

I was thinking same Blossom...he'll be over after a shower and a shit. Being a Scit myself, it sounds about right! Have fun!

Ok...How do you manage those relationships when they work away? I really like Mr 4 but due to his work I hardly see him, hence me meeting up with guy from pif whom i kept in touch with. Hes too young fir me but it was a fun night. Do I hang around for Mr 4 or do I start ODing again...hmmmm

Scot not scit!! Typing without my glasses!

Flora I think the key word you used is 'relationships', if you view it as a relationship then it's an easier choice imo than if you view it as 'dating' which I suppose is taken as seeing where it goes with someone while maybe also seeing other people.
It depends on how you define what it is I suppose....if I was being intimate with one person then I would be faithful to them and expect the same in return, or at least have some sort of chat with them to make sure we were on the same page etc.
Are there feelings involved with number 4 or is the lack of getting together time making it hard to keep the momentum going between seeing each other?

mademan I never said why, wanted to keep people guessing. He's dressed as a banana in his profile picture!

Thanks Jarlin seemed very drama free and easy going :) Not 100% on the phone story, if he didn't want to see me why bother messaging me back now? He could have just kept ignoring me and I would never have said anything! We're messaging again now, he mentioned again that he's skint til he gets paid so if he was lying about the phone it might have been because he didn't want to say no because he had no money? That's all I can think of really!

Hi jarlin no I haven't told him yet. Friend has arranged for all 3 of us to go out next Friday to celebrate her tests being clear of cancer. Im fucking dreading it. I have told her by email that the date was not good and too intense and that intend to give him the necklace back. She wishes to talk to me about it, or bully me as I see it. Wish I had never gone. It didn't help seeing Mr Cute last night for dinner at his new place now he is separated from his wife. I realised it is him I truly like.

why is this all so difficult??

Hansel...thanks. I suppose i use the term 'relationship' loosely. I dont want anything too serious right now and Mr 4 agreed. However, he seems to think in relationship terms due the tragic loss of his last gf. Whilst i would like it to develop i think the lack of getting together is stopping this. We text daily, we call(sometimes long deep conversations) and he sends me the odd card in the post. I still think he is grieving and its a barrier for us too. Ive tried to say its not working for me but we seem to keep being drawn back to one another. I suppose it may be a case of being patient. But im not a very patient kind of girl lol.

Sometimes I just hate this online dating thing. On our date last night Bricky brought up the subject of the dating sites. Can't remember how but he was asking if I went on Match now and I admitted I had a look if I got an email to say someone had viewed me. He then admitted he'd been on there and viewed me to show his brother my profile. I never really see him on there but I have noticed that plenty of fish keeps saying online today for him

Last night I said well your on another dating site as well ( he told me this the first time we met) he kind of said yeh I am oh well I'll take it down I'm not bothered. So had a look tonight and he's still there and it says online today, not online now, but today. Anyway I hate this, why can't they just stay off the sites if they are interested in you. I don't think he's seeing anyone else though because he always sees me and if he's not he texts me

It's frustrating Flora I can see that, why can't things ever be straightforward??! It is so much harder at this stage in life i.e. post divorce / separation / with kids etc as whoever we meet will have their own commitments too no doubt, not like the hazy days of starting out years ago.

I'd say if you like him enough then give it a bit more time, but yes, I'd start to question if it was viable for the long run, things like are there any prospects on the horizon of you being able to see more of each other or is this it for the foreseeable future...etc.

santa I know what you mean. I think you just have to keep your guard up until you are both ready to agree you won't be on there any
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I don't know why but I just can't believe he's like that he genuinely seems too nice. Maybe he just goes on too see whose viewed him ect like I do on match, not to try to meet up with people :( not happy

Santa....maybe its a guard mechanism for him. As in he really likes you and is hoping it will work, but has perhaps been let down in the past and is just keeping his options open. I wouldnt read too much into it. My Mr4 still has a pof profile even though i deleted mine. It says been online in last 30 days, however its still there. Your guy might just check messages but not act upon them. I know when i deleted my account i got the mobile number off a guy who i had no intention of dating but we had become good 'friends'.

Thanks Hansel. I might give it a bit longer. See how it goes.