husband recorded me when drunk

[JustLikeHeaven]

Husband recorded me on his phone when I was drunk and upset, crying etc. Just my voice, I didn't know he was doing it.

I don't get messy drunk anymore but I used to about ten years ago so it used to be an issue for us. I didn't eat enough and drank too much. . No excuse, I over did it. I behaved badly at a dinner party and embarrassed myself and him. Talking loudly and slurring and boring everyone. I feel stupid now. . They are not close friends. But I also feel betrayed by him. Do I deserve what I get for being a drunken idiot or was that really low. I don't know what he wants to do with the recording. . Just for me to hear how disgusting and scum baggy I am. . So he said. Haven't heard it. So now I am mortified by my own stupid carry on and sick to my stomach that he recorded me when I was upset. Tell me to get real

No, I don't work for MN. I may have caused them a fair amount of work at times though

Hahahaha - well there you go - had a hunch x

Whatever your "hunch" is, it's not even anywhere close

But anyway...

Are we doing kisses now?x

As I said wasn't having a go - some sites have people on to keep conversations going etc. was just curious and asked no offence intended and thanks for answering.

PS Kelly whoops sorry on phone and always feels like I'm texting ha (hence kiss)

justlikeheaven i have read the entire thread.

Go to bed. You are obviously too knackered to keep up.

That was unnecessarily rude OneDirection. OP is right, why ask questions she's already answered? It must feel hectoring.

ROAR @ the thought of AnyFucker working for MNHQ

And MN having people on the payroll "to keep the conversation going"

Welcome to MN, Trevor. The land of free unmonitored conversation between adults. No textspk, no tickers, no kiss fest xxxxxxx or xoxoxo. Just people talking normally and honestly.

Côte stop having a go at me. Thanks.
Some sites do have monitors. And I wasn't having a go.

Trevor, the moderators on here always make themselves known if they appear on a thread. It should say at the top of thread if mnhq have commented on it. Hugging and kissing is frowned upon (I get why) but feel free to swear. And I too am roaring at AF working for mnhq! Even I have been here long enough to know that cannot be true

Venturing over from Brave Babes thread here to offer support to you JustLikeHeaven

Facing up to an alcohol problem is not an easy thing to do. Please don't beat yourself up about this. Great idea on seeing a counsellor.

Non-judgmental support always available on the Brave Babes thread, or feel free to PM me.

Ha - was an innocent even if stupid enquiry. And didn't realise about kisses etc but as I explained was a typo (go on auto pilot when I'm on my phone).

Think I'm just in bother for pointing out rightly that we aren't equipped to diagnose alcoholism from a few-lines of thread - and that judging OP as a disgusting pig / inexcusable behaviour etc made people sound like they were going for their brownie badge in sobriety!

Brave babes prob a good place - no telling off or amateur psychology there.

Have a good day every one!

oi !

I could be a double agent, ya know

Sorry AF, and yes you could be!

Hahaha... Ooh the mystery continues

Yes AF after all the previous to-do's, you could have been subjected to a bit of harmless brain alteration by MNHQ. Gulp.

Trevor - I'm not having a go at you. Just giving you a heads up about what this place is like.

Getting smashed and making a fool of yourself & embarrassing your DH in front of his friends in the process is indeed inexcusable behaviour in my world. It probably is in your world, too, unless if you are about 18 and have friends of similar age and lack of control.

And this is what we call a debate on MN - people arguing their viewpoint. Not "having a go".

If you care to argue yours, you can start by what on earth you were talking about last night when you went on a tangent about the cross I supposedly carry and called me a "martyr". I'm not aware of having sacrificed myself for anything or anybody. Would you care to explain?

I wondered what that large scar on my Bonce was

And the bolts in my neck....

Yeah of course. I have apologized earlier in the thread if you look back. I was OTT in defending OP. It felt to me (but of course it's hard to get the tone etc of postings on here) that there was a lot of judgement towards OP rather

I found the 'inexcusable behavior' comment to sound very pious (ie. a martyr 'oh i'd never do anything as terrible as getting drunk, look at my halo'). I snapped and I shouldn't have. But I found some of the responses (not all yours btw) without much detail at that stage to be very heavy-handed, especially since as OP said she hadn't behaved like this for 12 years.

If OP had said she got in front of her children etc I would have understood a bit more. But I still think (sorry, but I do - like you say we're not all going to agree all the time) that having a few too many on an empty stomach wasn't as bad as some people including you (although I apologise for singling you out, and did last night also) were a bit quick to label her a alky. And then to imply 'you can't handle the truth' to anyone who disagrees is again not particularly helpful.

Personally, I'm more interested in the relationship side of the thread ie. should he have recorded her and less towards to alcohol. Other people may have more experience of being or living with alcoholics and for that I'm sorry but it doesn't give them the right to tell OP she is alcoholic because that can't be diagnosed by a stranger on MN. Sorry, but it can't. OP has said that she has a problem, and that's different.

OP didn't need a telling off from people who don't approve as DH has clearly already done that, but she didn't need me sticking my oar in and getting all defensive either

RE monitor there's another thread where someone was having a go at AF and I showed it to DP who said that his friend was a monitor on a (very large scale) student room website and their job was to keep people on topic etc and spot threats. It wasn't an accusation I was genuinely interested and wanted to ask outright - thanks to everyone for clarifying that doesn't happen on MN and sorry I sounded thick but I don't need ridicule over it we've all had a laugh over it. Beyond answering the question and laughing at a 'newbie' it is having a go.

Oh and the kisses. It was late and I was tired and I was MN'ing on my phone. For a split second added an 'x' like on a text. It's not a big deal but thanks to who it was for explaining it's frowned upon. Still getting my head around MN and not sure whether I like it yet.

Anyway - hopefully OP can update how situation is and we can concentrate on supporting her and not picking wholes in each other's posts

Whoops - first paragraph should end 'rather than giving advice'.

Another feature of this site is that people don't tend to take themselves too seriously

Another feature is the bitchiness and s**t stirring from what I've seen so far... from a few threads. Anyway I've tried to apologise and still think some people were too harsh on OP but I did get overinvolved. But nevermind like Cote says we're not all always going to agree. It'd be boring if we did!

Hope OP is OK. Did you listen to the recording in the end??

PS just learned how to put faces in to posts... no more x's for me. haha

I don't think you know the definitions of the words "pious" (devoutly religious) or "martyr" (someone killed or at least sacrificed a great deal for his beliefs).

None of them are used for people with different understanding of inexcusable behaviour than yourself.

This is not about being OTT when defending OP. You made no sense. That is what I'm saying.

If you find MN bitchy, NetMums and BabyCentre may be more to your taste. Everyone cuddly and luffly, kisses and hugs galore. Not to mention glittery tickers.