can't believe this - so upset

[bouncybabe]

just got home to find ds asleep in living room with back door wide open. dh upstairs - would never have known if someone had crept in or even if a cat had got in. can't believe he could be so careless and stupid - feel like exploding - i'm so upset and angry. Am i overreacting

The baby may also be picking up on YOU being stressed as you are probably the one with him most of the time.

Probably the heat not the shouting. Babies of that age are tough little beasties. In a years time he might notice more but not right now. Please don't worry that one shouting match will have caused long-term damage. He might be reacting to tension in both of you but not to hearing shouting - he didn't even wake at the time did he?

FWIW if I was your DH you'd have been mad at me too as I wouldn't have thought twice about leaving my baby in that position - it's hot so you leave the doors open. If he was asleep I wouldn't have risked moving him and he wouldn't have needed anything. And the only flea-ridden cat around is our own

Hope that you manage to sort things out

he did wake up during the shouting - hate the thought of my little boy hearing all that. i've told dh if he does it again i will take ds out of the house

It is not going to harm your ds in any way at this age. If he were older then yes it would be a problem, but I suspect your dh knows this and will not shout in his hearing when he is old enough to be disturbed. There are a thousand reasons why a 12 week old baby has a bad night. You are harping on about this shouting business and I am losing all sypathy and understanding why your dh is losing his rag with you.

Calm dow, stop blaming your dh, sort yourself out. and most importantly DROP IT.

I agree, enough about the shouting now. Enjoy the day with your little one, go for a good walk, have a cuppa and a cake, be nice to your dp when you see him and try to find some peace in yourself.

Thanks, i know you're both right. I think this is really part of my problem, not being able to let things go and getting completely overwhelmed and having little sense of proportion. So much hoping the AD's will help with this

Good luck bouncy - I always found excersize really helpful - and you get brown buggy arms in this weather!

Sounds like the Ad's will help, in the meantime give yourself a project this way you'll have something else to think of. Think of decorating, or plan a day trip or something, anything to break the cycle.