dealing with separation

[keptinthedark]

my husband has been gone almost four weeks ......the pain is still insurmountable ...i can't eat or sleep i just sob and wail ...i want him back so badly i am in tablets from the doctor but they are n
ot helping .....help me

neiljames fwiw??

kept, fwiw means for what it's worth

I've just read through your thread. I'm so sorry you're having such a bad time. Something stands out from your posts, you seem to be using a lot of your energy thinking about your Ex and the OW. It's partly understandable given what you've been through but try to make YOU and your DCs the main focus of your thoughts, energy and efforts. it may seem hard at the moment but try to put yourself and your DCs first, concentrate on building towards a different but happy life.

Your Ex does not deserve to be the focus of everything - you do.

His behaviour is farcical. Let him get on with his "engagement"..I suspect he's getting a lot of satisfaction with the impact his behaaviour is having on you. Don't rise to it..let them get on with their pathetic little affair. It won't last they seem to enjoy playing to an audience. Make it clear you're too busy with your own life to have any interest at all.

Kept, I have just read your entire thread and your suffering isn't entirely about love, but rejection.
The reason it's so painful, is that you have suffered a bereavement, only the person is still alive. Not only alive, but taunting you as he is wallowing in the attention of two women.

Your life has become a self fulfilling prophecy. Function all day for the children and collapse into the cheat's robe at night.
Don't bin the robe just yet, bear with me.
The death of your marriage needs a marking of such. It needs a Funeral.
Ask anyone here how they felt after a death of a loved one. The lead up to the funeral and after the funeral?
I bet everyone would say the funeral was a release.

That is what you need now, to let go.

Have a robe burning ceremony. Take your children to grans, invite the girls and burn his robe in the garden. Then have a damn good drink and a takeaway.
You can do it, just break the cycle of misery.

Kept, I have just read your entire thread and your suffering isn't entirely about love, but rejection.
The reason it's so painful, is that you have suffered a bereavement, only the person is still alive. Not only alive, but taunting you as he is wallowing in the attention of two women.

Your life has become a self fulfilling prophecy. Function all day for the children and collapse into the cheat's robe at night.
Don't bin the robe just yet, bear with me.
The death of your marriage needs a marking of such. It needs a Funeral.
Ask anyone here how they felt after a death of a loved one. The lead up to the funeral and after the funeral?
I bet everyone would say the funeral was a release.

That is what you need now, to let go.

Have a robe burning ceremony. Take your children to grans, invite the girls and burn his robe in the garden. Then have a damn good drink and a takeaway.
You can do it, just break the cycle of misery.

Aagh sorry, no post then came up twice.

two youngest dcs went with h yesterday he let them speak to ow on the phone and she said i am a size 10 not fat like your mum!! how dare she say that to my children! he also told them he is moving to derby about four hours away from here ....then he took them to his mothers where he broke down in tears and did it was hard and he thought he had made a mistake to which mil replied no you haven't you are away from that poisonous woman!! omg my head is spinning i am so so upset and angry by what is being said!! also h has changed his mobile number and is refusing to let me have it!