Shagged a really good friend on Friday night. Sigh....

[FrazzleRock]

Why oh why oh why oh why oh why oh why oh why oh why?

It almost feels like I've had sex with a brother or something.

But I kind of liked it.
Did I say that out loud?

Oh MAN.

We've not spoken since. Awkward.

Alcohol loosens your tongue (removes inhibitions). It does not make you say things that weren't already in your head, IYSWIM. It is entirely possible he interpreted your "are we cool" text as a brush off/let's forget this and is giving you space - either because he's being decent or because he's gutted that he showed his hand & you didn't reciprocate. You really need to meet face to face and talk.

haha, no he's not FutTheShuckUp He's 35

Yes you're totally right Dust! Perhaps I should get him over on Sunday. He's not seen the DS's for ages (and he adores them) so will chat to him and see if he's about

Another one here thinking of shagging a really good mate

But you've all put me off with your happy ever after stories! I absolutely wouldn't want to have a relationship with him. And I also wouldn't want to lose him as a friend. Could be disastrous!! But fun!!

Right, so I have just sent him a message asking if he's about on Sunday...

He's not seen the DS's for ages (and he adores them)

I'm trying really hard here to bite my tongue. I wish there was a facepalm emoticon.

"I don't have any plans. Anything in mind?"

(good so far)

Ah, cross post. Well done Frazzle.

Ok, so it seems I'm seeing him on Sunday!

all directions - SEE! It's confusing, right?

Well done, now what do you normally do when you meet up (apart from the shagging) that leaves you time to talk?

Why don't you ask him over for Sunday lunch, then go for a walk where the kids can run on ahead or park them in front of a DVD so you can talk without too many interruptions. If it goes well he can stay on for tea+.

Good plan dust! Also biting tongue while crossing fingers here....

Question to answer in 5 seconds: if someone held a gun to your head and said "do you want to date and commit to this man?" What would your immediate reaction be?

So, if weather is fairly decent, we're going to the local national trust park so the boys can burn off some energy at the adventure playground. That'll give us a bit of space

doorbell! That's so mean. I'd have to be shot

Sounds like a plan. Also, if things turn awkward or get too intense, you can always change to topic by saying its time for tea & cake or reeling the kids back in & drawing them into a shared activity like a nature walk/looking for bugs under logs so it takes the pressure off the two of you.

No it's not mean it's making you address your womanly gut feeling/spidey senses!
I see from your reaction you are trying to deny both heehee!

SUNDAY? . That's days away - could you not have arranged it earlier, just for us lot?

I really don't want to post this but (gulp) am going to, just as a little out of the box thought (it may not even be remotely true). Have read the thread, got excited, held breath and .... well nothing, he should have called by now.
At the moment all I can think of is the episode of Sex in the City "Pick-A-Little, Talk-A-Little" with the infamous phrase about why he hasn't called (dare I even suggest it, oh bugger it am going to)... maybe he's just not that into you?

[dons hart hat and wholeheartedly hopes for hearts and flowers alternative ending]

OMFG total cross post and I need to type faster ... embarrassed!!!! Ignore me, I know jack shit.

Well, if that's the case Sunday's planned activities are neutral and the OP can play it by ear. But there's always one person ready to rain on the parade. Tsk. I am sure all will soon become clear...

Ha! I cross posted with Wobbles.

To redress the balance of my earlier rambling , my best friend shagged her best mate on the way out of a messy divorce... she's been married to him for 15 years and has a teenage son begs forgiveness for raining on parade

her male best friend not me, god I shouldn't be on a forum after a glass of wine, not safe.

Especially around any make best friends Wobbles.