Shagged a really good friend on Friday night. Sigh....

[FrazzleRock]

Why oh why oh why oh why oh why oh why oh why oh why?

It almost feels like I've had sex with a brother or something.

But I kind of liked it.
Did I say that out loud?

Oh MAN.

We've not spoken since. Awkward.

I do like him Jupiter! But I don't know if I like like him, or I like him because he gave me attention when I needed it and paid me lots of compliments (yes I'm that shallow)
I do wonder if it's because he's desperate to be with someone and is settling for me as we know each other so well and it's just easy. You know?

I know he's lonely. He tells me all the time. He's not usually the type to be single for long so isn't used to being alone.

I do wonder if it's because he's desperate to be with someone and is settling for me

Or, you know, maybe he really really likes you. Don't do yourself down.

I shagged good friend of mine while drunk once.
We've been together for 15 years, married for 12 and have 2 children!!!

text him again and bring it up…now or never!

The question is OP - does he give you the Fanny Gallops

I did the drunk hook up thing with my best friend and then we both pretended it hadn't happened for a couple of weeks.
That was 7 years ago, we're now married with a 12 week old baby

Lovely 'Happily ever after' stories on here. Very sweet!

at fanny gallops! Is that a character in Downton?

Just text him and ask so when are we shagging again ??

Set the stop watch going & report back how long it takes him to apoear att your front door if you send excitedforxmas's text, please.

I sense there would be huge mischief if any of us had access to the OP's mobile right now...

Also did this he is now my husband, I wouldn't change him for the world!

Sorry, nothing more to report tonight. I get the feeling our regular old friendship is back on track.
I will be sure to report if anything shaggy happens
Promise!

NO NO NO go for it!!!! It sounds right!

As pp have already said.. I shagged my best friend and he's still my best friend. Been together ten years and have two ds'. We're getting married on our 11 year anniversary this year

have a feeling the next instalment won't be too long frazzle

What I just wrote makes no sense! Don't think it will be too long before you need to come back and update us with more shaggy news I meant.

Don't miss your window- TALK, don't text. See if you can agree to, er, suck it and see.

Marking place. This is so exciting!

Yep agree with what everyone else has said, you need to bring it up , you need to say something like so we werent going to leave it too long til next time - what you up to tomorrow :)

Of course he's cool with it, you shagged him!

Was there any reason you both didn't pursue things years ago?

A lot of people underestimate the power of friendship. Yet those same people will have a best friend that lasts through marriages, divorces, remarriages etc.

Friendship is absolutely the best basis for a LTR. Because you already know that you get on, you know each others likes and dislikes, the compromises have already been made, you know each others views on politics, religion and the Queen! You know whether the other wants marriage, kids, a dog, some chickens..... You get on, you care for each other, you make each other laugh, enjoy each others company but understand the need for space sometimes....

All that is missing from that is the sex. And that seems to work too. Whats not to love?!

Someone once said people only regret the things they don't do, not the things they do. Based on that you should at the least discuss what happened so you are both clear that friendship is the best you can offer each other.

BUT....

What if you have the chat and then both decide a proper full on relationship is the way forward?

I think the next time you see each other you talk about it a bit and see what happens.