Shagged a really good friend on Friday night. Sigh....

[FrazzleRock]

Why oh why oh why oh why oh why oh why oh why oh why?

It almost feels like I've had sex with a brother or something.

But I kind of liked it.
Did I say that out loud?

Oh MAN.

We've not spoken since. Awkward.

You don't necessarily have to be extremely forthright, do you? What's wrong with flirting with him, being a bit mysterious and romantic?

I can't imagine just telling someone I want to sleep with him; there are more exciting ways to get the message across-

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Another, married to mate who I shagged, here!

I'm shagging my best friend. Only a few months into the relationship, but I kinda hope it turns into one of these sweet success stories that have been shared here. I loves him loads.

So... any progress? ?

What did I miss have they done the talk!!! Yet......
Come on it took me 13 years to talk to my best freind!
Don't leave it that long
Call him.......

Strawberry kisses go for it! X

This discussion feels a bit like 'best-friend-shaggers of MN unite!'

I get the impression that Norks thinks you LIKE him. She's right of course Grab him with both hands OP!

Sorry nothing to report! I'm going off the idea

I annoy myself with my indecisiveness. However, I DO have a date next Weds..... a second date with someone else.

What specifically puts you off the idea, Frazzle?

you need to bring it up

Why are you put off frazzle?

I don't know.... I suppose, now I have my head out of the clouds and I've had a bit of time to reflect, I'm not sure I'd entirely trust him.

He's told me before that he's got a 'FWB' thing going on with a girl he knows. I also know he's really struggled to get over his ex GF.
He seems desperate to get into the next relationship as he's never really been free and single for long and feels lonely.
I just wonder if he needs to be single and just fuck about for a bit and I'm not sure I want to be a part of that.

I just don't think it'd be the love story everyone (and perhaps I) hoped it'd be, y'know?
Maybe of this had happened a few months, perhaps even a year or so, down the line, it might be different?

Maybe it'll all come good yet, just needs time like you said.
Now where's your date......I know I have no life!

They seem like reasonable things to give pause to rushing into this head first.

... or are you just too scared you'll lose him as a friend?

How long were you single for before he split up with his last gf?

Yeah, I'm scared I'd lose the friendship and the respect we have for one another...

I've also been let down a couple of times by guys since I split from my STBXH.
I've had my heart well and truly ripped apart by one person and I'm absolutely terrified it'll happen again. I mean totally and utterly shit scared as I went through hell and back with this guy emotionally. (but that's a whole other story! - totally swept off my feet, then brought back to earth with apocalyptic crash)
As for STBXH, I've been separated from him for nearly three years. I split from him, it was pretty amicable and there are no issues there at all.

The friend has been single about 6 months and is just starting to come out the other side, but I do wonder if he'd take her back without a moment's thought....

As for the date, that's on Weds
Tall, sporty, works in recruitment , seems moderately keen (which I like as all the over keen ones have changed their minds again), we've not spoken much since our last date - although he did try to kiss me when we said goodbye...

He seems sweet and harmless enough. Who knows!

See, I'm struggling with this since you mentioned dating but especially now you've mentioned having a really hurtful post split relationship experience. You have a man in your life who you like very much, who you respect & respects you, who you can talk to easily, who you seem sexually compatible with and is telling you he's fancied you forever... And yet you are looking for love elsewhere. Given how badly you've been hurt in the past by a new man, surely the decent guy who has been good to you over a long period and is practically throwing himself at you is worth at least an exploratory conversation?

Did I miss him telling you he'd fancied you forever.........

It's in one of the OP's early posts on page 1.

Dust has a good point.

Yeah, he did say he's always fancied me, but then he might just have said that because he was drunk.
I find it very hard to believe any flattering comments made by a man to be perfectly honest.

Dustbunny - yes that all makes sense, theoretically....

I think I may be a little mixed up with all this. Thing is, he's not gone out of his way to contact me this week. I had to make the first move to speak to him after (on Mon eve) and we've not spoken since.

This date on Weds might be a good distraction for me

Couldn't you arrange to meet him at the weekend, lay off the booze and see where the evening takes you? Sorry but I do love a happy ever after!

He sounds very much like someone I know. Is he 37 by any chance