fear I've been dumped by silence YET again

[disappointedandsad]

Have been dating someone for a couple of months. All seemed to be going brilliantly well (I thought). He is kind, intelligent, thoughtful, and generally lovely - or seemed to be. Heard from him last Friday when he said we'd sort out our next date after the end of term. I said that was fine, as was finishing work then for Xmas too, so was fairly free. And nothing since, I text him on Weds but no reply.

I have a horrible feeling I'm not going to hear from him again. This will be about the 6th time I've been dumped silently :(

I really thought he wasn't the type though - his general behaviour is quite gentlemanly, he's not an immature idiot. Plus, a few weeks ago we were watching tv and a famous(ish) singer came on, he said 'that bloke's a complete arse' I asked why and he said that one of his uni friends had dated him, and he had silently dumped her - and what a completely shitty thing that was to do to someone. Which I agreed with.

And now it looks like he's done it to me! Oh, the irony...

is he in the sas? just be very careful op, that's all and remember he already made you feel like shit early on and now defensive. I wish you luck but I still don't like him...

What Tinks said. If someone I was having sex with (that wasn't fwb) didn't answer my text for days, there would have to be a bloody good reason, or I would assume they weren't interested, sorry.

Me too, I'm afraid. He would have to be at death's door.

You know what there's a salacious mob mentality on mn at times,expecting updates
Quite frankly he could gave been dressed up in a basque and called Sally still not mn business
Unless op wants it to be,so she can be as circumspect as she wants,without explanation

hi, i was going to comment the other night and i got distracted. Just wanted to say thats great and hopefully there is no more problems. Everyone deserves a second chance, i know that more than anyone.

Good luck x

Glad to hear he's back in touch OP - hope he likes the pressie

Op I am married to a great man and I gave him a second chance. First time around I didn't think he was interested so when he didn't contact me I dumped him. Only years later did I find out I was far too hasty and he was interested!!!. Wishing you the best xxx

stories always have a beginning, middle and end Scottish.

You misunderstand the premise she doesn't need to tell the end,it's online chat
This isn't a reciprocal she tells,because we read.posters dp don't need it provide ending or update
Op can decide what she disclose on own thread,no obligation to provide ending

I personally like a happy ending, unfortunately, my wise gut says its not. I misunderstand very little these days Scottish.

I don't know- but not giving a reason after 500+ posts seems to say you think it's not a good enough reason.

No one is compelled to undated or disclose on mn,to satisfy anonymous reader curiosity

The OP said the reason would identify him so it makes sense to leave it at that...yes, I too have followed this thread with interest as it's a subject that most of us can relate to and I'd like to know more details (natural curiosity) ...but it really is up to her. I'm glad the thread has been on the whole helpful to OP as a supportive online community, that is what this is supposed to be after all.

varigatedivy - I suspect it's more like the OP thinks we won't think it's a good enough reason. And can't bear it to be picked apart for another 500+ posts. ;)

"A coma? Pfft! My brother was in a coma but still managed to meet his now DW on the astral plane."

Etc

All im saying is I wish the OP the best. The fact that they don't actually have a rapport going on is worrying. For me it would be dump him whether id slept with him or not. To be in awe of someone and allow them 2 or 3 days of silence when needing contact and having to come on mumsnet worried would also be a dump situation....

What would "too identifying" though? That's maddeningly intriguing. God I'm so hopelessly invested in this thread. It's quite unhealthy.

But anyway - identifying?? Jesus what could that be?

Well said, scottish.

This isn't a story, Tinks; you misunderstood that much.

I've got used to the "Update us when you can" and "I'm worried about you" type of request-for-more-information posts, but still by a couple here.

Im also thinking the same, why would it identify him if she said the reason? does he work at the towers?

We all know that she's just swallowed an excuse which isn't good enough and its sad but up to the OP really. I want to shake her and say tell him to go get stuffed but...

of course it isn't a story.... what I was saying and you fully know this is everyone likes to know what happens its very natural...

It could be a good reason.

I'd actually donate a kidney to find out what it was.

(Hoping the OP's bf isn't ill with kidney disease, meaning I've put my foot in it again.)

It must relate to the school he works at? Maybe it's like a swanky private college and they had a big Christmas ball thing, but but terrorists broke in and they were all held at gunpoint for a few days? googling

Oh look. You've all found other threads to go to, the OP is tucked up in bed happily texting her bf, and now it's just... me.

:(

God, some of you are right dementors. You won't be happy until it all goes tits up and she comes back crawling and begging for forgiveness and admitting that he's a wankbadger.

Bloody hell.