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How sure were you REALLY before getting married?

154 replies

Trills · 11/12/2013 20:19

Certain as certain can be?

Not really certain but thought "this is probably the best thing to do, on balance"?

Both? As in, recognising that the most certain that someone can be is to think "this is probably the best, with the limited information that I have"

I'm here :o

OP posts:
SweetSeraphim · 11/12/2013 20:22

Absolutely 100% sure.

We're divorced Grin

NotjustaMummy · 11/12/2013 20:23

Completely and totally. He makes me laugh so hard I can't breathe. He is a foil to my imperfections, reminds me to be kinder than I would be alone. And I totally fancy the arse off him 10 years on.

basketweaver2012 · 11/12/2013 20:24

Sweet that made me chuckle! Same here! Shock

Yama · 11/12/2013 20:25

Worth a punt. Grin

BackforGood · 11/12/2013 20:26

Really REALLY sure here - it just felt so "right" .... 'natural' if you like.

BabyMummy29 · 11/12/2013 20:27

Thought I'd better accept his proposal in case nobody else ever asked me - I was 21.

Needless to say it didn't last

TheGhostOfPortoPast · 11/12/2013 20:28

First time - I wasn't sure at all. And I was right - it lasted about 1 year. 2nd time, I blubbed in the Registry Office and was very sure. We have had our moments but been together 13 years, married 9.

Golddigger · 11/12/2013 20:29

Totally.

Whatnext074 · 11/12/2013 20:29

100% certain, both of us.

Committed for life, one of us.

Just didn't realise there was a sell by date on our vows.

Golddigger · 11/12/2013 20:29

oops. Should have said still married decades later.

FlatsInDagenham · 11/12/2013 20:29

Wasn't sure at all but seemed too late to pull the plug!

Thankfully we are still together 17 years later.

homeanddry · 11/12/2013 20:33

I mistook sure for naive.

whereiseveryone · 11/12/2013 20:33

100% sure and still happily married. Grin

ShoeWhore · 11/12/2013 20:35

About 95%? Been married 14 years so far (touch wood!) and hoping we've many more ahead of us.

batterylow · 11/12/2013 20:35

Not at all sure , I was right to be worried Sad

gettingeasiernow · 11/12/2013 20:36

100% sure about him, not sure I liked the idea of being married though. But I've learned to love that too.

RedundantExpat · 11/12/2013 20:39

very very sure.

notonmyplanet · 11/12/2013 20:39

Totally sure, the relationship felt right, been together 20 years married 17, and still going

resipsa · 11/12/2013 20:40

Not at all - that was in 2000. 13 years on, we had a lovely (child-free!) day today. It would be odd not to have some doubt about so important a decision but trust yourself as you know you best.

Bowlersarm · 11/12/2013 20:44

Certain. Really very certain. Twenty year anniversary coming up. Certain of another 20 years.

KnappShappeyShipwright · 11/12/2013 20:44

We were 95% sure. I reckon the majority of people at the ceremony gave us a year at the most - it was a rushed wedding as we'd only been together 6 months and I was 3 months pregnant with DC1 on the wedding day. Still married after 15 years, although we had some serious doubts and nearly separated after 5 years. Now 100% sure.

MirandaWest · 11/12/2013 20:44

I was sure.

I was wrong

Trinpy · 11/12/2013 20:48

99% sure. The 1% doubt was due to being told repeatedly by divorced people that we were making a mistake to get married when I was only in my 20s and it wouldn't last 6 months. Once we'd actually had the wedding and we were even happier than before it went back up to 100% sure.

Only been married for 2.5 years though so I suppose it could all come crashing down still Grin .

EndoplasmicReticulum · 11/12/2013 20:52

Very sure.

We were together 10 years before getting married, living together for 7 of those. Thought that was long enough to check he was OK.

Completely agree with Tim Minchin though. If I didn't have him, I'd have somebody else.

IThoughtThat · 11/12/2013 20:53

Absolutely 100%. We lived together 7 or 8 years before we got married and have now been married nearly 22 years. Marriage wasn't that important to us.