How sure were you REALLY before getting married?

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Certain as certain can be?

Not really certain but thought "this is probably the best thing to do, on balance"?

Both? As in, recognising that the most certain that someone can be is to think "this is probably the best, with the limited information that I have"

I'm here :o

100%. Like many others... The divorce will be through shortly.

Cannot imagine marrying current DP. It crosses my mind occasionally post orgasm but there would have to be a massive red flag cull for it to be a goer. Good job he doesn't believe in marriage .

Wasn't at all sure on the day. 19 years married now, still not quite sure.

I wasn't particularly sure - 65% maybe? It wasn't really anything to do with him or us, it was more that it's a bloody big decision and I'm not very good at decisions. We got married on our own abroad and as we left we both said we weren't sure I'd be able to go through with it! I don't think I could ever have done a big wedding with guests etc. We sat on the end of a pier with a bottle of champagne the night before our wedding and talked about how weird it all felt. We talked about where we might live, wanting children at some point, wondered how many we'd have, whether they'd be boys or girls etc. I think we even talked about divorce.

Anyway, we got married and nearly 16 years later we're still together and now have a 13 year old son and 10 year old daughter. Married life hasn't been difficult at all. I think we'll always be together but you can never be 100% sure what will happen.

100% sure - had been together 7 years already - he had an affair and left me 5 years later. Now divorced.