How sure were you REALLY before getting married?

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Certain as certain can be?

Not really certain but thought "this is probably the best thing to do, on balance"?

Both? As in, recognising that the most certain that someone can be is to think "this is probably the best, with the limited information that I have"

I'm here :o

Not sure at all, although I denied it in public - gushed falsely about how wonderful he was.

I thought it would be my only chance, and it seemed too difficult to say no (house together, plans for wedding progressing).

What a fool! 12 years we were together, and I have no happy memories with him.

I shall be telling my daughters (and my son) not to marry until they've been with someone two years or more. And be making sure, as far as I'm able, that they have more self-esteem than I did.

charlotte, it's not funny, but your username is rather apt on this thread

100% sure.

I couldn't wait and the night before the wedding, I felt like I used to on Christmas Eve when I was a child. I was sooooooo excited I thought I would burst.

We're still together 24 years later.

100% sure. We got engaged after 2 months and married within the year. Been married nearly 9 years and still going strong! I never had any doubts at all.

MrsCristmas we got engaged after 2 months too and married after nine months

People did think we ought to take a bit more time, but we didn't want to.

100% and still feel the same 5 years later

I was sure. But more in a calm, content way than bounding about shouting 'he's the ONE!!'

We had been arguing the whole summer (we wed in October last year) and I was suffering from a really, really bad flare-up of my anxiety. At one point he got so exasperated, he thought we should cancel/postpone the wedding.

But that had never, ever entered my mind. For me, that would never have been an option. And we've been doing well ever since - taking the rough with the smooth.

Tim Minchin sums it up. I was 100% certain. We'd been dating for a good many years - we were young so didn't jump to marry straight away. We'd each travelled long distances to keep the precious relationship. And as has been said above, we are now amicably divorced.

Quite honestly I never thought it'd last,but it seemed like an interesting thing to experience.

20 years later,I've discovered I was wrong!

95%. I adore DH. He makes me unbelievably happy and I get a little happy flip in my tummy every time I see his wedding ring.

My father badly let me down when he walked out on our family. For this reason there will always be a tiny doubt in the back of my mind.

Before marriage you need to discuss your long term views about family life, careers and how to run your home, leisure time and finances. It sounds completely unromantic but these are some of the issues that can cause huge tensions in relationships.

I would have happily continued living with DH but he is a little older than me and was ready for marriage. I was 100% sure I wanted it to be me.

100% sure. And that really helps me during the tougher times.

Not at all: spent my whole honeymoon thinking WHAT HAVE I DONE???? compounded by the fact that friends and family did not approve!
15 years later we are fairly happy - two adored kids. I cannot imagine ever having married (could not imagine being bothered but dh asked & knew he really wanted it!) anyone else and he turned out to be a much more decent guy than friends and family thought (we'd only been together for 5 years before)
It has always played on my mind though that friends from college had boyfriends that they "knew was the one" and I often wondered how they turned out and how they are getting on 20 years later......

100% sure.

I was so happy on our wedding day, one of the best days of my life!

I knew the day after our first date, which was the day after we first kissed. 19th of December 1986.

We were 17

Still married now (cos that bits probably quite important)

I was not at all sure. Still not sure if it was what I should have done. But I did it and once done it's done for ever. Been married 35 years.

Deep down I had doubts. Lasted 10 years. About 4 of them were happy.

I'm not sure I was 100% sure. I didn't really know to be honest. For me getting married wasn't a huge commitment. Having a child with somebody seemed to be a much bigger deal (and when I got married I was far, far from ready to make that commitment to him).

Over 13 years later he is a great DH and an amazing father to our year old DD. I'm very lucky.

Oh, completely. I was divorced by 25.

I was totally sure, with no doubts at all.

Been married for 12 years now. Still sure it was the right thing to do .

100% Sure! Ok...so we're not married yet but we have the date set for May 2015 and we can't wait! We've been together almost 8 years now, lived together for 6 of those and have 2 kiddies...so in some cases it does feel like something we HAVE to do, especially to others.

I always thought that when I got married Id be excited about the 'day' but to be honest i'm more excited that i'm going to be his wife.

I'll be 25 when we marry, he'll be 41. Match made in heaven ;)

100 percent sure, knew he was 'the one' on first date

am divorced

I was 100% sure. He was maybe less. We are still married but separated - lasted two years. I took my vows seriously, he on the other hand didn't.