He called me a 'fat cunt', then said 'just reacting to you'.......

[oopsadaisyme]

So, followed some advice and told my OH how I was feeling about some stuff, hoping for a chat to resolve -

He went totally on the defensive and saw me as 'attacking him' (apparently), started the name calling, and I walked away -

I have put on some poundage recently, and he knows it's upsetting me, so this has really hit a nerve............

I'm not one to take offence at 'words', never have been, sticks and stones and all that, but this killed me, it was so nasty and ill placed, obviously there's never a right time to call someone this, but i'm quite hardened to certain things -

Needless to say, told him to do one, not answering the phone, nothing, I really tried with him, I did, but do not want him here right now, possibly ever, just out of order.............!!! sad, but not so much, prick!!

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math locks have been changed (had no say in that one, my lovely friend did it, for reasons you have stated, security thing x)

I love my Iphone (lol!) but have been advised to just keep open, not responded, and forward ones that may be necessary -

He is trying the 'nice stuff' (no apologies btw, just 'forgiving me for being argumentative')

If I want him back, all I do is have to ask apparently -

No, not replying, and hell no -

All you have to do is ask? Don't trip over in your haste will you?

OP - when the penny starts to drop that you mean it, it's going to get very tough indeed. Keep posting if it helps. x

ha ha! he forgives you for being argumentative. I'm glad you can see through that for the classic piece of manipulation that it is.

He forgives you? Bless. Well done for not replying.
Just remember, any insults, any digs and jibes are irrelevant because his opinion is worth nothing in light of the Christmas he is putting you and your DCs through so there is no need to engage with him.

Brace yourself though. Without you he has nothing and he isn't going to let you go easily because putting you down is all that he has to make him feel good about himself.

Sending you Iron Lady vibes (non political).

That is absolutely hilarious! You are forgiven are you? What a huge relief that must be That has got to be one of the worst attempts at manipulation I have ever seen, he isnt even very clever is he?!

As for wanting him back.....words fail me!

I'm so glad for posting that on here - think If I had been on my own with those texts would have started to question some stuff x

Thanks x

I love my best mate, I really do, but I don't want to be the 'case' who's going to her for xmas cos she's lost everything - being home has really been an eye opener -

I'll visit, but want me and kids to have Christmas at home - I'll not be ousted, just wrong -

Get a different sim and keep your current one for him only. Use the new sim for everything else. Only put 'his' sim in when you feel strong enough, or when you know you have to. Preferably with someone else around who can read all his texts and delete the irrelevant abusive ones before you see them.

(just as I'm opening up) am also two weeks late -

Think it must be stress or something, but wouldn't that be the icing on the cake -

Have a termination and don't even discuss it with him.

You do not need to have any more links to him. Get on with the rest of your life now.

I mean, if it comes to it. Hopefully just stress.

mump prob just stress, if not have suffered missc before -

Either way, never a termination, could just never do, but he's not here, or will know, about anything, whichever way -

but prob just stress, don't want to think right now xx

I can understand your feelings on termination after a m/c, been there done that :(

But you do need to find out if you are pg as soon as possible so you can get plans in place. Obviously he will soon find out if you decide to keep it, and that will open a whole new can of worms, not least you potentially taking him back so you are not alone with a new baby. If you do find out that you are then I would recommend counselling and getting in touch with Womens Aid. His behaviour is controlling and abusive and you wouldnt be the first pregnant women they have helped through ending an abusive relationship.

Thinking of you.

Bogey ahhhh, forget I posted, just on my mind xxxx

Early doors - don't mention xxx sorry

Either anything, no taking back, no way no how - xx

daisy good to hear from you no advice to give just support :) you're doing so amazingly well and the cheek of him to 'forgive' you? What a tool.

Stay strong glad you have good support in RL.

I tried to say to a coworker regarding putting recycled stuff in general waste. He told me to fuck off and called me a fucking prick in front of 2 members of staff. I did react saying anymore of that I take you outside and kick your arse. I was very surprised the way he reacted and I apologised for reacting but he didn't. Should I say to my boss or just ignore it.

@oopsadaisyme

I've just welled up reading your comments about your baby and you spending hours screaming in the bathroom. I am so sorry for your loss and absolutely aghast that this piece of shit man would stoop so low. I've suffered a miscarriage last year and if my DP ever said that to me I'd want blood, his.

Please don't lose your strength and let him home, he has overstepped the mark. His initial comments were bad enough but that is beyond the pale. He is a sick and disturbed individual and doesn't deserve a lovely wife and children

I hope you're OK

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My goodness, what a vile thing to say.
He obviously doesn't want to have proper communication with you. That is soooooo frustrating, not to mention hurtful.

Walk away if you can.

Hi hun my partner called me fat ugly to losse the weight or be with somone else he even sed I don't look like I use to and he knows I'm on depression tablets wich is part of my weight gain I'm so upset he keeps on saying I'm like Vicki pollard cuz I'm ginger I feel horrible
I really wish I had ur determination I haven't got the heart to tell him to leave but he keeps saying hell leave he don't care and he don't love me anymore I'm so broken but keep sticking with it can u give me some advice please xxx

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