He called me a 'fat cunt', then said 'just reacting to you'.......

[oopsadaisyme]

So, followed some advice and told my OH how I was feeling about some stuff, hoping for a chat to resolve -

He went totally on the defensive and saw me as 'attacking him' (apparently), started the name calling, and I walked away -

I have put on some poundage recently, and he knows it's upsetting me, so this has really hit a nerve............

I'm not one to take offence at 'words', never have been, sticks and stones and all that, but this killed me, it was so nasty and ill placed, obviously there's never a right time to call someone this, but i'm quite hardened to certain things -

Needless to say, told him to do one, not answering the phone, nothing, I really tried with him, I did, but do not want him here right now, possibly ever, just out of order.............!!! sad, but not so much, prick!!

Don't apologise. No need.

You can vent to us, enjoy some daft humour from the lovely Ant and Dec and forget that silly bastard for a little while at least. I wonder if he knows the damage he's caused. I feel it's only a matter of time before he changes tack and the grovelling begins x

math yep, stopping crying now, mates en route - (hopefully coming 'armed with vino!!)

This relationship has ended - and yes, my mates will also possibly come armed with black bags, (and knowing them, black bags wont be necessary after I show texts lol)

sigh, this should have ended some time ago.....

Don't beat yourself up. You have no reason to regret how you were in the past. You acted with integrity and you tried. Best of all, you stayed true to yourself and stood up for yourself, and that is the best and most valuable thing any mother could do, for herself or for her children.

Yes there are short term problems. But in the long term, sticking up for yourself and not taking any more is the better path.

Oh, pictish, Any and cloud, thank you so much, your lovely xxx

Math - what a lovely post, thank you so much xx

feeling better, down to you posters, thanks so much xx

(Have to say, my bessie mate now here with armed with alot of wine and 'fuming' - haven't shown her texts yet, feeling alot better! xx)

Good for you, I hope your lovely friend helps you cheer up tonight

BOF she's brill, I can still post on here cos she's busy on her Iphone slagging him off to everyone (maybe shouldn't have let her read my phone lol, god help him!!)

But we have wine, haha!!

Good for you oppsadaisy - you don't need him in your life saying such awful things to you whenever he feels like it

Your mate sounds much better company

Personaly I would keep the texts To show divorce lawyer or court. Could you print them and let best mate keep them for you?

He sounds útterly dispicable, hope your friends help you To feel better.

Ahh, juggling, but how lovely some MN mates have been xx what lovely people you are, you don't know me from adam, but how nice and supportive you've been xx

Got a feeling things may get worse before better for me, but for now, feel i've got some really lovely people to natter too if that happens -

thanks to you all x

Keep talking to us whenever you want to or need to. Glad your friends there to keep you company x

Adora I've just given my friend my phone, she's on one (which is why I'm still posting on here)- her other half a solicitor, so think that's all taken care of, I don't want to ask right now, she's fuming!-

She's just handed me a large glass of vino lol!!!

Think I'll leave her to it.........

Your friend sounds fab :)
Lean on her for support oops and how bloody handy that her oh is a solicitor
Shout, scream, vent and cry as much as you need to, wash that despicable cunt (sorry I've used it again) and his venom out of your life.
Relax, enjoy your company and your , you deserve it, you're doing brilliantly ((big hugs))

Personaly I would keep the texts To show divorce lawyer or court. Could you print them and let best mate keep them for you?

Yes to this, of course, sorry.

I still have all the texts exH sent me that could be used, even though they were transcribed by the police.

Just make sure you don't read them again.

Your mate sounds great. :)

Hope you're ok. What an utter wanker. I've got a hideous temper, but I would NEVER say anything like that to anybody.

Please don't apologise, you have nothing to say sorry for, you're amongst friends here x

Glad you have such supportive friends Oops, and yes, keep venting here if you need To.

((Hugs)) and moré for you and your best friend.

You know what, I've never felt so low as I did today, but with my mate (screaming lol) in her Iphone in my kitchen, and reading your comments on here, feel a bit overwhelmed with such lovely support from some really caring comments -

I cant thank you enough xx

PLEASE don't have him back. Please. You deserve better.

And I'm sorry for your loss

The first day of your life without him.

Despite the fact that he never stops putting you down, he'll cling on to the right to move back in and abuse you some more. I'm sure that kicking you when you're down has been more satisfactory for him than it has been for you. So, prepare for him to fight hard to move back in. Can your friend stay with you until he gets the message that you have had an epiphany here and won't be deliberately upset by a cruel man again, at least not in a 'relationship'. I'm sure he'll be on the sidelines insulting you for some time to come, but it gets better, they do fade away in to the woodwork and under their rocks in time (quickly if you don't bother responding and defending yourself(

ps, it's a good thing to tell a rl friend, you've shown her the texts, she will see him for what he really is and when your friends know the dreadful truth it's impossible to construct a denial.

So, good move

ps, just passing on the baton here.

I had my force field of denial pierced by the insight of strangers on the internet. I might be still living with him, miserable as sin. Instead I'm in peace in my own place happy watching 'wimmen's shit' on tv.