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Should I be threatened by a vibrator

190 replies

booboo4 · 02/12/2013 20:14

Basically I think I am getting side-lined due to a vibrator and today increased that fear.

To cut a long story short, I have a rather high libido and I am aware of this and try to control it. My GF wasn't feeling great this morning (flu/cold) but I was rather horny. I decided against making this obvious as I could tell she wasn't in the mood....very snappy with me, telling me she feels like crap etc and decided to pleasure myself. Subsequently I have found out she decided to do this to herself aswell after I left for work.

Am I being paranoid, but both of us pleasuring ourselves in the morning at different times surely isn't right. If we both wanted to have that 'sensation' surely we could have shared it...this isn't the first time this has happened.

Any advice would be welcome.

OP posts:
TheDoctrineOfSanta · 02/12/2013 23:08

But vibrators were REALLY rubbish in 1382. They were horse drawn. Xmas Grin

MillyRules · 02/12/2013 23:08

he he!!! Ok Ladies, I will bow out now.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/12/2013 23:08

Some people like horse play, so I'm told, doctrine. There was a whole episode of Bones on it.

MistAllChuckingFrighty · 02/12/2013 23:08

Can't we go back to shooting Op's bollocks in a barrel ? < whine >

TheDoctrineOfSanta · 02/12/2013 23:10

I was going for horse drawn as motors hadn't been invented.

I can't THINK what you mean

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/12/2013 23:10

join - yeah, but I imagine everyone knows the difference you're talking about, right? I know what you mean. I just don't think it negates the scientific facts, which are not saying 'how dare you think you enjoy this, you are lying!', but are only saying 'well, nope, there isn't a g-spot the way cosmo magazine tells 18 year olds there is'.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/12/2013 23:10

I rarely mean anything, doctrine. I find it safer that way.

Now, where were we with shooting bollocks? I feel it's unfair on the OP to target a small area, but ...

TheDoctrineOfSanta · 02/12/2013 23:11

We could put some bollocks and some Ben wa balls in a barrel and play unlucky dip, Mist?

MistAllChuckingFrighty · 02/12/2013 23:11

I wonder when gas-powered came in ?

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/12/2013 23:12

I feel the less gentlemanly gentlemen would approve of gas-powered, somehow.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/12/2013 23:12

Not very sexy though, perhaps.

Maybe that's it, OP? Do you have unfortunate emissions of noctural gas while you're trying to get it up?

Offred · 02/12/2013 23:13

I've never said an orgasm through PIV is impossible, just that it is not from the g spot.

Just because orgasms feel different does not mean the g spot exists.

Orgasms feel different when you are anally stimulated but they are still clitoral orgasms...

Really, have not said I don't believe you orgasm during PIV at any stage...

Don't think it is wise on a thread where the problem may well be the things Anne Koedt talks about to bang on about g spot orgasms which are not scientifically credible and which might just perpetuate the op's original problem... If the problem is not that she just had a cold and is what he fears.

MistAllChuckingFrighty · 02/12/2013 23:13

< snort >

JoinYourPlayfellows · 02/12/2013 23:15

"yeah, but I imagine everyone knows the difference you're talking about, right?"

Do they? I don't know. I hear a lot of women don't climax through penetrative sex at all.

"I just don't think it negates the scientific facts"

Well, there is a difference between the scientific facts, and the particular interpretation of those facts which is being offered here.

Not many nerve ending in the vagina, no evidence of a "g spot" - great, I'll go along with that.

Vaginal orgasm impossible, no sensation in vagina, people who say they feel these things are just idiots who read too many women's magazines - er, do fuck off please and stop being a dick.

TheDoctrineOfSanta · 02/12/2013 23:15
  • it's an Ivor The Wank Engine vibrator!
Offred · 02/12/2013 23:18

No-one has said anyone is an idiot. Do calm down and try reading it again.

MistAllChuckingFrighty · 02/12/2013 23:18

Clitty Clitty Bang Bang has a nice internal combustion ring to it...

MistAllChuckingFrighty · 02/12/2013 23:19

< psst > I sorta implied the OP was an idiot.

Offred · 02/12/2013 23:20

Ah well I missed that.

MistAllChuckingFrighty · 02/12/2013 23:20

You certainly did, Offy Xmas Smile

Offred · 02/12/2013 23:22

Ah it was all the sarcastic italics... Nice... Leverette was straight in there though... Missed that too!

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/12/2013 23:23

join - true, I think lots of women don't orgasm through PIV. But I should think they know what you're talking about? I mean, I know lesbians who know what you're talking about, come on!

It doesn't mean the vagina has a g spot that is like the clitoris, is all. And that was the idea that people had back in the 90s when this went mainstream.

It doesn't mean that stimulation there doesn't feel good or result in a different kind of orgasm, it just means that the bunch of nerves someone said were there, aren't there.

I don't really get why it's an issue.

TheDoctrineOfSanta · 02/12/2013 23:23

Anyway, night all, time for my relaxation routine Xmas Wink

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/12/2013 23:23

mist - I must agree in the strongest terms with your sort-of implication.

MistAllChuckingFrighty · 02/12/2013 23:23

And now he has gawwwn < sad face >

I bet he has a luvvverly rosy glow now, though.