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Should I be threatened by a vibrator

190 replies

booboo4 · 02/12/2013 20:14

Basically I think I am getting side-lined due to a vibrator and today increased that fear.

To cut a long story short, I have a rather high libido and I am aware of this and try to control it. My GF wasn't feeling great this morning (flu/cold) but I was rather horny. I decided against making this obvious as I could tell she wasn't in the mood....very snappy with me, telling me she feels like crap etc and decided to pleasure myself. Subsequently I have found out she decided to do this to herself aswell after I left for work.

Am I being paranoid, but both of us pleasuring ourselves in the morning at different times surely isn't right. If we both wanted to have that 'sensation' surely we could have shared it...this isn't the first time this has happened.

Any advice would be welcome.

OP posts:
flatbellyfella · 02/12/2013 22:38

The Old lady across the road had quite a glow on her face at the Bus stop this morning, I thought it was make up........ ... Now I am not so sure......"I wonder" !!!'

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/12/2013 22:39

Though, before bowing out, I will take a minute to snigger at pacific's post.

TheDoctrineOfSanta · 02/12/2013 22:39

Well, maybe. But OP also mentioned we should trust them re the orgasms because of the kind of partnership it was.

PacificDogwood · 02/12/2013 22:39

Good grief, can we not just all enjoy our own orgasms without making it a competition?

Op, I hope you are finding this enlightening Hmm

PacificDogwood · 02/12/2013 22:40
LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/12/2013 22:40

Wait up, we're meant to be enjoying them? Are you sure? That doesn't sound ladylike to me.

JoinYourPlayfellows · 02/12/2013 22:40

"There is a school of thought that believes female ejaculation is simply having a rather nice piss."

That school of thought is wrong. It's not piss, it's vaginal fluid.

Or did some journo friend of mine convince me that I didn't know what piss smells like? :o

That's only happened to me once though. I only heard the name for it afterwards, so I don't think any journo convinced me of anything.

MistAllChuckingFrighty · 02/12/2013 22:40

LRD, you are blushing ? Grin Whatchoo doing as well as typing ?

Offred · 02/12/2013 22:41

Of course it is possible to need other stimulation in addition to clitoral stimulation, also possible to have clitoral orgasm through psychological stimulation too...

However, vaginal orgasm makes no scientific sense. The vagina is not sensitive... Anatomically... And it would make no sense for it to be sensitive either because of it's function in birthing babies... Imagine if it was full of nerve endings like the clitoris... Ow!

MistAllChuckingFrighty · 02/12/2013 22:41

Can't we get back to winding OP up ? You lot are no bloody fun < grump >.

TheDoctrineOfSanta · 02/12/2013 22:42

Mist, vaginal lubrication isn't wee so why isntbejaculate just a rush of lubrication?

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/12/2013 22:42

Oh, the usual, mist, researching scrotal boils and how often they compel poor innocent men to seek odd forms of gratification on the net. Wink

MistAllChuckingFrighty · 02/12/2013 22:43

What a coincidence, LRD, that's exactly what I am doing Grin

TheDoctrineOfSanta · 02/12/2013 22:43

Oh, sorry Mist.

When I asked if GF had a seven year itch, I actually meant a seven inch itch.

Xmas Grin
MillyRules · 02/12/2013 22:44

I think my point is that of course women can have G spot orgasms but you havnt experienced them and that women can and do ejaculate through G spot stimulation, again something you havnt experienced. Just because you havnt though it doesn't mean it doesn't happen for others.

MistAllChuckingFrighty · 02/12/2013 22:45

Funny that, I thought you meant jock itch

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/12/2013 22:46

Really, mist? Did you know they can get all painful and itchy and sore when you rub them?

Imagine, boils on your penis. Ouch.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/12/2013 22:46

I could link to pics in research journals if it'd be helpful?

Always the soul of helpfulness here.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/12/2013 22:47

(No, I am lying now. You'll just have to imagine pus-infected penises. Especially you, OP.)

MistAllChuckingFrighty · 02/12/2013 22:47

Milly, we get you love. You have stupendous orgasms, and you are well sexayyyy.

Now, getting back to business, I want to know if Op is still threatened by a bendy piece of silicone that buzzes.

JoinYourPlayfellows · 02/12/2013 22:50

It's quite horrible to be told that your experiences are fake and you only have them because you are so stupid and suggestible that you invent orgasms because a journalist told you to.

There is something quite disturbing to me about women being told that their sexual experiences are not valid because science hasn't proved them them to be "real".

TheDoctrineOfSanta · 02/12/2013 22:51

LRD, you have JUST returned from some kind of real life interaction (viva, schmiver I say). Don't threaten us with diseased penises (penii?) or we might forget we missed you.

Offred · 02/12/2013 22:53

Based on what evidence is my point. I'm not arguing that the g spot doesn't exist because I haven't had a g spot orgasm but because the anatomy of the vagina and psychology of sex has been studied and no credible evidence to support it's existence has been found. However there is plenty which supports it cannot exist IMO.

I have ejaculated during an orgasm (no it was definitely not wee), more than once, it was during a multiple orgasm from clitoral stimulation, most recently about 2/3 weeks ago... Ejaculation is not a proof that the g spot exists. I think it is probably just lying on your back and cumming a lot - muscles contracting. I can suck water in/shoot water out of my vagina lying in the bath too, sure that's related...

None of it to do with the supposed g spot...

If all you are really saying is you have a great orgasm from PIV alone then again I'll say that just it feeling different doesn't mean it is a g spot orgasm... What you report is an anecdotal experience, not evidence of the existence of the g spot, for which there is no credible scientific evidence...

But yes, lovely orgasms... Meh... Doesn't matter where they come from to us personally. However to the op I'm sure it will matter if the reason he is intimidated by the vibrator is his partner has been faking vaginal orgasms...

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/12/2013 22:55

Eh, I dunno.

It is crap to be told your experience is fake. Mind you, I never knew that it was necessary to make up a pseudo-scientific name for something that feels good. I can accept scientists can say 'there is no such thing as a g-spot, defined as a place like the clitoris but located in the vagina'. That's something you could find out scientifically. It doesn't mean we can't say whatever we like feels good, and I don't really see the point arguing about it.

Now, I agree with mist, do we have a peer-reviewed journal article on the fearsome properties of silicone and/or buzzing, and has the OP trotted (or whatever other verb) off or just gone quiet?

MillyRules · 02/12/2013 22:56

Mist sorry its just that I cant believe that in this day and age a woman can think that her vagina is not sensitive to sexual stimulation and that women cant have g spot orgasm and orgasm through penetrative sex alone.
I guess that if a woman cant or hasn't yet experienced it then she would believe that they don't exist.