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The dating thread 66

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LividofLondon · 02/12/2013 16:43

Seeing as thread 65 is now full.

Nothing to report here. I'm still in almost daily contact with MrK but due to his work was not able to meet this weekend. We're hoping to arrange something for this coming weekend, so fingers crossed. I keep reminding myself that every-other weekend is fine, but it just seems such a long wait in between Sad

Seeing as I'm trying to keep my cool and my plan was only for something casual, I'm still looking for more dates. But there's no-one I like online at the moment [sigh]

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girliefriend · 06/12/2013 09:24

O.kay so having decided I wouldn't text him last night I cracked at about 11pm and text him Grin just said 'hi not sure whats going on as haven't heard from you for a couple of days, are we still on for drinks fri night?'

He text back pretty quick, apologised and said that work had been 'mad' and yes he was still on for tonight.

So it looks like date 4 is still on - eek!

He still doesn't know I am childfree all night though Wink which reminds me I really should be clearing up not mumsnetting!!

PyjamaDayToday · 06/12/2013 11:48

Off to meet Mr Rich soon for first date. Meeting in a public, but unfamiliar (to me), setting so a tiny bit more anxious than I'd usually be. But generally calm and taking it in my stride Smile

< ultra cool girl emoticom >

SoleSorceress · 06/12/2013 12:49

Hi

I met a guy online recently. Moody, odd and wasn't interested in.me. We called it off.last night but I.miss him. Wtf is that about?

He was still pining over an onlune relationship that had ended 17 months ago!

We are very different but I felt I enjoyed tge attention.

Back to feeling lonely and lost again.

Nobody else to tell :(

We didnt.meet in.reality as.i do.not jump into bed with online guys as a booty call.

Im sick.of feeling rejected even when they are nit right for me.

Bastards!

SoleSorceress · 06/12/2013 12:50

Oh and anotger guy I chat to is 33, lives with his mother and in love with a work colleague.

Will I ever.meet anyone?

Time will tell x

superdooperpenguin · 06/12/2013 14:19

Hormonal - not my place at all to say this I know but... ditch, ditch, ditch. He is unreliable and messing with your feelings - you know you deserve better.

Girlie - have fun and let us know if it's a sleepover date!

Pyjama - how did date go?

Sorceress - It's hard but you try to follow 'the rules' and don't let yourself get emotionally attached until you've met lots of times. OD requires a very thick skin at times!

I have deleted my POF profile - it felt liberating! I need a break from it all, I'm feeling jaded and a bit grumpy! Going to date myself for a while Grin I'll stick around and poke my nose in give advice for a while though!

Poffedoff · 06/12/2013 14:27

Sometimes we just have to take matters into our own hands GirlieWink
Enjoy the night... Don't forget the updates!

Poffedoff · 06/12/2013 14:28

Super, hopefully you'll have one or two RL encounters over Xmas to help get your mojo back on track Smile

Poffedoff · 06/12/2013 14:33

In my experience Sole, you can get caught up in very intense, deep online relationships with people where you both open up far more quickly than you would in RL...
They tend to enjoy the free counselling provided by a sympathetic and warm person but never have any intention of meeting up...
Try meeting up sooner with guys who interest you, nobody's saying you have to sleep with them on the first date!

SweetSeraphim · 06/12/2013 14:48

Didn't you have a long-term online relationship with someone yourself recently, Sole?

Poffedoff · 06/12/2013 15:00

Sorry to hear that Hormonal, had you accepted the date yet? How was it left between you?
Maybe this has happened for a reason though, mrbrowneyes could turn out to be a slow boiler Smile

girliefriend · 06/12/2013 15:57

Arghh, I'm not feeling well - my IBS has been awful today and now feeling really drained and tired.

Really don't want to cancel but am not feeling in the mood for a date or anything else for that matter!!

Queenofthedrivensnow · 06/12/2013 20:14

Hi all sorry for disappearing.
Right so it's date 10 with gap yah later on. It was going ok but god I dunno something's not right. He never stops talking. We have not dtd neither has he met my dc though I have met his. He refers to me as his gf. I don't like it. We arnt there yet. I think if I tell him that it logos like rejection. I am getting a bit weird about it.

SoleSorceress · 06/12/2013 21:18

Sweet that lasted 3 years and he is American, ended a few weeks ago.

You're spot on Poffe

Free counselling service FUCKING TWATS

dontcallmehon · 06/12/2013 21:35

Geeky is taking me to Paris!!

girliefriend · 06/12/2013 22:12

Flipping heck dont Envy

You're a lucky girl Smile

ladygoingGaga · 06/12/2013 22:22

Sounds like he is annoying you queen which is not a good sign and date 10 and no sex Hmm

Wonderful [dont] you must be on cloud 9 Grin

Good luck girlie hope it turns into a sleepover

I'm still on the sofa, given up for a while.

dontcallmehon · 07/12/2013 02:52

He's told me he loves me and we're in a relationship and we're taking profiles down!

Stupidhead · 07/12/2013 04:41

Don't!!!! So excited for you!!! I'm up at this stupid hour due to snoring - I'd forgotten what men can be like that way! Him btw, not me ;)

dontcallmehon · 07/12/2013 07:05

I know, me too! So sorry I haven't contributed much to the thread lately, I've been a bit wrapped up in all this! Just dug out my old passport - need to sort a new one...

Hormonalhell · 07/12/2013 07:46

Awwww that's lovely Don't Smile

Gives hope to us all !

TortillasAndChocolate · 07/12/2013 11:26

Hi all. So after giving up on it, I'm back on POF. But starting to wonder if I should give match or my single friend a go instead. Is anyone else on either of those?

I'm messaging someone on POF at the moment who seems ok - he's not setting my world on fire, but in my experience, when they do, it's often a disappointment when you meet them in real life.

I was messaging someone else but haven't replied to his last message as he asked me to tell him something about me that no one else on the planet knows. I couldn't think of anything either deep and profound, or hilariously funny to say, and thought maybe we weren't on the same wavelength anyway so I haven't replied. But maybe I've judged too quickly...! Although he's also bald and I can't decide how I feel about that Grin

So girls, do any of you send the first message or do you wait to be messaged?

Hormonalhell · 07/12/2013 11:55

If I like them, I send the first message yes. Why wait eh?Grin

PyjamaDayToday · 07/12/2013 12:12

Sole - I think its best to just not involve yourself on any level with guys - even its only ever going to be online - who have no interest/are weird etc. You deserve better than that.

girlie - get well soon.

Super - enjoy the sofa for a while.

Queen - I was in a LTR with a guy who talked a lot. As I'm a good listener this meant he did all the talking and I did all the listening and I got so resentful as it was all him, him, him. Recently heard this way of being described a conversation masturbation which I think summed it up self absorbed tosser

My date yesterday with Mr Rich went alright. I didn't fancy him, but I never do. He was nice but I'm aware I haven't bothered checking the site or my OD phone ( I have one just for OD Blush) to check if he wants a second date - I'm not that fussed one way or the other.

niceupthedance · 07/12/2013 12:47

Hello thread, hope it is ok to have a bit of a mope, I'm an occasional poster. So I've been on tinder and having quite a laugh, just chatting to a few people so far, no dates but lots of matches to pursue!

Anyway this morning I was just flicking through and saw my fuck buddy on there (of 9 months). My first thought was 'oh no, etiquette nightmare!' and I wondered whether to say no (as we don't go on dates and it is a dating site) or yes, as we are dtd already anyway. So I said yes - he had said yes too so we matched. I just sent him a message saying LOL!!! but it's actually made me feel a bit miserable that we will never go out on a date.

Before you say 'these things always go wrong', I know we have no future as he is looking for his future wife and kids, I am not interested in marriage or more children, and he is a bit of a sexist pig anyway. It's just that it feels so futile sometimes trying to find someone when you already know you hit it off with a person in most other ways already. I guess this is one of the downsides of just doing casual... Sigh

Sorry, carry on - just needed to moan!

TortillasAndChocolate · 07/12/2013 13:13

What is tinder? Is this the thing that's linked to Facebook?