The dating thread 66

[LividofLondon]

Seeing as thread 65 is now full.

Nothing to report here. I'm still in almost daily contact with MrK but due to his work was not able to meet this weekend. We're hoping to arrange something for this coming weekend, so fingers crossed. I keep reminding myself that every-other weekend is fine, but it just seems such a long wait in between

Seeing as I'm trying to keep my cool and my plan was only for something casual, I'm still looking for more dates. But there's no-one I like online at the moment [sigh]

[Hormonalhell]

Thanks everyone, just feeling sorry for myself and listening to Perfect Year by Dina Caroll (love that song) with tears rolling down my face. It doesn't normally bother me but he really did seem the most genuine man I've met and I've met a few these past few years

My gut was telling me Saturday that this was my future how wrong can you be?

[sparrowfart]

Anyone mind if I come in and sit down?
Been online dating since May, had some fun and plenty of disappointment :(
Hormonal your story is resonating with me. They blow hot and super keen and say all the right things then pooof gone. This has happened twice with men that I really really had high hopes for. Latest one fading away as I type. Had other unsuitable dates as well as those two but feeling a bit dispirited frankly.
So on the sofa until after Christmas then back to it...
So... the ones that are all keen and seem almost, almost Mr Right, then they lose interest and then disappear... it's them not me, right? Makes you feel sh*tty that they find something lacking in you or something better in someone else.
Good job I'm tough as old boots

[Hormonalhell]

Sparrow nice to know it's not only me who gets the a*holes

Yes think I need to have a break for awhile. It's never got to me this much before

[sparrowfart]

Come sit on the sofa with me. I can't risk feeling like this over Christmas so I'm out for a while and going to play a different game in the new year.
I know I'll be OK in a week, but he was really nice
Going to flirt outrageously with real live men all Christmas and then start afresh in January. Going to be a No Shit Sparrow.

[JustALittleGreen]

That's the spirit!

I reckon jammy has found a girlfriend, his profile is gone and no contact. I don't know why he felt like he had to lie but there you go.

I've been exchanging messages with a couple of non-starters that have now petered out. One guy is messaging me, seems sweet but don't think there'll be anything in it. Just asked another guy on a date. Erk. Am feeling very uncertain though. Feel like no-one will ever want me and I'm just top crap to attract anyone decent :(

[kscience]

Hello all,

New to this forum, have lurked a bit. Single mum just started with the online dating thing after 3 years of singledom.

SO what advice too a newbie too OD?

[dontcallmehon]

I think, kscience be resilient and never give up hope. I thought it was impossible, had some awful experiences like some of the others on here and then, fingers crossed, met someone a bit special. That makes all the pain worth it.

[kscience]

HI newbie to this forum have lurked a bit.

Also a newbie to OD, single mum, last relationship about 3 yrs go. Any advice about OD? Things to avoid? Things to do?

[kscience]

WHOOPS sorry for double posting

OK so what is the worst I can expect? Best I can hope for?

[dontcallmehon]

Worst -disappearers, sex addicts, penis pics, emotional manipulators, cancelled dates, crushed hopes. Best - you fall in love with an amazing amazing guy who loves you too :) It's totally worth it in my opinion...

[dontcallmehon]

Oh God, he knows I'm on here. I'm hoping he won't find me. If he does, geeky - that wasn't about you. You know that was just the alcohol talking the other night . And if he does find me, I'll know. I can read him like a book...

[ladygoingGaga]

And not forgetting the married arseholed dont

It must be worth it though, as stupidhead and dont currently prove

I've had a better day, found out I was successful in a promotion interview I thought I did terribly at god knows how I did it.

So I'm over the moon tonight, just no one to share it with, literally sat on the sofa on my own kind of celebrating with a cuppa!

[superdooperpenguin]

Hormonal - I'm so sorry :( it's happened to most of us on here at some point, it's like OD means you're exempt from all manners. You deserve better and you will do better! Onwards and upwards.

sparrow - I'm on the sofa with you and planning to flirt outrageously all Christmas... Even though everyone I'll be out with is old or married!

kscience - welcome! Just be prepared for a lot of emotional retards if my experiment is anything to go by so far!!

dont - eeek!

Still firmly planted on the sofa here! Having a love affair with crap food and crap tv!

[kscience]

OK so need to source a tracking device for disappeaers, chastity belt for sex addicts, rhino skin for emotional Manipulators, not too worried by cancelled dates and crushed hopes...that's all par for the course.

Should I be disappointed not to have received penis pics?

OD Seems to be the "done thing" and all the men my age now spend Sat/Sun night at home sat in front of TV/computer screen

Will join you all with cuppa and junk food

[superdooperpenguin]

Kscience - don't wish the penis pic upon yourself! I am being stalked online by a man wanting "epic sex"! Stick with the tea and junk food ;)

[Poffedoff]

Gaga... Is that the interview you drove away from in tears?? So delighted for you... Huge congratulations ??
Dontcallme my only concern with geeky finding you is that he'll know you call him geeky!!
Think a bane change for him is in order pronto...lol

[Poffedoff]

Name change.. not bane!

[dontcallmehon]

Ah poffed, I call him geeky to his face. He calls himself geeky too....

[sparrowfart]

kscience I am beginning to realise that there isn't any point in tracking the disappearers, just let 'em go. Chances are they'll be back and then you can take great pleasure in telling them to bugger off.
My only advice is to just be careful with your heart. OD is a whole different ball game to normal dating I have found. I have a heart of stone now!!

Sooper - the great thing about OD is that I don't think I would have felt very flirty this time last year, but the 'you're gorgeous' messages really do make you feel quite fabulous, and for that alone OD is worth it

Anyway, sofa comfy and am staying put with and Quality Street but already feeling better for my break (only been 4 days!) and will be raring to go come January. Heartened too by the tales of love on the thread. There is hope!

[PyjamaDayToday]

The Rules:

1. Develop a thick skin
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon
3. It's all BS until it actually happens
4. Trust your gut instinct
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. Loo update is mandatory

[Stupidhead]

Hugs for hormonal and hellos to the newbies! Here's a little story all about how...(see that'll be stuck in your head all day now!)...anyway. One frosty Halloween three years ago I was kinda dating a guy for a couple of weeks. He texted literally nonstop which was nice then 'boosh' changed his mind (we had dtd - it was rubbish but yknow..). I had flu and was feeling pathetic and my kids were away with sperm donor. I wanted to cry so badly and watched soppy films, Beaches etc and listened to soppy love songs - it ended up being hilarious trying to make myself cry and getting angry I couldn't! Two weeks later I met the future Mr Stupidhead online, a week later this first twat texted that he missed me - told him to fuck right off :)

Enjoy the mini crushes, appreciate they might not last, beware of cock pics (you'll get a lot...), treat every potential date as a mini adventure and 'you' time (as an ego boost) not as the next big thing. Work out not what you want in a man but what you DON'T want, give the guys who aren't your usual type a chance (unless they're really fugly!!!). You ARE the prize. Me and the future Mr etc clicked online but I had to keep checking and rechecking his pics to see whether I'd fancy him - he IS the most beautiful man and I can't understand why I did that now! But most of all have fun and keep a firm hold of tongue in cheek. You'll get played and lied to but don't hold that against the next one.

[Hormonalhell]

Kscience welcome to the thread, lovely lot of ladies (and a few knowledgeable gents too) you'll soon be aux fe with dating

Thanks everyone

Update on my situation...oddjobman text me last night saying he thought I was wanting a 24/7 man and he has a lot of commitments!! No!!! Just think I deserve a bit of respect!! He then went on to say he does like me a lot and wants to still take me out Saturday!!

I'd lost interest by then....we clearly want different things and was also talking to a very cute RAF pilot

If I've not got anything better to do I might go

[Hormonalhell]

Brilliant and wise advice Stupidhead. Think you need to change your name

[PyjamaDayToday]

treat every potential date as a mini adventure and 'you' time (as an ego boost) not as the next big thing.

Thanks for those wise words stupidhead (and yes, you need a new name).

After a few weeks on the sofa I'm now seeing OD like this, not even considering that one of my potential dates might have any future role in my life.

I had first date with Mr Okay last week and have agreed to a second. He's very keen and seems quite nervous with me because I'm so bloody gorgeous As his name suggests he's nice and okay, not at all repulsive or dim, but I had no desire to tear his clothes off, but that's how I've felt about them all so far .

Then I've got Mr Rich tomorrow his name might be wishful thinking on my part and Biker Boy probably next week, so its all ticking along nicely and not taking up much head space

[Poffedoff]

Hormonal that's a much better result than having him disappear without a word... It seems like you thought you were on the same page before the lack of texts though, maybe it's worth giving it another shot on Saturday... I find pof guy is horrendously bad at texting and keeping in touch but all that goes out the window when we meet...
Finding it very difficult to remain "exclusive" with him at the moment tbh, we didn't see each other last weekend and still nothing firmed up for this one, think he just takes it for granted I'll be free at this stage... maybe I should surprise him and tell him he's left it too late and I've made other arrangements when he does eventually ask!?