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The dating thread 66

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LividofLondon · 02/12/2013 16:43

Seeing as thread 65 is now full.

Nothing to report here. I'm still in almost daily contact with MrK but due to his work was not able to meet this weekend. We're hoping to arrange something for this coming weekend, so fingers crossed. I keep reminding myself that every-other weekend is fine, but it just seems such a long wait in between Sad

Seeing as I'm trying to keep my cool and my plan was only for something casual, I'm still looking for more dates. But there's no-one I like online at the moment [sigh]

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LetsCancelChristmas · 03/12/2013 21:56

I feel the Christmas pain - not least because cruel old CountryMouse had invited me to his Christmas do already Sad Said it would be a good chance to meet his friends & people in his village Sad Sad

It was going to be the same day as my work party too so we'd planned to go to both. I told my friends... Xmas Sad

FolkGirl · 03/12/2013 22:08

That's rubbish LetsCancel Sad

splishsplosh · 03/12/2013 22:13

Can I join in the seasonal singledom sadness?

I'm going through one of my periods of wishing for something more than casual relationships. Usually it suits me, but now and again I wish I had more with someone.

I'm still seeing Mr Kinky now and again. I enjoy his company when we meet but communication in between is odd - he instigates it almost all the time, and will text most days, and is the one who usually suggests meeting up. But at the same time his conversation is more and more succinct. If he doesn't want to chat, why bother texting to say hello? So I have been looking online for alternatives, but it all feels a bit like hard work and little prospect of meeting anyone special.

Though the positive stories on here are encouraging!

superdooperpenguin · 03/12/2013 22:14

FolkGirl - yay! A long way but if he's willing to move then ok I suppose...have you tried skype yet?

Lets - Feeling your pain. The detective was supposed to come to my work Christmas do :( We will have to rock it as fabulous single ladies instead!

SweetSeraphim · 03/12/2013 22:27

What happened LetsCancel?

SweetSeraphim · 03/12/2013 22:28

In what way is he kinky, splish? He might think that being all brusque is part of being Dom.... Wink

splishsplosh · 03/12/2013 22:32

I'm not sure there's any way he's not kinky! Far more than I am. But you might be right I suppose! But I'd rather he didn't bother texting if he hasn't got anything to say

FolkGirl · 03/12/2013 22:34

super no. I'm ashamed to say I think I'm too ugly for skype. How ridiculous is that!

He's off work this week and offered to fly down here tomorrow, stay in a hotel and then return home the following day, just so that we could have a proper date! I couldn't though, I have plans with my children.

We're going to do it in the New Year instead!

You know, just to see if there's anything there...

We do have a lot in common though...

superdooperpenguin · 03/12/2013 22:58

Oh Folk, that can't be true or he wouldn't be talking to you. He sounds very keen and I really hope he's good enough for you xx

FolkGirl · 03/12/2013 23:20

He does seem keen (odd man!) Fingers crossed, eh?!

TortillasAndChocolate · 04/12/2013 09:15

Place marking as I need to get dating. Hopefully this thread will keep me in the game and keep me sane...

Stupidhead · 04/12/2013 09:47

My exh doesn't know I was dating and living with my lastbf for three years (now fiancé! Haha)!!! I'm still separated (finances and a house hold up) but only need to apply for the absolute. We were chatting last night about whether I should tell him when we get married :)

He's a horrible EA control freak so I'm enjoying this power. Even the children say nothing to him when they stay at his. He asked my eldest once if I had a bf and he replied 'you'd have to ask her'. Good boy ;)

dontcallmehon · 04/12/2013 10:33

Letscancel you will meet someone better soon, don't lose hope.

Stupid - I bet it feels amazing to think you're getting married, despite anyone else's negative energy.

Folk you should give Skype a try.

I am still blissfully happy. Last night geeky stroked my hair and looked into my eyes and said 'you know, it's funny to think it was just a chance decision to go on pof. I didn't think about it much and it turned out to be so significant.'

Stupidhead · 04/12/2013 11:14

Oh don't!!! Tummy flips for you and geeky! Awww !! :)

dontcallmehon · 04/12/2013 12:31

Thanks stupidhead he really is quite lovely.

Hormonalhell · 04/12/2013 13:29

Well looks like everything gone wrong with oddjobman HmmHmmHmm

It never seems to go right for me Hmm

Fed up are not the words Hmm

dontcallmehon · 04/12/2013 13:48

What's happened, hormonal? :(

FolkGirl · 04/12/2013 14:02

Oh no Sad

Hormonalhell · 04/12/2013 14:17

Had a lovely night sat, he's busy I get that but last night said he'd text me later on in the evening. By 10.30 I'd not heard anything so I text 'u forgot about me?' No reply Hmm

Ok could have fallen asleep....no text this morning and by 10 I just sent him a text saying 'Hi, gotta say I'm really fed up that I wasn't even worth a text last night! I really thought u were a genuine, caring guy. I had a great night Saturday and I thought it had brought us closer but the lack of respect just shows we are obviously wanting very different things! I'm obviously not as important to you as you were to me but I suppose better to find out now eh? ' no reply to that either Hmm

Is it me? Just want to sob my heart out really

Hormonalhell · 04/12/2013 14:19

I gotta be going wrong somewhere or do I just attract fuckwits!Confused

dontcallmehon · 04/12/2013 14:44

Oh I'm so sorry. Dating can feel absolutely soul destroying sometimes. He's an idiot who obviously didn't deserve you. And, I always think if you have to decide between two men then neither was the right one. You'll know when you meet him.

Hormonalhell · 04/12/2013 14:51

Thanks Dontcallme Smile I just can't work out how a guy can change so quickly without explanation Hmm

powpow80 · 04/12/2013 16:51

Hormonal- really sorry to hear that. Have a good cry for yourself this evening. Let it all out. As Don't says there's a good one out there somewhere and you'll know when you meet him.

Poffedoff · 04/12/2013 18:00

FFS hormonal, I'm so sorry to hear that. I reckon OD has allowed some people to forget what normal parameters are...dropping people like hot potatoes without a backward glance...

You've got to remember its not you or anything you did that's caused him to behave this way...some guys are just utter cocksHmm

JustALittleGreen · 04/12/2013 18:34

stupidhead and dont, I get a warm happy glow every time I read your messages! And you've got a sensible son, there, stupid!

hormonal, really sorry about oddjob, what a knob, how long does it take to send a text?! At least you found out now that's he's a twunt rather than 2 years down the line. It's not you. It's definitely him x