The dating thread 66

[LividofLondon]

Seeing as thread 65 is now full.

Nothing to report here. I'm still in almost daily contact with MrK but due to his work was not able to meet this weekend. We're hoping to arrange something for this coming weekend, so fingers crossed. I keep reminding myself that every-other weekend is fine, but it just seems such a long wait in between

Seeing as I'm trying to keep my cool and my plan was only for something casual, I'm still looking for more dates. But there's no-one I like online at the moment [sigh]

[Hormonalhell]

Yes Poffed that's true, on Saturday he was very attentive, caring and loving towards me and I think I just expected him to shower me with texts but I guess not everyone like that. They do say patience is a virtue

I know what your saying about making other plans but it's hard if you want to see pof guy. So frustrating!

Pyjama your diary looks pretty full, I too have decided to date others then maybe I'll chillax with oddjobman

Mr browneyes back on scene too so he's a nice diversion too

[Poffedoff]

Frustrating's not the word Hormonal!
Just been in touch with him there, he's working this weekend too
Really suspect something's up and he's losing interest, just wish he'd have the balls to say it rather than all this shite.
I don't want to jump the gun and tell him to fuck off as I do genuinely like him a lot, love spending time with him etc but I hate the feeling in my gut that tells me I'm being played here.. Grrrr

[sparrowfart]

hormonal I definitely think you should go - that he replied to that text is great in my book, he must be keen to have replied, he could easily have ignored it. I think he has earnt another chance!
poffed it is really, really hard to know what to do isn't it. I have had this happen before when you aren't sure if they are really up to their eyeballs or just fobbing you off. But men are an alien species to me I never, ever know how to play it.

Well just had my first and last little weep over Mr FadeAway and hoping that's the end of that tiny heartbreak. Oh well, I enjoyed myself so trying to look at it that way

[Sidge]

Hi everyone

I joined Match a few weeks ago and have had quite a lot of views/winks/messages but nobody really caught my attention initially. Then I got a message from a really cute guy (Toyboyman) and we started messaging, then texting and chatting on the phone.

We text A LOT and talk most evenings, first date will be 2 weeks today (he's away until then with work) and I can't wait to meet him! We have loads in common, he makes me laugh and we have even done a bit of mild sexting but nothing sleazy or repellent which is encouraging.

I'm still checking Match most days but haven't really made an effort, it's almost like I'm waiting to see what pans out with Toyboyman first. Am I daft or has anyone else done this?

Nice to read everyone's updates

[Poffedoff]

I agree Sparrow, they're very hard to fathom.. I replied to his text saying "ah that's a pity.. " followed by some bright and breezy bullshit about making the most of it next weekend when we do see each other.. Im torn between showing my vulnerability by telling him truly how disappointed I am or on the other hand, playing him at his own game.
What happened with mrfadeaway? Were you seeing him long?

[Poffedoff]

Sidge my advice is definitely not to put all your eggs in one basket, especially before you meet.. Keep chatting with other guys, 2 weeks is a long time in the OD world!

[HelloBoys]

I'm now coupled up (just about a month or 5 weeks old if you're counting dates etc) but wanted to ask advice for friend.

she's 44 (doesn't look it) - separated from DH with 2 kids - 10 year old DD and 14 year old DS with autism (but functioning).

she works as dinner lady (diff name these days?) and as a greeter (is there another word, customer service probably) in Barclays on Saturdays.

She's seeing a guy from her school who's a TA but he never wants her to meet family, his DD etc - and has made some pretty wild excuses as to why he came round late to see her on her birthday (his sister was in hospital apparently) - my brother and I and my mum (she knows us all) think he's cheating and uses her as booty call. she's been seeing him for about a year. he's very friendly with other teaching staff and he seems to not want their romance out in open.

Anyway I think she should get divorced for one (her DH is an idiot) - she wants to too but is scared he won't do stuff, he only has kids 1 Saturday and takes not much interest otherwise. I think once she's divorced she could get the then ex-DH to look after kids one or two evenings a week as well as say Sat night and have a normal life. as it is her MIL is the one she has to ask re evening out babysitting. I have suggested Gingerbread to her but I think she's shy there. any ideas? single dating sites? she is such a nice person and I hate to see her being used. she's talked about ditching current BF btw but seems to think he's all she can get which is sad. advice please? thanks

[HelloBoys]

Sidge seems like you're doing what I did with current BF but I met him on doingsomething website.

I would arrange other dates if only so he knows you have a life and are desirable to other males besides him.

only saying this because suppose you meet IRL and either you don't get on and (this is a bit in future) the sex is awful too (trust me though it can get better if there's no chemistry i personally would not bother).

[Sidge]

Poffed and Hello - thanks for the advice. I shall keep my eyes open. The last week or so I haven't found anyone who's caught my eye but will persevere!

Hello - re your friend, getting divorced shouldn't make any difference to how often her ex has the children. He should be having them regularly now!

[sparrowfart]

sidge I did similar too when I started on pof, I actually thought that the first I met was going to be The One and congratulated myself on how easy it had all been. I can laugh about it now But my sister met her husband OD, he was her first date so it def does happen!
poffed he was NOT my type in a milllion different ways but pursued me and texted endlessly and sure enough, I fell a little bit for him. He seemed, ahem, different. Jesus I am such a sucker.
Anyway good response from you... maybe send a text saying you will leave arrangements with him, you are free say Friday but not Saturday or whatever, so he can still see you are interested but also that you have other stuff going on?
But I must warn you that my tactics haven't done much for me in this game!

[Hormonalhell]

I agree with Sidge, my ex dh has kids every weekend for one night without fail! Can't your friend join Pof?

[Hormonalhell]

Puffed and Sparrow, it's such a roller coaster of emotions isn't it? Felt so down yesterday but today I think it's perhaps me being too deep and over analysing when he just being the same as he always been! He's text me twice today so perhaps he's taken on board what I've said too

[Hormonalhell]

Poffed not Puffed damn phone!

[OneDayWhenIGrowUp]

Just signing in to new thread.....hello daters :-)

Things still going well with mr housemate guy......in fact tonight he is meeting one on my friends for the first time. eek eek.

[Hormonalhell]

Must be serious Oneday

[JustALittleGreen]

Did he pass the friend test, oneday?

poffed, I guess if you did say sorry I'm busy, you'd find out a bit more of how he felt?

I've got a lunch date for next Wednesday, fully expecting him to cancel and disappear off the face of the earth after the last guy but we'll see.

[girliefriend]

Hello all,

Right haven't heard from smallfeet since Tuesday evening, is that bad or am I being pathetic in worrying?

Thought we had date 4 lined up for tomos night.

Sidge i wouldn't get your hopes up until you have actually met him - sorry

[Hormonalhell]

Girliefriend is it normal not to hear from him in two days? If not then can't u text him? I like to receive a text everyday as you prob noticed down thread

[sparrowfart]

Girliefriend I suppose it depends on what his normal texting habits are - maybe you should send him something along the lines of 'just checking about tomorrow so I can make a plan B if we can't meet up? Hope to see you' etc etc. Again, I am gold medal crap at this so may not be the best person to advise
There is a little bit of me that is still waiting for Mr Fadeaway to message and tell me he has missed me. Pathetic woman that I am. Finding it hard to sit on my hands and stay on the sofa as my friend's words are ringing in my ear: 'The best way to get over a man is to get under another!' not that I would do that, of course!!

[girliefriend]

Hmm we have up until Tues text every day, was hoping he would text but will send one this evening if I still haven't heard anything.

Will be mightly pissed off if this is another dud!!

[kscience]

Evening all,

Many thanks for the advice.

You chaps all sound very busy and lots of juggling going on. I stated OD about 3 weeks ago. Went to a mingle night...which was like a cattle market and got chatting to 3 blokes. First chap was good fun and lots of banter...but promised date did not materialise. Second chap was quite good fun, but had to rearrange date, and wee just have not got it together. Third chap not terribly chatty online and so, so pic. But invited me out for coffee and we ended up talking for 4hours (and was MUCh better looking han his pic!!) and have been out 3 times so far for dinner....so having fun. A little worried as invited to works do/champagne evening on Sat, think I am arm candy (at my age ).

[kscience]

How do you edit messages? should read that I chatted online, no one from mingle evening interested

[Sidge]

girliefriend yeah the larger, logical part of my brain is going "don't get too excited" and the little irrational part is going "eeeeekk this is going to be ace!"



Hope you hear from your chap. And oneday hope the trial by friend went well!

[Hormonalhell]

Oddjobman has cancelled Saturday, said he's having his daughter now....

Onwards and upwards

[TortillasAndChocolate]

Hormonal, did he suggest another day instead or just outright cancelled?