The git is refusing to move in with his friend...

[Lemmingswife]

Until we exchange contracts on our house!
I am SO angry & upset. This could take months & months.
I asked him last night if he was intending to make the move sometime next week, seen as his friend returns late on Sunday. He said "I'm not moving in with him....well not until the house has been sold & we have exchanged contracts."
He told me that he was prepared to make the move, until a friend (who he won't name) pointed out how ridiculous it would be to look after the children in the house if I ever went out & he said that it wouldn't be right to take them to his friends house.
He said that HE pays the mortgage & the TV licence and had every right to stay as long as he needed to, but he wants out too, which is why the quicker this house sells, the better.
I was so upset & furious after he came out with this last night. I cannot go on like this for what could be months, I will seriously lose it.
I would move out with the children myself, if I could.
He kept putting on a silly fake laugh, saying "Imagine me coming to this house to look after the children. How ridiculous!"
I am so cross & so upset. I cannot go through the whole of the summer like this.

I buy all of the boys clothes.

Agree with EM, write it all down, every little detail of his twattish behaviour.

Blimey, I could buy myself a whole new wardrobe for 120 quid!! Well, sort of

I will do. He is behaving gittish atm isn't he?

He is obviously not thinking of solicitor fees atm.

But he wants to start!

If he wants to end up with a massive bill for his solicitor, then let him, if he wants to drink his money or waste it on card games, so be it, it will all have to come out of any money he may get from the house sale, which definitely will NOT be 50:50, you know that, don't you?

I know that they try to make sure the children are ok & things can be divided 60/40

I hope you get more than that, you certainly deserve it for putting up with the twat like you have. Anyway, we have talked enough about him for long enough today..... what are you doing with your boys tomorrow, anything nice? Mine goes to nursery tomorrow afternoon, so I usually manage to get a couple of hours to myself on a Tuesday, so might try and get an hour in the garden for an hour if I can, it is soooo hot down here at the moment, where abouts are you, I am in Kent, and work in Canary Wharf.

I live near the coast, but it has still been very very hot!
Tomorrow I am working all day & it is DS1's sports day in the morning.
H is working from 2pm until 9ish tomorrow, so I will have time to myself.

Canary Wharf is cool! My sister has friends who live there.

Bet its lovely down by the coast. Enjoy and I hope the sports day goes well, bless. I must pretend to do something for the last hour I am here!! Hope all goes well and I may catch up with you when I get to work tomorrow. Chin up, onwards and upwards!! Night night

Yes, Canary Wharf is great for shopping and a night out (not that I get many nights out anymore .

Night.
Will look at the legal aid thing tomorrow when H is at work. Take care.x

HIya LW

Only two days until court over kids and then I can reveal all! I am ok have had somegood days away wiht a friend where everything went away for a while. Kids very nervous as to what will happen though adn so am I.

Kick your H out and keep kicking is what I would advise. How can he lose money at cards how pathetic?

Glitterfairy, good luck in court

Thank you CQ! Wil probably post on the morning but might not get time although should think I will be up at dawn!

Wishing you loads of luck for your court case, GF. Will have everything crossed for you.

Yes H is an idiot gambling his money away on a silly card game. He tells me that this is what he does when he gets together with his friends & claims that he would have lost more money if it wasn't for the fact he won a few games.

THanks LW when are you seeing your solicitor again?

LM he must be doing your head in! What an absolute selfish childish moronic tosser he is! Keep a note of the gambling loss and that he said he could spend his money how he likes now.
God, I can't even bring myself to suggest you keep calom and ignore it all! - I would be seething mad - the emotional burden of having no choice but to suffer all this for the time being must be completely exhausting, and I truly, truly sympathise.

HAS ANYONE GOT A HOLIDAY CARAVAN THAT LW CAN ESCAPE TO FOR A LITTLE HOL??

He is making me cross & upset, Blu. I feel on the verge of insanity with it all tbh! I have three days left at work before the summer break & I am not looking forward to it one bit.
I will keep a note of the gambling, especially as it sounds like it is a regular thing. £120 is a bloody lot of money to throw away! He could have spent that on his children.

GF, I am seeing solicitor again on 2nd August. It was the earliest they could squeeze me in.

I guess the solicitor will start to get wheels in motion for divorce now, dinosaur. It is all very scary, but I need to get things started because of the state of things & because of the threats.

I just can't bear this much longer. I am cross & upset again.