The git is refusing to move in with his friend...

[Lemmingswife]

Until we exchange contracts on our house!
I am SO angry & upset. This could take months & months.
I asked him last night if he was intending to make the move sometime next week, seen as his friend returns late on Sunday. He said "I'm not moving in with him....well not until the house has been sold & we have exchanged contracts."
He told me that he was prepared to make the move, until a friend (who he won't name) pointed out how ridiculous it would be to look after the children in the house if I ever went out & he said that it wouldn't be right to take them to his friends house.
He said that HE pays the mortgage & the TV licence and had every right to stay as long as he needed to, but he wants out too, which is why the quicker this house sells, the better.
I was so upset & furious after he came out with this last night. I cannot go on like this for what could be months, I will seriously lose it.
I would move out with the children myself, if I could.
He kept putting on a silly fake laugh, saying "Imagine me coming to this house to look after the children. How ridiculous!"
I am so cross & so upset. I cannot go through the whole of the summer like this.

You are truly wonderful!!! You are being so strong, I think you're amazing. There will be light at the end of the tunnel and this experience will make you all the more stronger. Does he not work???

I definitely wont agree to any offers yet, Blu. I haven't a clue where I am going yet & need more advice from solicitor.
I guess I could try phoning the secretary & asking about any possible cancellations, it can't hurt to try! I remember having a to wait a couple of weeks for my last appt. I guess they are busy.
EM, he does work, but works shifts, so has weeks where he is off & other weeks when he is on nights, which gives him lots of oppertunities to play with his friends!

We have more viewers on Wednesday. It had gone quiet for a while.

Can see all this costing me a small fortune in solicitors fees!

Do you not qualify for Legal Aid?

Not 100% sure. Solicitor told me that I may be, as I only work part time & don't earn a great wage.

But the solicitor should know whether you qualify or not?? I was told in the initial consultation whether I qualified or not. I didn't qualify because I worked fulltime and he said I earnt too much, even though I could prove I literally had no money because of the debts he got me into.

His words to me were "You may qualify for legal aid, but you have to pay it back plus interest, so there is a sting in the tail."

My BIL has just text H to check he is ok! Everyone feels sorry for H & I am seen as the baddie for coming to this decision.

Not sure whether this will help but try the Legal Aid Commission - go to www.clsdirect.org.uk, go to Legal Help and click on calculator and it will take you through a series of questions. It will tell you at the end whether you should qualify or not.

Will do - thanks, EM.

Let me know how you get on, am here til 11pm (unfortunately!). Not unfortunately that I don't like talking to you, unfortunately that I am stuck at work til 11!

I will let you know as soon as I have done it, EM. Need to make sure all is safe around me first.
Poor you, working until 11pm!

Yeah, it sounds worse than it is though, don't start til 5pm, so am at home for most of the day with my DS

You must be exhausted though! I am judging from your name that you are pregnant too!

Noooooooooooooo just never bothered to change my name after having DS last year!!!! Blimey, not ready to have another just yet My job is fairly easy to be honest, I'm an evening legal secretary, am only usually busy if theres a deal going down, but all quiet tonight, which is why I have time to chat, which makes a lovely change, cos I don't normally get too involved.

Oooohps, sorry!! How old is your DS?

Nooooo, my fault, should have changed my name ages ago, am just too lazy!!! DS was one a couple of weeks ago, that is 1 going on 15 bless him!

Ahhhhh, bless! Lovely age.
I need a non stressed name to use on other threads, but have not thought of a good one yet.

Arsewipe has just announced he lost £120 playing cards last night too!

LW I havent read all of this so sorry if I am repeating anything (have just got back from running my sport relief mile down south). My x stopped paying the mortgage and it takes ages to for them to do anything also you can negotiate with teh mortgage company they will listen if you phone and tell them what is happenig. Mine have been very good even though it is a joint mortgage.

Good god!! Has he got money to burn or something?????? I would kill DH if he did that! God, what could I do with 120 quid! Have changed my mind to what I called him earlier, he is a BIG prick!!

That is reassuring, GF. H is trying everything he can to stay in control right now.

How are things with you?

He says he can waste his money on whatever he wants now.

Oh, so you have separate accounts and stuff? Just as long as you and the boys are not going without, you should keep a diary of when he goes out and write down things like losing 120 quid in a card game, just in case you need it. Certainly keep a note of when and where he goes out and for how long, in case he ever pleads poverty in court or anything.

Yes we have always had seperate accounts. £120 would pay for a weeks food shopping, or but lots of clothes for the boys though.