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The git is refusing to move in with his friend...

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Lemmingswife · 15/07/2006 09:06

Until we exchange contracts on our house!
I am SO angry & upset. This could take months & months.
I asked him last night if he was intending to make the move sometime next week, seen as his friend returns late on Sunday. He said "I'm not moving in with him....well not until the house has been sold & we have exchanged contracts."
He told me that he was prepared to make the move, until a friend (who he won't name) pointed out how ridiculous it would be to look after the children in the house if I ever went out & he said that it wouldn't be right to take them to his friends house.
He said that HE pays the mortgage & the TV licence and had every right to stay as long as he needed to, but he wants out too, which is why the quicker this house sells, the better.
I was so upset & furious after he came out with this last night. I cannot go on like this for what could be months, I will seriously lose it.
I would move out with the children myself, if I could.
He kept putting on a silly fake laugh, saying "Imagine me coming to this house to look after the children. How ridiculous!"
I am so cross & so upset. I cannot go through the whole of the summer like this.

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spangles · 12/08/2006 17:44

hello LW

Hope you have had a nice day and that H has kept

out of your way.

It seem so unfair that H is spending money here

there and everywhere... hope he calms down on the

spending soon.

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Lemmingswife · 12/08/2006 17:55

Hi, spangles.
I have had a little breathing space today, as H took the boys to the cinema. I had to show two lots of viewers round the house (first lot for a while), but am making a point of telling anyone who views the house, that we have not found anywhere to go yet, so are not ready to move.
My sister paid me a visit this afternoon & I am out with friends tonight.

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singledadofthree · 12/08/2006 18:11

see you are still plodding along lem, you'll get there in the end but what's this about a new car? expect he's trying to use up his income, nothing more. i drive a 10 year old banger which is a real bargain

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Lemmingswife · 13/08/2006 09:04

I am still plodding indeed, SDOT! I am plodding along to a Tessiebears DS3's christening in an hour, so I will be out of the house today. I hope DS2 behaves during the service!

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Tyedye · 13/08/2006 14:55

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Lemmingswife · 13/08/2006 16:23

DS2 was not a good boy during the service! It was very hard work & suddenly I realised how tough life as a single Mum is going to be.

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stephanieplum · 13/08/2006 16:27

It is tough but it also has its benefits and it is a question of whether the benefits outweigh the drawbacks!

Also your children will know when they grow up that you worked hard to give them the best life possible and they will value that.

My parents stayed together and fought all the time and if anyone asked me now I would say I wished they had divorced.

singledadofthree · 13/08/2006 16:29

hi, is not all like that, and we get loads of screamy kids at services and no one (except the oldies) are bothered as we've all had littluns. i've managed to raise 3 of em single handed so dont be too worried as i'm only a dim fella.
and not all the days are ploddy ones - has been a blast after 10 years as a sp - and now is nearly time to move on.

stephanieplum · 13/08/2006 16:30

What are you moving on to SDOFT?

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Lemmingswife · 13/08/2006 16:30

I hope my children will understand that I was thinking of them in all this. It is so hard atm, as they both idolise H & ask of his whereabouts all the time. I am really worrying about the effect this is going to have on them.

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Lemmingswife · 13/08/2006 16:32

It was quite a long service, but DS2 was a NIGHTMARE!!

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singledadofthree · 13/08/2006 16:36

they do keep asking at first...altho mine didnt much but is another story. and you'll find you spend way more time worrying about how they feel than they do. they see things far more simply - just keep them informed and never let them think theyre either to blame or unloved by h. is up to him how he handles them. they will be watching you both so keep them in mind in all things.

and i'm just watching and waiting. still only 18 at heart

singledadofthree · 13/08/2006 16:37

long services no good for kids - we have put in a play area at the back - works a treat

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Lemmingswife · 13/08/2006 16:40

Are you a vicar, SDOT??

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singledadofthree · 13/08/2006 16:41

haha - do you not read my flirtations ???!!!!!!

singledadofthree · 13/08/2006 16:42

oops sorry - and no i'm not

Tyedye · 13/08/2006 16:46

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singledadofthree · 13/08/2006 16:48

erm...erm....feeling slightly nervous now...and you are?

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Lemmingswife · 13/08/2006 16:49

I'm all lost now! Maybe I have had one too many glasses of fizzy wine!!!

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Tyedye · 13/08/2006 16:50

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singledadofthree · 13/08/2006 16:52

doh - that is so not funny...am squirming now in me own mischief

singledadofthree · 13/08/2006 16:53

and lem - is a good day to unwind and get yer thoughts in perspective. sure a glass of the fizzy stuff will help them blend together

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