any dating gurus around?

[Mitchy1nge]

so if you met someone, and had quite a nice time at a party with them (no snogging or sexuals) and you were reasonably sure he fancied you but you didn't fancy him as such but quite liked him as a person, and so if you went on to send him a message asking if he would like to come to the cinema to watch a film (that he had been talking about) with you but he hadn't responded within 24 hours would you:

1. think never mind, nothing ventured nothing gained
2. check you got the number right
3. find out where he lives and let yourself in while he is at work and surprise him?

I'm thinking 1 but I really do think he liked me, he wrote a lovely poem and everything (everything being making an origami crane) so am a bit puzzled that he wouldn't at least say thanks but no, or ideally 'yes that would be lovely'. Hmmm.

we are going to get together and plan it so that there is also some Other Stuff to do and not just being in bed

am more than happy with the being in bed part now though - it's just such a tiny bed, he's 6'4 and a bit and he just spills all over the edges and top and bottom of it before I get in and as far as he knows I'm 5'9 (not really, am about 5'4 on a tall day)

he is far too civilised for me really but is the nicest person I've met for AGES and ages and ages and ages even if we are not on the face of things all that compatible

not to mention the really nice ... torso

On the face of things, lots of great couples are not all that compatible, the face of things really isn't the main thing is it? Also, the fact you like him more the more you know him really does seem to be a good sign :-)

snogging in the monastic bed it is and I can't wait, why are Saturdays so far apart?

I had my Turkish coffee cup 'read' today, the woman pointed out a very tall figure and a very tiny one joining together in a small space and said I would meet a new chap . . . not another one I hope, no, it was definitely us in his little camp bed.

'if two people are in love they can sleep on the blade of a knife' says some poet or other.

That's interesting about your coffee - did she say anything else? I once had my tarot cards read and the woman asked me about three names which happened to be the names of the last three men who had asked me out. It was spooky. (Especially as there were probably only four altogether in the last few decades.)

Is Saturday reindeer day?

she did, she said 'oh dear . . . look at all this darkness and what is this? ejder! ejder! [then some hissing noises] it comes from behind you!' ejder is a sort of dragon woman thing apparently, it looked like a giant worm with a dragon's head. Creepy. I thought the darkness might signify that the coffee was a bit too thick though. I got the impression my romantic prospects are quite gloomy.

She is really specific too but always a bit too late for the information to be of any use, last time she said 'oh look, how funny, you will fly over a mountain with a doctor' and I had very recently flown over the alps with just such a person. She also had a dream that I'd been taken away and held against my will and came round to tell me (and laugh) about it only to find I had been hospitalised that morning.

I need a dragon dress I think, am holding the reindeer back for now. Actually more than anything I would like some Nice Pants and a bra that is not made by Shock Absorber.

I have fired a distress flare in S&B and will wait for help. Anxious about what to wear this weekend.

Interested to know whether s and b can bring itself to give the reindeer dress an outing :-D

everyone politely overlooked the reindeer dress references

they are very nice in there, have just spent about 70 million pounds

and probably nothing in time for weekend but am looking forward to trying it all on anyway

yes, have you asked what they think of it? In all honesty, I think it's cute and would look nifty with tights and boots. I love knitted dresses.

I will ask! I think they are too nice to laugh openly and loudly in my face?

wish I could afford to hang out in there more often, but have no job exactly and got a mortgage and expensive habits and hobbies and stuff

It's true! I spent a whole winter with the s and b people, very friendly but very expensive! I have now run away but have a cupboard full of aspirational party dresses for a life (and currently also figure) I do not have

Mitchy - we need a hot date update!

:)

was very difficult to prise self out of there this afternoon, am starting to worry about how to have A Relationship that has to take place at weekends - what about all my other weekend stuff? Or will the novelty wear off (it will won't it?) but I really like him. He's my favourite person have ever done any sexuals with ever (don't think I say this EVERY time?) and he's funny and performs hours of cunnilingus considerate and as far as is possible at this stage of getting to know someone I secretly LOVE him a bit already but am sure this will wear off in time, but would be nice if it kept going for ages, is cosy and nice in our little cocoon of new romance and sticky bits

didn't wear any of my new dresses since the anglomania one was a bit too nice for sitting in his flat, eating a sandwich and listening to music and the other one was itchy-to-death - wore the stupid tartan skirt and a jumper that is very revealing, breaking the boobs or legs rule (actually took the jumper off as soon as I got in as have a series of horrible grazes on my back where the top fastening and straps of my sports bra have gone baggy and chafed my shoulder blades over the miles this week, so he could put some Savlon on and then I thought I might as well just take my bra off too and see what happens, and this is a look he admired, I can tell)

obviously do not LOVE love him but am loving our time together and think it is a bit cruel that can't spend more time screwing

and also chatting and the other stuff etc, is not all about sex, I know

Has there been any more origami? The Crane is like the first one anyone makes after paper aeroplanes.

there was origami last week, a poem at each course all folded into different shapes but nothing since - except a sort of short story in which I am a camp fire in an arid land and then a star in a vast void and then a candle and you get the idea

no mocking my love's skills in the arts of paper folding or poetry, I LIKE him :)

he did actually try to make some stealth bombers on the evening of The Crane

have you got another date lined up, Mitchy?

not until Sunday

there is no pleasing me, one minute my great fear about romantic involvement with men is never having a spare moment to myself and now I sulk about only getting together with one at weekends and worry that he will change his mind about us seeing one another, poor me

I have no idea how to conduct myself as a normal person. But neither does he really. At least I have loads of new dresses :)

he is making lunch for us, I have started mucking out my house a bit in case of feeling like inviting him here at some point (I should do it tonight, we have a thanksgiving meal and he'd be the perfect new person to bring along but is too soon) but it's quite nice going to his clean and sparse little flat

Any news Mitchy? Did he like the dress?

he has only seen one of the millions of new dresses I think, keep wearing the same things and taking them off at earliest opportunity

we had A Chat about not shagging other people while we are doing sexuals with one another he came round to the topic in a bit of a lighthearted way but I think he is actually serious, he said he would appreciate it - I can see the point of it, but it's really only until one of you is seriously tempted isn't it? Is easy to be exclusive up until that point. Too time consuming to have more than one on the go anyway, don't know how people do it.

so am slightly worried about the pretend enormity of that and conversely slightly worried about it not lasting for long, would like it to go on for ages yet - although we have to find stuff to do that isn't him making food for us, cannot be a coincidence that am 3kg heavier than when we met