any dating gurus around?

[Mitchy1nge]

so if you met someone, and had quite a nice time at a party with them (no snogging or sexuals) and you were reasonably sure he fancied you but you didn't fancy him as such but quite liked him as a person, and so if you went on to send him a message asking if he would like to come to the cinema to watch a film (that he had been talking about) with you but he hadn't responded within 24 hours would you:

1. think never mind, nothing ventured nothing gained
2. check you got the number right
3. find out where he lives and let yourself in while he is at work and surprise him?

I'm thinking 1 but I really do think he liked me, he wrote a lovely poem and everything (everything being making an origami crane) so am a bit puzzled that he wouldn't at least say thanks but no, or ideally 'yes that would be lovely'. Hmmm.

I just wore The Same Dress

do feel as though could make more effort

sounds good ;)
I sent you a PM the other day Mitchy.... did you get it!?
x

no? can you resend? please!

Glad you had a good time :-)
I'm seriously routing for the reindeer to get an outing at least before Christmas...

Ha ha...routing? Rooting...

I don't even know if the dress is horrible or not, some people like it and it's quite flattering on because it's clingy so it accentuates my padded bra etc anyway this is it the emergency reindeer dress

am going to try to arrange a night in a nearby but nice hotel or something, it was lovely at his place but quite a monastic vibe what with the single bed and no condoms, and he can't come to mine YET

am finding it hard to concentrate on anything because keep thinking about how nice it was to be in bed together

I think reindeer dress could look good in December when Christmas mood is around. Having said that, hope your Zen man gets the Christmas vibe. Hope you can arrange more nice time together. :-)

Yes - wear the reindeer dress in December. Doesn't sound as if he'd be too bothered about what it looks like, tbh, as long as it's easy to take off... It sounds lovely but you make him sound very intense. I hope he gets your sense of humour as you are so witty. Does he make you laugh?

he might not want to I keep having sort of flashbacks to people I've gone out with in the past who thought we were having a wonderful time when actually it wasn't that amazing at all, awkwardnosity

but if he is experiencing things similarly to me then he will think we are quite sexually compatible and will definitely want another go

yes he makes me laugh a lot

he is intense but incredibly funny, I couldn't get my minge out for someone who wasn't funny unless they had an amazing torso (his is ok but it's the stuff between the ears that does it, ultimately?)

Oh great, I wish I could find an incredibly funny (or even quite funny) man, with an acceptable "torso". Of course he will want another go. Lucky you - and well done for taking the initiative. I do think you may be well advised not to wear the same dress four times running though - it would start to get a bit weird.

don't get me wrong, his torso is not just acceptable, it's really nice and I like it a lot - this is not one of those torso-based relationships that's all (eg: sicilian scuba instructor last year)

no, indeed - I think we could tell that long ago. I bet none of those scuba men would have those origami crane-making skills. Hooray for his nice torso anyway and good luck on the next date.

Oh when I was out on the dating scene I had a very strict "make me laugh sunshine or I'm out of here" rule. The man I've been seeing for the last 7 months made me laugh like a drain about skippy the bush kangeroo on our first date

I'm not sure I could cope with inter-course (see what I did there?) poetry though!!

I wouldn't have liked the idea or sound of the poetry either. Some of it is really fucking dark. Yet/Therefore . . . mmmm.

Have proposed a shag in a hotel where sheets could still be warm from the last couple, that should disrupt his careful attention to place so far and find out how committed he is to some sexuals :)

will get a new dress too

Do it! Go mad!

Hey Mitchy

Thanks for sharing your experiences with all us, great reading and we are cheering you on! Time to get a new dress though...I'm getting slightly worried you're going to wear...The Same Dress, and that might be a bit weird:)

ok yes definitely need some new dresses

he said the hotel sounds like a lovely idea but doesn't want me to spend money I don't have

so maybe that is just a polite way of saying he is not keen :( or maybe he just means what he says, have asked for clarification

wish was not so base sometimes, just want to say 'please can I have another go on you'

not spending unnecessarily is consistent with the zen stuff. Has he got a fireplace? Make a nice bed out of some cushions in front of the fire....

Sorry to put in my 2p randomly... I am enjoying following your thread too!

Also if he is really zen, he will probably be enjoying the same dress.

you are right, it is his way - no, no fireplace

I was a bit at how stark it all was in his flat, I live in a mad old place that is tiny but full of fireplaces and shit - actual shit probably, with all these cats and spaniel and horse poo that we trail in - but anyway, have my clarification and he is definitely extremely very interested in doing more stuff in a bed somewhere

am SO pleased, now to find somewhere very interesting to stay somewhere in Suffolk but also fairly cheap

I can't say this just anywhere (my friends are not interested after a certain point) but he has got a Really Nice cock

God, you lucky cow :)

why can't you just go back and get all cosy in his single bed again? Hotels seem a bit of a faff.