Husband on dating sites-how original

[dhisawanker]

Found out that h has been on dating sites such as 'shagoholic' 'gay partners' 'upforit' and he now classes himself as bisexual. This is not the first time. He was doing it before we married

i had it out with him and apparently its all my fault because i didnt love him enough. Im a fucking bitch and he is done with me? er i threw u out matey

he is staying at his mums and i feel lost, cheated and marriage was a fraud

I am

He even went to MY FRIENDS house and told them how its my fault. So I copy and pasted the profiles and now she told her hubby that she doesnt want him in her house x

My mate is disgusted and the more i have made things more open i realise that this isnt my shame. its his.

My trouble is that I loved too much. I bought the book today. I will not be made a mug of again x

Good for you. Tell people what he's really like. That's for him to be embarrassed about not you. You have it your best shot but he wasn't willing to do the same. Onwards and upwards.

Loving too much isnt the issue, so you dont ever think you should change that.

He is grateful bastard, he is so shallow and weak, he couldnt handle the depth of love you go too, hes pathetic and needs pity.

soon as i started sharing info and my friends reactions its clear i was not overreacting. more like under reacting. I should of done it years ago x

Yes, I think you have been under reacting for years. Not too late to put that right though. The only mistake you could make today would be to put yourself in the firing line for more of this shit.

i know. i must of had have 'mug' stamped right through me x i just wanted it to work x

It is certainly not your fault that it didn't work, love. Remember that.

Still up. I found out he is searching for flats from my 9 year old. Im so upset. In limbo

I cant go into work today . Feel sick frightened and numb and i need.to.sort out benefit . I dunno If i can afford our doither. Huge geman shepherd

Sorry this is still so bad for you OP. Is there a friend around who can help you today? Could you go to your GP and get them to sign you off with stress for a few days so you can get your head straight?

Are you saying you aren't sure you can afford to keep your dog? There may be charities who can help - hope someone else will know more.

I had an sti check today x some slides are clear but have to wait 14 days for bloods. the woman was real nice but she warned me to stay away from him because of his risky behaviour x

She is right love. Those people know their stuff. Hope all is clear (which if it is, sounds like more through luck than judgment on his part...)

I just feel sick. Im at work but i feel cols all over and on verge of tears all the time. I know i need to take it one day at a time. I swing from hating him to thinking i have made a terrible mistake and want him back x

Are you home ? Are you looking after yourself ?

Yes op are you ok?

It's like torture isn't it? The pain. The self doubt. The fear. The anger. The sadness. All mulling about in yore brain till you feel exhausted.

But you it's not bring this on yourself or cause it. He did. With his selfish price behaviour.

I promise you that you'll start feeling better. More clear headed. And then you can start moving forwards and upwards. You can do it. You will do it. Promise.

Selfish price = selfish prick

He contacted me today and told me he still loves me and it was all his fault. I feel m back to square one - if i ever left it.

I do love him but i wish i didnt x

Don't swallow the sweet talk. You will hate yourself.

Awwwwww diddums, hes feeling lonely now.

You not back to square one, your are the "hes crawling like a worm back me" square.

please don't fall for his charms again - as soon as you relent I bet he will return to his old ways. You will need to be very strong now. You have to see that he is no longer on your side, he cannot be trusted, you need to protect yourself - harsh I know, but you really cannot believe anything he says now. He sadly is not the man you thought, or hoped he was.

And of course you deserve so much better!

Do not rush into anything. Anything he asks you, say you need time to think about it.

He's right of course, it is his fault. But just saying that is not enough.

If it weren't so bloody enfuriating, this would be laughable wouldn't it? The way these pathetic men follow the script

I know

I have been reading the 'Women who Love too Much' and there was a case study. It was frightening. It was me to a tee. I was the care giver.The one who is used to giving and not getting anything back

UPDATE

The wankstain has cleared the joint bank account. I have no money and he said he has set up a standing order for the 1st. Which is no good considering kids eat everyday. Im lucky enough to be able to borrow some. Surely though this is contemptable. Could I use it when filing for divorce. Also as I am waiting for benefits to kick in can i still get legal aid due to the emotional abuse. Or am i being daft ? x