Husband on dating sites-how original

[dhisawanker]

Found out that h has been on dating sites such as 'shagoholic' 'gay partners' 'upforit' and he now classes himself as bisexual. This is not the first time. He was doing it before we married

i had it out with him and apparently its all my fault because i didnt love him enough. Im a fucking bitch and he is done with me? er i threw u out matey

he is staying at his mums and i feel lost, cheated and marriage was a fraud

What email account did he use to sign up? Can you access it?

Also, how long has he been a member for?

i did access it his email and found all his registrations. He registered in July

That is good news - not too long then. Did he register for all sites at the same time? Have you logged onto the sites and read his messages?

that ought to tell you whether anything has actually happened, so ought to help prepare you for your STI check etc.

Do you know what you want to do about your relationship yet?

to be honest i didnt see any sent messages only people messaging him
its the fact he did it and put what he was looking for

i dont know

its prob out of my hands anyway

he is done with me he says. im cold etc.

he put he was bisexual too.

i dont know who he is

Hmm let me see; your fault didn't love him enough/have sex with him enough/not adventurous enough? Of course it's your fault. The fact he deceived you is neither here nor there (in his warped head).

Get rid of him. Change the locks on the doors. Formalise contact via the courts. Tell his family what he's been up to.

Our CTC took 2 weeks tops to come through. Phone them up and tell them you have circumstances that warrant your claim fast tracked. The CAB could help with this.

I wish you luck. You will come back from this and be better off for it. xxxxx

i know

its just so horrible. i knew something was goin on

if he was quiet i would ask whats wrong. he had a go at me for that because apparently i should ask 'if he is ok'

no one asked me if i was ok though

He sounds like a really fucking nasty piece of work tbh, trying to make out that he dumped you (how very teenage) and blaming you for his wandering eye. Well fuck it, if he really is bisexual and into group sex, then these aren't needs you can fill even if you shagged his brains out every night, being that there's only one of you and you're a woman. Sounds like you're well rid.

You sound so strong, lovely! Hope you get all the financial stuff sorted out.

Im not strong at all

im on here cos i now i will bend and text/call him. one minute i thought we both wanted the same thing and now i find all this shit.

My husband joined 15 sites.

I loaded up his profile and showed it to him and the cunt still tried to deny it. Had his pic on it the dozy twat.

Had he met and shagged anyone? Course he fukn had!

You desfrve betr than this and slowly i am realising this too

why do they do it?

im trying to get this in my head

i really dont think i can ever trust a man again not that im looking

How do you cope BoB? I cant function

i hate myself

Please don't hate yourself! You've done nothing wrong, nobody's perfect but at least you haven't been putting yourself in the market for no-strings sex.

You need to be angry with him. If you agree to try again, you will be sending out a strong signal that you accept being treated in this way. Stay strong (because you are, even if you don't see it yourself).

i feel like i have been punch in the stomach. i feel used and just a bolt hole to go to in between his secret life

how do you recover from this

he not bothered with me all day and i havent either

he is prob rewriting history

The truth is i havent coped or rather i have by just keeping quiet for an easier life.

I honestly think these men are lacking something within themselves and it is not our fault. When he used kids, lack of sleep etc as an excuse i used to say er, hello im in the same boat and im not on any sites.

We get one shot at this life and we deserve to be happy. Love for me is abt respect, withou that it goes to shit.

One shot at life, keep telling yourself that. I actually say it out loud!

And please dont hate yourself. Hate him as he deserves it. Feel sorry for him in fact.

What decent man looks to put his cock in a random stranger. How fuckin sad is that.

Do not hate yourself.

In the short time that i have joined mn, maybe two weeks, i have decided to end the circus that is my marriage and i have started c

Counselling.

Im sorry your going through this.

i feel lost

im trying to fathom all this out

i go from hating him to wishing i never found anything

Well done BoB I hope i have the courage to do the same xxx

Do you want to try and work it out?

What does your gut tell you?

i dunno what i want
he not contacted me all day

so its out of my hands really

i cant bear to talk to him or see him

i feel like he will make me sick

I goin shopping with the kids but ill be back later i might need major handholding when kids in bed x x