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Husband on dating sites-how original

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dhisawanker · 18/09/2013 09:57

Found out that h has been on dating sites such as 'shagoholic' 'gay partners' 'upforit' and he now classes himself as bisexual. This is not the first time. He was doing it before we married

i had it out with him and apparently its all my fault because i didnt love him enough. Im a fucking bitch and he is done with me? er i threw u out matey

he is staying at his mums and i feel lost, cheated and marriage was a fraud

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Blondeorbrunette · 18/09/2013 18:54

We are all here for you x

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dhisawanker · 18/09/2013 21:40

im still reading his profiles

still can not get my head round it

I have wine. know im gonna wake up with bad head tomo but i just want to sleep

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dhisawanker · 18/09/2013 21:45

Open minded to a fault! Love to naughty chat n flirt. Can be very wordy. If ya want that sort of thing. Busy boy buts wants to make time for discreet sexy like minded individuals
They are looking for

Any local ladies who are a little saucy! I may have to try many many of u lovely ladies before finding the one that ignites my fire. Sexx in *** tonight?
About me Gender : Male
Age : 43
Starsign : Capricorn
Orientation : Bisexual
Looking for : Saucy Email or chat
Other
Discreet Relationship
Marital Status : Married
Playing Safe : - Not Given -
Smokes : Yes
Drinks : Light
Shaved : - Not Given -
Pierced : - Not Given -
Statistics Height : - Not Given -
Weight : - Not Given -
Race : Caucasian
Build : Slim
Eyes : Brown
Hair : Dark Brown
Glasses : - Not Given -
Facial Hair : - Not Given -
Endowed : - Not Given -
Cut : - Not Given -

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dhisawanker · 18/09/2013 21:46

says it all really doesnt it x sorry had wine

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dhisawanker · 18/09/2013 21:47

oh and there is a lovely graph too
My tastes
To go down on you
100%
For you to do the same
100%
Playing with toys
70%
Take you from behind
80%
Be taken from behind
40%
Same gender fun
10%
Couples or groups
10%
Dressing up
90%
Be master or mistress
20%
Do it outside
100%
When it hurts a little
0%

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AnyFucker · 18/09/2013 21:50

Are you going to stay with this fuckwit ?

Snazzyenjoyingsummer · 18/09/2013 21:57

What a miserable creature he is for being a liar and a cheat and blaming all this on you. Whatever he has said about you (which is likely to be total rubbish anyway) would not excuse him going behind your back. If he was a decent person he would at the very least have said he wanted out of the marriage because he was unhappy and wanted to be with other people. He didn't and he isn't. Not your fault.

On a totally random note, strange that though he now thinks he's bisexual, he only put 10% for 'same gender fun'. Presumably he's only a little bit bisexual Hmm He is 100% idiot though.

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dhisawanker · 18/09/2013 21:59

At last!! Thank you AF

im reading and reading and i know i am wasting my head space

i just cant help flaying myself

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dhisawanker · 18/09/2013 22:01

he says he justs wants love?? after work obviously as he put his work postcode

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AnyFucker · 18/09/2013 22:03

Let it all out, love. Do what you gotta do. But for God's sake don't stay with this tosser.

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dhisawanker · 18/09/2013 22:05

I cant stop crying.

i cant believe or want to believe he has done this. but apparently he only looked as he is soo fucking tight he wouldnt pay for the subscription anyway

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AnyFucker · 18/09/2013 22:15

The evidence is there in black and white, love

Have a bloody good cry tonight. Then tomorrow, get ice cold. You don't need a loser like this in your life.

Blondeorbrunette · 18/09/2013 22:22

Here here af.

You need to stop tormenting yourself reading his profiles.

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dhisawanker · 18/09/2013 22:40

i know all this my head knows but the rest of me is well ...fucking stupid

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AnyFucker · 18/09/2013 22:45

Let your head make the decisions. Is this the way you want to live ?

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dhisawanker · 18/09/2013 22:52

I figured out all his passwords

he is fucking stupid

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AnyFucker · 18/09/2013 22:53

And you are far too good for him

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dhisawanker · 18/09/2013 22:56

no
i want to have an honest relationship on where i can be myself. i feel swallowed up in this mess

my 20 year old self would of kicked his arse out the door and laughed

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AnyFucker · 18/09/2013 22:57

You are still that 20yo inside.

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dhisawanker · 18/09/2013 23:02

i am just a mess. how do i let him have this power over me
i dont get how it happened

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dhisawanker · 18/09/2013 23:04

im 20 year old inside but looking a bit battered outside. im feeling sorry for myself

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AnyFucker · 18/09/2013 23:07

Feeling sorry for yourself is allowed. For a little while. As long as you don't feel sorry for him when he snivels and begs.

You may never understand why he did this to you. Sometimes they simply do it because they want to, nothing more complicated than that.

At this point, it is in the past. His power over you can stop any time you like. Yes. It can.

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dhisawanker · 18/09/2013 23:12

I know

I feel i need to let it out im crying over what i thought we were. turns out it was a lie.

i just wanted a normal loving relationship not this. And kids involved too

i just want the pain to end

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dhisawanker · 18/09/2013 23:16

im so glad i deleted his number cos im close to texting for him to come home

wtf is wrong with me

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AnyFucker · 18/09/2013 23:16

Aww. It is horrible, horrible

There are not many more things in life that can make you feel this bad.

Remember this though, when your tears dry. He's just a man. Would that 20yo let a man bring her so low. No fucking way. Get it allllll out, then have a good dig around for your mojo, it is still in there, lurking. One man does not have the power to quash it forever.