Dh keeps doing something I don't like in bed

[Moochicken]

Without wanting to go into too much detail, dh keeps doing something during sex which I don't like. I ask him not to and after a few minutes he does it anyway.

It doesn't happen every time but he did it again last night. He apologized after and said he won't do it again (he says this everytime) and now he can't understand why I'm still pissed off.

How seriously would you take this? If I said no and stopped sex he would listen and would never force me to do something but I still feel uncomfortable that he basically ignores my wishes.

There is something very wrong with a person who goes a reply like you did on a thread like this

Or you have hair sprouting from your knuckles as they drag on the floor

*gives

Or perhaps I was right first time, what with you being such a goer

Oh dear....

None of my business, donkey but you should imply that someone is sexually repressed and frigid. because they do not have the same sexual prefrences as you do. You can't dictate what people do or don't do with their partners. x
Also it is beyond insensitive to use the word frigid as there are lots of reasons why a women could be frigid. A women could be frigid because she may have suffered abuse of heaven forbid been raped in the past, would you make fun of her for not being a sexually liberal as you. Too many grey areas to pass judgement. x

So I provide a viewpoint which is different to yours, which is that this is some serious sexual assault, and so I should fuck off ? very funny.

I've never tried doggy style. (I'm not a dog so I don't shag like one)

On an aside, we are primates and most primates do it doggy style, which is the style most mammals use, so maybe it should be considered mammal style and bird style, even insect style, but not sure about reptiles.

I wonder what missionaries actually prefer. thinking whether it would make a nice social science project - all that travelling to exotic countries in search of missionaries

so I should fuck off

You could always try it. You might enjoy it.

Donkey it is sexual assault. Your viewpoint is wrong.

Lweji. I might push the boat out tonight and ride on top. xx

I'm all for sexual liberation and experimentation, but one person persistently doing something that the other does not like, is not it. Obviously.

It also means they are not sexually compatible. He clearly likes to be experiment in bed where as OP does not want to. So really the option is to find compatible partners or become a bit liberated in bed

Donkey - so your idea of becoming liberated is to allow someone to sexually assault you?

I do agree that the OP's H is totally out of line. She should be able to enjoy sex without pressure to engage in 'activities' that turn her off.

However, I am totally shocked how frigid some of the posters on this thread are (not you though, op x). Saying you've never tried doggy style because you're not a dog is sort of like when women say they didn't/do not breastfeed because they're not a cow! Sounds bizarre!

A man is also entitled to have preferences in bed. I like to please my dh in bed & am open minded to 'experimentating' to an extent but I also let himnow if I'm uncomfortable with something, he respects that. He's ever forced me anything on me. The GOP's H does not sound like a considerate lover tbh.

Lordy. If only I'd known that when FWEx was raping me it was because we were incompatible in bed. It could have changed history

*OP

About frigidity

"Many clinicians now regard frigidity to be a sexist term"

From Britannica: "inability to experience a sexual response of any kind; ability to achieve sexual arousal only with great difficulty (hyposexuality); and the inability to achieve orgasm (anorgasmia)."

Failing to see how someone who enjoys sex and has orgasms can be frigid by only enjoying one or few sexual positions or refusing to accept being sexually assaulted.

Also, it's not just my viewpoint that it's sexual assault, it's objectively classified as such under English law.

In regards to my comment made on 6.9.13 at 13.38.45. (in and outs of a ducks arse there) Line 1 Apologies I missed the word "Not".xx

Next line of defense for rape: we are just not compatible in bed. I wanted sex and she didn't.

Also, Donkey, can I ask you what drew you to mumsnet? Always interested to get to know newbies...

Also, Donkey, can I ask you what drew you to mumsnet

Probably donkey's wife posted about how she didn't like that he kept doing something sexual to her that she kept telling him not to.

I kind of get where you're coming from donkey perhaps because (by op's own admission) her H has much higher sex drive than her, the are incompatible in bed. But to be fair, the op has a small baby so it's understandable that she doesn't really feel like sex much. It does also sound as though her H is quite inconsiderate in bed.

Well, maybe not all newbies, but, you know, just a bit curious. Curious as to why someone would show up for the first time on a thread by a woman who's unhappy with what her husband is doing to her, and may have to get her head round the fact that it is even worse than she thought, in that his behaviour is not just a bit insensitive but is in fact assault, a thread where women have described how they've had ex partners who started with this sort of behaviour and then escalated to rape, why someone would show up on this sort of thread and post, well, inflammatory shite?