I think I'm going to finish with DP

[Johnny5needsinput]

I'm a regular. Please don't out me if you recognise me. I am female the user name is from a film called short circuit.

I'm going to finish with DP. I feel sick.

Take care of yourself Johnny you're doing really well.

If your best friend is willing to drop his stuff to his sister, let her.

It's not a coincidence that he has chosen her to contact you - he knows she is your friend and is using her to get to you. Be aware that she is his sister first, your friend second. Step back from her, for now at least.

Squitten - that's exactly what I thought. Manipulative.

I'm not doing that great. Have eaten my body weight in chocolate and am chain smoking. Friend due at 7.30.

Glad your friend will be with you any minute and well done. Must have been hard giving her the message but so manipulative of him to do it that way when the only message he had from you was that you wanted to chat. I hope that it's all done with now x

I reckon he wanted to make me u comfortable by having to tell her.

Sod him. He's not worth it. Chalk it up to experience, call it a lucky escape and move on.

I'm still puzzled by the whole degree thing that started it though. But. I can't figure it out. I never will. And it will give me brain ache to try.

UNCOMFORTABLE.

I remember the degree thread, how he made you doubt yourself and think you were going crazy.

I know anxiety can creep up on you and take over, but you are beating that AND not allowing yourself to be used by this man either.

You are so strong... Don't let yourself forget how much you have already achieved.

It's highly likely that he believes his own version of events. People like this often seem to manage to create an alternate universe where things did and didnt happen according to what they think ought to have happened, not according to fact...All very convenient.

Hey Johnny I hope you are having a good old chinwag with your friend now and laughing at his ridiculousness

Do you know what the answers are to all your questions? Why he dd this or that or the other? The anaswer is

IT DOESN'T MATTER

It won't change anything. You'll never really get to the bottom of it. And it won't mke you feel better to know

I have struggled througha horrendous break up in the last year or so and I tortured myself about what went wrong? Why did he change? What did I do? Why doesn't he love me? Why does he love her?

And then I realised that all of that shit just doesn't matter!

Even now, I sometimes catch myself wondering, so I give myself a shake and say to myself "IT DOESN'T MATTER!" and it really does help

What does matter is that you look after yourself. Have a think about what you want in the future and move on forward.

That made me laugh. She's left about 9 - we didn't talk about him as much as I thought we would. He's not worth my time or energy. That gives him power over me, it's what he wants. Me. Worrying and talking about him. He's not getting that. He isn't going tiger what he wants out of me anymore.

If I fake it til I make it that'll be enough.

Go girlfriend! ;)

Damn!

< pom poms >

Yay

What a creepy sounding bloke. You are well rid and well done for seeing through him. He has issues. None of it is your fault

Not so great right now. I let him away with so much.

And now you are not. Congratulate yourself.

That made me smile. So true. Onwards and upwards and leave him trailing in my wake.

How are you today johnny? All peaceful for you I hope!

I have not heard a dicky bird from him.

Is this it? Is it just going to fizzle out like a damp squib?

Hopefully, Johnny.

Try to put him out of your mind every time he pops in. Have you dropped his stuff over to his sister's yet?

Just back. Did a dump and run. Didn't stop to talk to her purposely had dd with ke

You are impressive!! Keep it up, and NC is great!! Hope it lasts.

Hope you're ok OP. Must feel really strange for you. His behaivour is really bizzare.

I feel really odd. The house is quiet.