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I think I'm going to finish with DP

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Johnny5needsinput · 02/09/2013 18:14

I'm a regular. Please don't out me if you recognise me. I am female the user name is from a film called short circuit.

I'm going to finish with DP. I feel sick.

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Fairenuff · 06/09/2013 19:19

Remember how you said it was just stuff you could live without. You don't need the key back, you've changed the locks.

Do tell people that you are no longer together. The more you talk about it, the more real it will seem.

Hang on in there, you're doing great. And enjoy the party!

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SweetSeraphim · 06/09/2013 20:06

What Fairenuff said. Just honestly write it all off. He's using it as a reason for you to have to get in touch with him. Ignore him and go and have a good time.

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nenevomito · 06/09/2013 20:43

Its possible that in a few weeks time, just when you've started to feel much better and life is getting back to its new normal, he'll be in touch and through you right out of kilter again.

Either that or he's just a cowardly fucker who has been caught out and is too childish to face it.

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Johnny5needsinput · 07/09/2013 06:58

I'm not bothered about the stuff. I'd like it back, but it's no biggie if I don't get it.

Me and DD had a great night last night - it did feel weird to tell people at the start of the night that I wasn't with DP any more but after that we just danced and chatted and really had a brilliant night. I could be loud and obnoxious and talk and snog and dance with out mr grumpy sitting in the corner with a face on.

Got home about 3 Blush.

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Johnny5needsinput · 07/09/2013 06:59

Snog?? Sing !!! There was no snogging.

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Vivacia · 07/09/2013 07:02

Ha ha! Glad you had a good night.

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Johnny5needsinput · 07/09/2013 07:05

It was a brilliant night. It was exactly what I needed - a night out with people who were friends of mine and not joint friends. And they are younger than me and very loud and very silly and it was just brilliant. Like my nan would have said, it was just the tonic I needed. Even though I really didn't want to go beforehand Blush

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Lizzabadger · 07/09/2013 07:06

You can snog away now!!

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Johnny5needsinput · 07/09/2013 07:08

I read another thread and a poster described how their faults were put out on display so they could be corrected, and his needs were put first - and that is exactly what he did to me. I'm not perfect, but I'm not a bad person and if there's ever a next potential mr johnny5 and he doesn't like me and thinks he's for changing me, he can jog on.

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changeforthebetter · 07/09/2013 07:18

You sound great Johnny Smile

Onwards and upwards without the wankferret in your life! Wine

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Johnny5needsinput · 07/09/2013 07:29

I'm really not that great, but thanks Thanks. I miss him. But not enough to want him back. If we had still been together I probably wouldn't have gone last night because he would have moaned and huffed and puffed and it would have been easier to stay at home.

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changeforthebetter · 07/09/2013 09:54

perhaps you don't miss him, just a someone to share stuff with. driving home from work after a tough day I'd love to have a dp for a hug. I get two stroppy overtired primary kids instead. but I really wouldn't have my wankferret back. I'm worth more and si are you Wink

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Johnny5needsinput · 07/09/2013 10:02

Lol that made me smile. You're right.

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Fairenuff · 07/09/2013 10:06

So glad you went out and enjoyed yourself Johnny. Maybe make a note of that and stick it on your fridge so that next time, if you can't be bothered, it will give you that little reminder.

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Johnny5needsinput · 07/09/2013 19:10

Thanks all. Tonight I am not so good. I suspect even though I don't drink I am knackered after last night.

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Vivacia · 07/09/2013 19:40

What have you got planned for the evening?

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Johnny5needsinput · 07/09/2013 19:53

Nthing. Dd has a friend round. We are out all day tomorrow at my cousins. So a night off is no bad thing.

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Vivacia · 07/09/2013 19:55

Are you in to the X Factor? I'm going to join in with the thread in Telly Addicts at 8.

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Vivacia · 07/09/2013 19:55

That's the rock and roll lifestyle I live, you see?

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Johnny5needsinput · 07/09/2013 20:05

Lol. Similar but foyles war here

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Johnny5needsinput · 09/09/2013 19:06

This is not a good night. I'm sitting here in tears. I miss him.

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PseudoBadger · 09/09/2013 19:10

Read back through the thread. Remind yourself what an arse he is. Turn off your phone and delete his number.

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Johnny5needsinput · 09/09/2013 19:12

He still hasn't contacted me. Not a word. No text. No phone call. No visit. No flowers. No dramatic gesture. Is that really all I was worth? Nothing?

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tripper20 · 09/09/2013 19:18

You are worth more than all the empty words, texts, calls, flowers he could send. He's hoping you'll be missing him and is waiting for you to contact him. Then you'll be back to square one - again.

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Johnny5needsinput · 09/09/2013 19:21

I haven't contacted him. I won't. That would give him power over me. I know that, logically. But god I miss him.

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