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Is this an accusation?

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HoopersGinger · 15/08/2013 10:41

In a long distance relationship for a year. I guess I have been a bit cool with the texts this week as I am a bit strung out alone with the kids off school and don't feel particularly into " sexting". I guess I would feel a bit of a prick if I sent a sexy text and my partner ignored it but that is what I did last night. I basically read it and fell asleep.

Today he texted and said I have let him down. He wants the sexy girl back he fell in love with and he said to be honest I am acting like I am seeing someone else. I have been cool this week as having doubts about him in general. I suppose it is fair he has picked up on this but is it out of order to accuse me of seeing someone else? We have texted and chatted most days but I haven't innitiated this.

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Doodlecockaquack · 15/08/2013 12:59

Sounds like you have enough on your plate without his drama. Let him down gently, but don't string this out any longer. Good luck x

AnyFucker · 15/08/2013 13:03

Yuk,, he is an immature drama junkie

Get rid

QuintessentialOldDear · 15/08/2013 13:05

Good grief. You are in a long distance relationship, he wants to move in and have a baby, but you already have 4, he wants you to have nr 5 yet he complains when you are human and stressed with 4???

Dump.

Twinklestein · 15/08/2013 13:28

You need to work out what you want in the present and in the future with us. And tell me

I agree with him actually, you need to work out what you want & tell him to piss off for good

Twinklestein · 15/08/2013 13:29

Yeah he really does sound dire OP.

He's basically a fifth child who will be pestering you for sex for ever.

BurtNo · 15/08/2013 13:31

i can see why but you're just not that into him and its slowly dawning on him hence the desperate and changeable approach on his part

MariaLuna · 15/08/2013 13:42

I agree.

He can't even deal with your reality of having 4 DC, yet wants a baby with you (while expecting you to play "sexy girl" permanently).

Now he's stropping that you didn't invite him camping?

He sounds like a child himself.

Be thankful he's long distance, you won't have to see him around.

MexicanHat · 15/08/2013 16:55

Sorry OP can't really add to what the others have said just wanted to tell Isla that she made me laugh out loud!!!

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HoopersGinger · 15/08/2013 17:36

Thanks all. . Had my phone off. He reckons I took it all the wrong way

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AnyFucker · 15/08/2013 17:42

No, you took it the right way

he's the wrong'un

LEMisdisappointed · 15/08/2013 17:50

"sexy times" is he borat? if he isn't then he has no excuse, dump him

Anniegetyourgun · 15/08/2013 17:53

What they all said ^ . Clearly the poor child man is suffering from lack of attention. He needs someone who doesn't have any responsibilities and never gets tired or has their phone off, so they can talk about maybe having babies for ever without actually having to deal with a real live one. Set him free to find her. (But for fuck's sake don't send him my way.)

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HoopersGinger · 15/08/2013 18:35

I think we just split up actually. Now I feel sad because I am actually rather a pathetic specimen. He kept saying he just wants his sexy girlfriend back and I should be like I was at the start of the relationship. He wants to be a dad and not just to my 2 little ones who don't see their Dad, but only if we have one of our own, given my age and financial situation this is unlikely. I don't want to get 3 years down the line and he walks out on them.

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HoopersGinger · 15/08/2013 18:37

I mean I wouldn't even try for a baby unless things were great in 3 years and given the situation now that us not likely.

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HoopersGinger · 15/08/2013 18:39

LEM you made me do a little lol and Annie if you're of child bearing age look out

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HoopersGinger · 15/08/2013 18:39

And AF thanks for the back up

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HoopersGinger · 15/08/2013 18:41

He did say he is an arse and I should have ignored him when he said don't moan about the kids.

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cozietoesie · 15/08/2013 18:41

You're not pathetic, Hoopers. Getting shot of a childish egotist is quite the opposite in fact.

Enjoy your new freedom.

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HoopersGinger · 15/08/2013 18:43

Sorry I am bumping my thread here like a maniac! Not intentionally Blush

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HoopersGinger · 15/08/2013 18:45

Thanks cozie

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AnyFucker · 15/08/2013 19:40

HG, I think it is for the best if you have broken up

the man is a dick and far too inadequate for you and your kids

he is little more than a whiny kid himself

ImperialBlether · 15/08/2013 19:48

He is inadequate and all the rest but at the same time it's irritating in a long distance relationship if someone isn't communicating. You were at fault for not talking straight to this man. You haven't initiated talking to him, you have been cool with him, etc - why didn't you just talk to him directly?

AnyFucker · 15/08/2013 19:52

Yes, you should have told him straight to fuck right orf really Smile

ImperialBlether · 15/08/2013 19:55

That's what I meant! Talk directly! Pick up the phone and say, Oy, you really are a waste of time. Now go and sexy text someone else.

kinkyfuckery · 15/08/2013 19:58

He sounds like a plank. What are you going to do/say when he comes begging for another chance?