My marraige is over...

[Lemmingswife]

I know it is for the best, but I am hurting really bad atm & keep thinking of my poor babies.

Do you have Sky? Perhaps you should cancel the contract (making a saving in the process) and then presumably he will have no reason to delay his move.

Good luck for today. Hope you have found a more effective solicitor.

How has it gone LW? I have been thinking of you today!

lol at the porn. It can't have been that good or he wouldn't have fallen asleep (-:

How are things LW.. hope things went well for you at the solicitors this aft

Hi, I am back. It went ok, he seemed quite a good solicitor. Will start a new thread explaining how I got on, as soon as H goes out!
Thank you for thinking of me.

Cancelling the Sky contract seems a good idea! 'to save money now that you will both need to pay for the divorce etc'.

Hope plans for the BS party are going well - have fun!

Hi LW. Hope you are feeling better today. Lots of people out here wishing you well.

Thanks for your message Blu. I am no expert on sh*tty relationships, but having had some experience of an abusive partner, I took lots of time to reflect on the whole thing afterwards. I wanted to know how I - an avowed feminist as a teenager - could have ended up feeling so downtrodden, and accepting such poor behaviour for so long.

That's why I will say again and again to LW that she mustn't feel guilty or a "failure" - she must be a strong woman to have put up with such behaviour from H and parents alike - and yet still retain enough sense of her self-worth to understand that she has not been treated fairly or kindly.

LW - you know that this divorce stuff could drag on for months or even years - you will have to be sooooo strong, but it will be worth it. Take care.

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Thanks, smellen.
Your posts are very good & I can relate to all of your descriptions of how these kind of men make you feel etc.
My counsellor told me I was very strong when I saw her yesterday, but I don't see myself as very strong at all. It has taken me a long time to get where I am. I will not be bullied into staying with H by my parents though.
I know it is going to be a very very hard & horrible process.
I have started a new thread explaining my solicitor appointment.

I was also raised as a feminist,intellectually,but the environment was one of deference to men,keep them "sweet"my brother got all the positive attention,a pattern i am striving to avoid within my own family!
What does Shibori mean girls?

Aha Tyedye!

Me too a feminist first adn foremost as Beety can testify to.

er, isn't it about some sort of fabric printing?

Doh! Durrrr!

I'm totally lost here!!

I think Tyedye has chaged her name to a Japanese version of tyedying!

Oh, I see! I was a tad lost there!

theres me thinking i was being clever,i didnt do a good job of being devious did i?never mind,kinda like it-exotic?

Where are you up to LW?x

LOl Shibori I think it is exotic too!

Well you had me confused for a second there, tyedye! I am easily confused atm though!
I am trying to grab 5 minutes peace while boys play their Mario game, before the squabbles start!
Had my last counselling session yesterday, as well as my solicitor appointment.
My counsellor was amazed at the last 2 months happenings!
It had to be my last session, as I have had 18 sessions, which is the absolute max that she can give me without a break, but was concerned that I am receiving so little support from my family, so told me that if I feel the need I could ring the surgery & book some more sessions.
Found yesterdays session quite hard & felt on the verge of a panic attack at one point!
Felt a bit churned up when I returned to work afterwards, but was okay after a bit.
Still had my BS party last night!

I think Shibori sounds exotic too btw!

What free goodies did you earn then?You sound like you are coping really well with an impossible situation!x
GF-dya think its exotic enough for spearmint rhino?arf-do they employ ample women in their middle years?am bottle blonde with all the assets-too many assets actually,and theyre LOWER than most

I bought some anti wrinkle eye cream!!