Dating thread 56 all welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;

1. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
   
2. It's all BS until it actually happens;
   
3. Trust your gut instinct;
   
4. If it is not fun, stop

[KinNora]

Broken is he just a bit shy ? I have a bit of a soft spot for geeks.

Do you think Buffy was possibly a bit conflicted in what she wanted Bant ?

[ALittleStranger]

I don't really do friends mixing, but what counts as too "couple-y"?

[KinNora]

stuff like going to B&Q together, 'joking' about the names of your hypothetical children, taking them to family gatherings, that kind of thing.

[KinNora]

Ohhhhhh, he's a doctor.

No, you'll never forget the chemistry you had with your ex (you have my profound understanding on that one) but it's possible you might find something even better, and have some fun in the meantime.

[ALittleStranger]

Ahh that kind of coupley. OK, I could only recall arguing over changing that damn lightbulb, seeing their bloody parents for yet another weekend, and wearing skanky scrubs around each other. All of which I was happy to avoid!

[Bant]

Broken - I think 3 hours is long enough, the way you say that you sound disappointed it didn't last longer?

Chemistry is what we all look for. I'm not sure if anyone can start something without it, but there needs to be more. Maybe think about bad points of your ex and see if you can look for people without those and with chemistry

[Snapespeare]

Thank you for comments, I think I'm just being a bit low-self-esteemy, waiting for other shoe to drop. I certainly wouldn't ask him to take it down altogether... Plus he had changed his 'looking for' to friends..and it's a good sign that he's said he got a message from someone (so he told me) I think it's just an oversight.

Feel happier. I've now processed information! :).

[Snapespeare]

(& hello lurkinglorna! Thank you for de lurking! :).

[lurkinglorna]

hi snapespeare!

Re: doctor looking at watch

Ok bit controversy here. I think some men in certain professions can be "awkward and arrogant" as they know they are respected/sought after - so they don't put much social effort in?

I don't care what a man does, although someone who likes what he does is attractive and of course no cocklodger types!

But I've had a few online contacts with doctors (or guys who earn X amount or 50k or whatever they think tends to impress women) who are very "oh, can you meet me at the last minute at the location closest to ME". erm, No, fuck off But of course for everyone who turns them down, there will be women who want to chase after them just so they can say they are dating someone with an "impressive" job...

[ALittleStranger]

I don't actually think looking at the watch is that bad. Some people do that kind of thing when they're nervous, and it never brings out the best in people if you have made back to back plans.

But I'm the kind of person who also makes people meet me at a time and location of my utmost convenience, so am maybe just tolerant guilty of crappy habits.

I am also a sucker for an impressive job, or at least a job I find interesting. Oh dear

[JulietteMontague]

Snape huge fish on it's way to you. This is Nameless, you could ask him if you wanted to. He has changed his profile to Seeing someone and looking for Friends, lots of people are on okc for friends unlike most sites. No shoe has or is about to drop, all is well

[lurkinglorna]

ha ha, brokenhearted I reckon Women in top professions tend to be more down to earth, FACT

I was in touch with someone from match.com who was a doctor, then I stopped my account for a bit. I found his pictures attractive, bit geeky but I like the skinny geek look.

He then instigated contact as we had swapped e-mail addresses, but basically was like "oh, I fancy a holiday, can I come stay at yours for a while?" (this was with about 2 days notice and we hadn't met in person). Just really...socially awkward..as if expecting me to think "oh yes, i like him so much I'm going to fit in round his schedule and promise I'll be his woman"?

[KinNora]

Do you know very many medics Broken ? There are a lot, and I mean a lot of male doctors who can be very entitled and arrogant. What Lorna says is true.
The other possibility is that (especially depending on his speciality) he may be a little socially awkward

[JulietteMontague]

Broken If it was just coffee or a drink, that is a little long for a first date anyway. Did you like him otherwise?

[Bant]

So there's a question. Sorry for the impromptu quiz, but I'm bored. What's the worst/most embarrassing/weird job anyone has ever dated.

That question makes no grammatical sense but I couldn't work out how to make it short yet sensible. I may have been drinking beer in the sun.

I dated a pub landlady once (mid 20s) very cynical but knew some great jokes. Bus driver. Cryptologist. Journo. I forget the rest

[JulietteMontague]

Ah broken, as a barrister you will know all about charming front but socially awkward, intelligent arrogant and entitled men

[KinNora]

Milkman. No, really.

[KinNora]

Oh and one was an ex-undertaker.

[ALittleStranger]

Journo isn't unusual Bant! At least not among my exes...

No one's had a comedy job. I need to up my game.