Dating thread 56 all welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;

1. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
2. It's all BS until it actually happens;
3. Trust your gut instinct;
4. If it is not fun, stop

Right I've had date with GG man. He's texting me now saying he felt like i judge a book by it's cover??but he spent half the night begging me not to text him a 'dear john' after our date. wtf?

eh? what was the cover like then Wisey?

It was like this: initially I thought he's good company. A tad unusually dressed, but good company. But I think he's a gambler, properly a gambler and I think two marriages down which went the way of the wind 'due to being married to his then job' was maybe only half the story.

And now I'm thinking he's needy. Vair, needy. Am I being harsh? Don't think so.

thanks winefiend, heels off, cup of tea and must take make up off soon otherwise I'll scare the cats in the morning.

Wisey no, you are right. Dressed 'unusually'? Spill woman

OK. pinstripe trousers, those funny not-quite pointy toe boots (smart shoes but go up to the ankle), flowery shirt (which to be fair would have looked good with jeans), and a smart charity shop bought armani jacket. leather wrist strap, rings, leather strap necklace.
Drives a flash car tho. It just didn't add up!!!!

Trying wayyyyy too hard, but he sound of it, Wisey. Do you want to give him the benefit of the doubt, though, and try a second date?

Wisey are you sure it is his car??

No not sure, it could be if his work history is true. He's still working but in a different much less pressured job he says.

He's just sent me a blank text.

Having said that, I don't think it's the clothes particularly, and his gambling is none of my business, it's a big part of his life obviously but he went out of his way to ensure I had a nice time.

And I would've had a nicer time but every time I mentioned an interest, or place or something else I'd done he did the "we'll do that next time" until we had about another 10 dates in the pipeline. I know people say that but I reckon he meant it.

All that before dessert too.

I went out with one like that .. Burnt out high flier .. Had a lot of ishoos and ERD.. Had a lotus though ..

Wisey I think the gambling is enough to say no thanks. Any sort of addicition is hell to live with if you're looking for something long term (sorry, can't remember), but if it's something more casual then just go with what your gut instinct is. The other stuff just sounds like he's trying a bit too hard.

Wisey unless something about him really tickled your fancy and you're keeping it to yourself, politely cut loose.

Afternoon all. Well I'm no further forward after date last night. I still haven't decided. Though I guess that in itself may be a sign he's not for me . He def likes me, and that makes me feel bad. There was kissage.
I'm just not sure how I feel-he's attractive, we get on great, no awkwardness last night, but I just don't think there's a spark. I still don't really fancy him.

In that case T there's probably never going to be one.

You shouldn't feel bad because he likes you, surely that's better for your self confidence than him not liking you. It's just a shame the chemistry isn't there.

You've probably got to drop him fairly soon, nicely. It's acceptable to do it by text these days apparently, especially if there's only been a bit of kissing.

Hi T - I think you've given it a good go. You've had three (?) dates, a bit of a kiss and it's still not happening. The key thing is that you feel bad about him liking you. If it was right, you'd be over the moon that he liked you. Maybe it's time to call it a day before he gets more involved.

Wisey it's the leather bracelet and necklace combo that would do it for me .

Or not, Juliette . . .

If I was lookin fer luuurrrve I wouldn't go there again.

But I'm not, so I've agreed on another date in which perhaps he'll not try so hard and he'll wear clothes he's clearly more comfortable in than those he threw put together last night.

Yea I'm shallow but I want to admire my date!!!!!!

Afternoon all.

I'm back after a OD break. RL hasn't gotten me very far. I've just been sorting my own life out and not bothering with men but its time now

I have swapped numbers with someone on OK and need to set up a date with him

That's all so far.