I'm doing it tonight. It's going to be horrible. He will cry minimum. He's not had a great relationship history, and I don't think he has a clue this is coming. I feel like a horrible bitch that has led him on.
Met in January and it has all gone too fast. He's pretty much moved in. He's not been home to his house in weeks. To start with I liked it as I'd had a lonely time, and I like his company, but now I feel suffocated.
When we met he seemed to have loads of friends and was always doing stuff. Now he just wants to stay in with TV and cuddle.
Cuddles are very nice, but we barely have sex ever. In the first couple of weeks he was v passionate, then nothing or ferry sex - roll on roll off. I've not had an orgasm in 3 months.
He is usually very nice to my children and wants to be a positive influence, but he shouted at both of them (separate incidents) yesterday. I have encouraged the fact he is an adult in the house, and deserves respect, but I'm perfectly capable of discipline, do it my way and don't need back up.
He's bought quite a few bits for the house and garden. I'm not sure how this is going to work, do I reimburse him? I have been feeding him and doing his washing and he's been using my electric for months I know I know don't say it
It's my bithday this weekend and I know he has bought me something so I need to get it over with tonight so it does not get worse.
I'm right, right?
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I'm going to break up with my boyfriend. Tell me I'm doing the right thing?
OhTiger · 13/06/2013 13:07
Listen, I've been dumped by text, a lot of people have. It's not the ideal, but you at least attempted to tell him in person, he used emotional blackmail and charm to change your mind (or try to).
He will live and....
....It's your BIRTHDAY, the first of many for an upwardly positive life.
May you find happiness within and when you do, the rest will follow 
Today, is a special day. I'm glad that your DC have their mum all to themselves today.
Happy Birthday 
I think AF has it there.
Your girls will be fine, the gift you have given them (knowing how to be a strong and independent, happy woman that has ownership of her feelings - and that it is a good thing) is one many women wish their parents had given them as part of their emotional toolbox.
It may not feel like it now but I can't tell you how much I wished my mother had stood up and showed me I could stand up too; that I didn't have to hand over my feelings and future to the first man that would take them on. Even if he had less than my best interests at heart. That I didn't have to learn that lesson the very hard way.
Also that it's fine to be sad when things change but 'better the devil you know' is not a motto to live by.
You are a wonderful mother, a thoughtful and resilient woman & you are far -far- from silly.
Enjoy your new telly, have a lovely meal with your fabulous girls and, most importantly, happy birthday! 
I do wish they'd told me before. That bothers me.
They know they are number one for me, I've always said so. I'll find out why they didn't say. I always need them to say.
That's brilliant your daughter has such great instincts on the bottom with a Womans weekly you must be proud 
SEE - even the kids were onto him. Just shows what a great decision you have made :)
Enjoy the rest of your birthday
Any second thoughts when he's texting/calling/sobbing - come right back here & well put you straight!!
She's not asking them to vet her boyfriends 
she's finding out why they didn't feel confident enough to say 'I don't like him - he's an angry person'. Big difference.
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well done for todays turn of events. You have done really well - for your girls, yourself and I wish you a fantastic Birthday - whats left of it.
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