I'm doing it tonight. It's going to be horrible. He will cry minimum. He's not had a great relationship history, and I don't think he has a clue this is coming. I feel like a horrible bitch that has led him on.
Met in January and it has all gone too fast. He's pretty much moved in. He's not been home to his house in weeks. To start with I liked it as I'd had a lonely time, and I like his company, but now I feel suffocated.
When we met he seemed to have loads of friends and was always doing stuff. Now he just wants to stay in with TV and cuddle.
Cuddles are very nice, but we barely have sex ever. In the first couple of weeks he was v passionate, then nothing or ferry sex - roll on roll off. I've not had an orgasm in 3 months.
He is usually very nice to my children and wants to be a positive influence, but he shouted at both of them (separate incidents) yesterday. I have encouraged the fact he is an adult in the house, and deserves respect, but I'm perfectly capable of discipline, do it my way and don't need back up.
He's bought quite a few bits for the house and garden. I'm not sure how this is going to work, do I reimburse him? I have been feeding him and doing his washing and he's been using my electric for months I know I know don't say it
It's my bithday this weekend and I know he has bought me something so I need to get it over with tonight so it does not get worse.
I'm right, right?
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OhTiger · 13/06/2013 13:07
Out of the mouths of babes, eh?
Enjoy your birthday! 
You must be very proud of them.
Although they didn't want to hurt your feelings they have just demonstrated exactly why the terribly hard things you have done have been worth it - they can clearly judge a person, and they now have it cemented that those instincts that will do the most work to keep them safe are spot on.
Alongside you reinforcing the idea they can always talk to you about misgivings is such a healthy place to be.
Ranty eh?...Telling language there.
It did show too that maybe you are the one that didn't see it so clearly, but you did get there and you did know that. Hence post.
How far you must have come. I have a great deal of respect for what you have done in order to get girls so switched on.
Crack open the wine and enjoy!
I'm typing this while eating a babybel as no booze for me - it's not quite the same 
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Nail on the head SGB
He thought it was because all of his previous girlfriends were mad. I know. I know.
Ah, is he still on your facebook? Time to defriend I think, or at least hide him for a while.
You've done so well and I love the turn this thread has taken, with your kids speaking up and the whole thing bringing you closer together as a family. Their instincts are spot on 
And they sound like great kids. Well done.
I managed to accidentally hide this thread from myself 
Anyone know how I unhide?
I have to see him this week to swap over some stuff. That is not going to be nice. It was supposed to be today, but I bailed. Urgh.
Must remember Womens Aid. Thank you for the reminder. Googled a bit and looks like no freedom programme around here til October
Hooray for you, Tiger! Have only got one thing to add to everyone else's fabulous advice above, which is where you said up-thread before you did kick him in to touch (well done!) "he deserves me to give him a chance" or something along that line - in your future relationships can you please, please always remind yourself that:
a) you are already giving someone a chance by going out with them in the first place;
b) that no one has the right to mess anyone about "first", before they start treating them properly; and
c) that the population of people who deserve to be treated properly from the start includes you (Well, it includes everyone of course - but that also means you! )
Onwards & upwards love 
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