So he cooks. He still can't clean up his own piss. Does he want a medal or the chest to pin it on?!
Yes, the OP should be doing more housework than her DH, with one school age DC and two days off whilst he is working.
But that shouldn't mean that he does NOTHING other than cook.
Is cooking 5 nights a week equivalent to 25% of the shitwork? No? Then he's STILL not doing his fair share.
I think that De Nile isn't just a river in Egypt, and that if the OP wrote down EVERYTHING she did in a week, including things like remembering, say, a non-uniform day, sorting out the clothes for it, you know, the THINKING part of the shitwork too, as well as the paid work, she would be surprised.
If she then wrote down exactly what her DH did over that same week, including the THINKING part of the shitwork, I suspect she would realise how much of a mug she is being taken for.
Let's see - 5 x 8 hrs paid work = 40 hrs plus 30-60 mins cooking dinner, x 5 = between 2.5-5hrs cooking.
So OP's DH does around 42.5-45 hrs a week.
3 x 8 = 24 + everything else...I'd hazard a guess that it works out to be FAR FAR FAR fucking more than the paltry 45 hrs a week her DH puts in...
Who does the bins? Cleans the bathroom? Does the washing up? Puts the dishes away? Washes the clothes? Irons them? Puts them away? Plans the following week's meals? Notices they need toothpaste or loo roll or washing powder or loo cleaner or more sponges or or or the 1,000,000 other things that need to be thought about whether they will be needed in the next week? Writes the shopping list? Does the shopping? Puts the shopping away?
Who checks to see if any birthday cards are needed? Buys those cards? Posts those cards? Who checks to see when their DD needs new clothes? Who buys those clothes?
Who tidies the bedroom? Who hoovers? Who cleans the cooker? Who mops the floors? Who notices that you are out of headache pills? Who buys the headache pills?
Who throws away out of date food from the fridge and cupboard?
You would be surprised at the 1001 jobs that often women seem to do without even noticing.
I fucking notice. And it all adds up to resentment and the realisation that you are exhausted because you are doing more than your FAIR share.
In the OP's situation, given her clarification that her DD is 7yo, and she works 2 days a week less than her DH, a FAIR split should be more like 75% shitwork for the OP, 25% for her DH.
It's not. Therefore, he's taking the piss. And leaving it on the seat too...