Dating thread no 53

[Flipper924]

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;

1. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
2. It's all BS until it actually happens;
3. Trust your gut instinct;
4. If it is not fun, stop

Off we go...

Tomorrow is drinks, so maybe a little bit of firtling around but no major rumpy pumpy. It will be good. He's good to talk to as well as the other stuff, so it's all going as I think it should at this stage.

The Showbiz thing sounds good for what it is. Nothing complicated or messy.

Well, it's not a good thing Bant, but maybe not disastrous?

Looking forward to update from Dolly, and pleased you sounding brighter OWW

Facebook is the work of the devil Kin

My second date is on Sunday evening, going for dinner to a nice country pub. Am more nervous about it that the first one, as there's a bit more at stake I guess. Just hope that sparkle is still there...

Hey Facebook is absolutely the Devil's work, I thought I was a lone voice.

OWW Indie sounds really good, excellent snogger, promising shag and good company. Sadly Showbiz has awoken the kraken that is my libido and I'm feeling the need for a daily seeing to. Arse.

That sounds lovely Hey. Second dates have always gone really well for me - you've got past that first hurdle and its the fun getting to know you stuff.

Yes Nora I am feeling a bit the same way and am requiring regular attention and tending to. Am watching telly with him by text ... It's fun.

Am back from the local pub - just had a lovely tea with xdh & DS2, stuck the telly on but am quite merry from the wine I had so don't really care, haven't even seen her speak yet (get the biatch fired I say!! haha)

OWW - I admire how you have ditched LM and moved on, Indie sounds lovely :) this is pretty much what I need to do but always seem to gravitate back to numpty when i'm feeling lonely, if he could fall off the edge of the world that would be great :)

Lubey - well done on the weightloss and non smoking, I downloaded the pdf you linked to a few threads back but haven't started yet - you are an inspiration :)

It's bizarre, isn't it OWW ? I've not been that arsed for ages and then all of a sudden it goes crazeee. I'm going to have to prod Showbiz to flirt with me in a minute, he's neglecting his duties.

The sap is rising Nora - am blaming the primeval urges of spring.

Fed I still have a few wobbles about LM, and it's easier because I don't see him around if I'm a little bit judicious about which pubs and restaurants I go in. No contact is hard at first (but I am very proud and obstinate) but it works. Indie is I think a lovely man - so far ...

Hope you'll forgive me for just coming on here for a whinge.

Having one of those days where I am feeling utterly fed up with my crappy, unfinished house. I'd love to jump in the shower. Except I don't have one, well not a plumbed in one. I am fed up with washing my hair with a jug over the bath, and (in this weather) of baths full stop. Can't sit in the garden because that's a jungle. And I can't do anything about any of it til the Ex takes the money and I get his name off the mortgage, which at this rate will take forever (3 years and counting...). I am mostly resigned to it but every so often, like today, it massively bugs me. So all a bit , coupled with for people with showers!

But on the plus side, I haven't resorted to chocolate yet :)

Velvet, i'll curse the twat with cock rot for ya right now

Oh the occasional whinge is cathartic Velvet get it off your chest, I say. Soon you'll be skinny, rid of that wanknose forever and swanning around your lovely house.

Velvet you have all my sympathy, sometimes it just really gets on your wick. Is there anything legal you can do to encourage the process along?

Ah, thanks all :) I don't want much, I'd just love to go for a shower now. The more I think about it the more it annoys me!

Apparently the weathers on the turn from tomorrow so I won't miss it too much then.

Western I could take him to a formal court hearing, problem is there's no telling how that could turn out. I'd probably have to pay him at least what he's previously asked for, it's possible it could be less, but then there's always the risk of it being (a lot) more. So I'd rather do a deal - but as he's living rent free, getting his meals cooked and clothes washed and ironed, and only paying 20% tax, and not giving me a penny, he's in no hurry! Meh.

Will keep telling myself it won't be forever hopefully :)

well the longest date in history will be over tomorrow, it was meant to be a couple of days, it turned into a week of movie sex, time stands still sex, opera sex and snogging everywhere including supermarkets . I'm going to miss him.

Thats right, rub it in Juliette

Awww Juliette

So glad this was great for you

Alright, back home now. So when she turned up I just thought oh, shame. She's photo #4 not #2. Or possibly the other way around. Either way, it didn't bode well. She was interesting to chat to, 4 hours of pretty constant chat from both sides. I just didn't fancy her though. Funny teeth and a slightly rawboned look.

Shame. She was talking about a second date in a roundabout way.

How to tell her 'no spark' without it sounding like 'I didn't fancy you'. ? Which is the truth but a bit harsh.

Cheek kisses goodnight, nothing more.

Sounds amazing Juliette! I want that!!!
I'm officially fb stalking exes new woman. I'm actually annoying myself doing it but can't help it. Goodness I need a better distraction. Hope this date tomorrow lives up to my expectations (bet it doesn't, as I don't usually have any for ODs)

Bant, shame there werent a spark there, but cant win em all can ya.

Bang, perhaps just say something like you though she was lovely and had a nice evening, but you didn't feel that there was the spark you were looking for. A compliment of sorts will always soften the blow!

How fabulous Juliette! :o :o

Bant did you find her unattractive or was there just no spark? Would you set her up with a reasonably good looking friend??

It's my perpetual OD angst, whether to give it a second go if I didn't actively fancy them but didn't think they were actively unappealing. I'm aware that I have in the past found myself massively attracted to people I barely gave a second, third or fourth look to.

Hi you lot!! He liked my dinner! I think he preferred dessert mind you ahhhh I'm a slut! And I don't care!

Bant, I always use the 'you're (compliment) and I had a really good time meeting you but I just didn't feel we had that romantic spark. Good luck etc'. In other words, I don't fancy you

Thanks for all the good wishes everyone

I also cant stand 'horny' but what other term to use?