Dating thread no 53

[Flipper924]

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;

1. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
2. It's all BS until it actually happens;
3. Trust your gut instinct;
4. If it is not fun, stop

Off we go...

and in my experience there is no reliable correlation between the caliber of the snogging and the caliber of the sex

Mercury agree re snogging/sex. Ultimately it's whether they enjoy foreplay. Can be good kissers but then straight to PIV.
Interesting to read general consensus about wanting good sex as a priority, post-marriage & with happy return of libido, I came to that conclusion. I have had some great lovers in the past, but STBXH not one of them. Looking to the future, I have no need for an H ( in the lightbulb-changing, rubbish removing sense). I make my own dosh, so what I want is a physical compatibility plus some emotional connection.
But this whole dating scene -sheesh!- it's like flipping high school ( " he didn't phone", "I wonder what he meant by that?") & all the over-thinking. I am going to have to bear rule no1 in mind, as I expect there will be a few "experiments" before a "keeper" is found.
One difficulty I have is that men in my age group -to be blunt- have mostly lost their looks. I do like at least presentable, but my bottom line is no smokers & no beer bellies. Am trying to see their souls, so to speak, but have to get past the cragginess, receding hairlines, etc.
Have many Meet Ups planned - next is walk with about 30+ on it & a good ratio of men& women.

Morning everyone,

Juliette so pleased for you, that all sounds amazing, have a safe journey back.

Moan yes, OD is a journey back in time to being 15, it's quite distressing to realise that some things don't improve.

I had to tell Showbiz off for using the word 'horny' - he's an intelligent, cultured man with a sophisticated vocabulary, why use such an ugly word ?
Have a fantastic day everyone

Nora? Can you suggest a better word? 'Excited' is too vague. 'Tumescent' is far too specific. 'Hot under the collar' could imply a nasty rash.
I've used 'het up' in the past, but that's got to be understood.

Aroused?

Sounds a bit mills & boony

I love the word 'tumescent', it's a great word. I'm going with 'frisky' or possibly 'if you need some luuuuuurrrrvin'

I like frisky. But it does remind me of a jack Russell that's going to try and shag someone's leg..

In a tizz???

juliette when are you seeing him again?

The word horny makes me feel a bit cringy. If C ever uses it I may have to dump him! I think he has used excited in the past.

It does summon up images of Austen powers on all fours on his rotating bed, doesn't it?

I don't think Mr Nice has used the word horny. He has used the word randy though which luckily has only been used in a text so he didn't see me laughing .

I'm OK with saying things in the heat of the moment so to speak but am not so good at being Pre meditated.

Where's summer gone?

Up and down like a yo-yo at the moment. Feeling a bit bollocks this morning, really missing having a proper person/relationship. I am pretty fed up that even scumbag violent abusers like Titto can find someone that loves them enough to get married and here's me still tiddling about with OD and not having anyone special in my life.

On that note, I'm thinking of calling it a day with Indie, not sure that he is what I want, nothing I can really put my finger on - we get on well, but no massive "click", things were good in bed, but not fantastic etc etc. Or maybe I should just give things a bit more of a chance, think I could well be expecting too much as it's still very early days. Really not sure what to do and I think most of it is probably down to me feeling low and pessimistic.

My mum is back home again today Hope things go better this time.

One of my sisters is causing so much shit. Hitman required

Ended it with Mr R&R yesterday. In a calm manner This relationship stuff can be so hard. He turned up after work. We both really opened up. We got to know each other better in those few hours than we have in months. Onwards and upwards I hope.

I am hot for you babeh...get those knick knacks off! I have got the raging horn at the mo...have no idea why....incredibly unusual for me....I dunno what to do with it. Look, 48, is it on or off??

OWW... I would just try to let stuff hang for a while no need to make decisions...you are going through a tough time lovely girl.

Christ, this is what Lubey must feel like all the time poor bugger...Im off to the gym...

I'm so sorry OWW not much advice really, apart from maybe give Indie a chance. I know it's so easy when feeling crap to want to throw everything away, even the good, and hibernate for a while. But you know what works for you.

And Titto can waltz off into someone else's arms because he can play at being fancy free, whereas you have all the grown up stuff to handle with the kids and real life. Does new wife even know what he's left behind? It's more than likely she's fallen for his facade not the scumbag beneath.

Good news about your mum 48. I think this thread needs our own Faceless Men, a la Game of Thrones, to deal with the likes of your sister and all the OD fuckwits

So are things still on with R&R after your talk?

Oh its On Love is the easy bit. The meat in the sandwhich is the toughie.

Is that another euphemism 48?

what about libidinous?
too pretentious?

yes, I hate the way it makes me feel 15 again, totally embarrassed at my irrational thought processes and torturous insecurities
But at least I have mostly kept them to myself and not let on to the various objects of my romantic obsessions

Haha SS No. Its all the crap that has gone on in our pasts.

Ike
funnily enough 'I've got the raging horn'
sounds so much better than 'I'm horny'
infact I can barely bring myself to type 'I'm horny' it makes me cringe so much
How did 'horn' come to be associated with sexual arousal?
Is it some phallic symbolism?