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Dating thread no 53

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Flipper924 · 06/05/2013 21:48

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;

  1. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  2. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  3. Trust your gut instinct;
  4. If it is not fun, stop

Off we go...

OP posts:
KinNora · 15/05/2013 21:44

Cheers Tigsy !

Hey that phrase 'when a man tells you...' is one of the single most useful things I've ever read on MN - I always remind myself of it.

Kirsty I think you'd need the self control of Mother Theresa to prevent yourself feeling a little carried away with a man who's great company and magnificent in bed. I'd be camping in Bride Be Lovely if it was me.

KinNora · 15/05/2013 21:44

(And that is why everyone is more sensible than I am )

Scrazy · 15/05/2013 21:48

Kirsty, well maybe he doesn't like the pressure of a relationship and all the expectations that would be on him.

TigsytheTiger · 15/05/2013 21:54

could I suggest that some men and women say that they don't want stuff that they really do want, but are afraid of.

I mean that sometimes it easy to say no thanks not for me, to things that appeal to us or attract us but also have the capacity to hurt us.

It then means that when you have set out your stall as such you are then more free to explore what you do want but were afraid of, but without the expectations?

or I could just be talking bollocks?

KirstyWirsty · 15/05/2013 21:54

I'll just play it by ear I think .. And there is that garden to consider Wink

mercury7 · 15/05/2013 21:56

I think that makes alot of sense Tigsy!

KinNora · 15/05/2013 21:58

Actually, Tigsy, rather than talking bollocks, I think you may have just described me. Don't let on though.

WarmFuzzyFun · 15/05/2013 22:00

Sex Drink Men! Grin

KirstyWirsty · 15/05/2013 22:01

Tigsy I think you could be right .. He was badly hurt by his last relationship ..

Just wait and see

TheBoy has sent me photos of his 6 pack .. They must be like buses .. I've never had a sniff at a man with one before and then 2 turn up at once
GrinGrin

HeyBeenTryingToMeetYou · 15/05/2013 22:05

Cough, Tigsy, erm, no I have no idea what you mean there

Secretservice · 15/05/2013 22:05

Evening all. What a day to miss! And while not wanting up stir things any further can I just evoke the name of Lubey to counter the argument of the thread being anti-sex and prudish. Grin

I luffs you all, even when you ignore me Grin

Kirsty I'm with Nora - who cannot possible ever have been a daft tart -. As my mam would say, why meet trouble half-way?

Glad to see you back WFF and come and share those Jaffas Snape

mercury7 · 15/05/2013 22:07

not sure I have a clue what I really want, I know what I think I want, I think I know what I think I want, I think therefore I think I am
I think Confused

OhWesternWind · 15/05/2013 22:10

BUT WHERE IS IKE?????

HeyBeenTryingToMeetYou · 15/05/2013 22:11

secret, did you have a go at the new profile? I was laughing at your description of the 20st baboushka who appears whenever a camera comes out. I am familiar with her works Grin

Scrazy · 15/05/2013 22:12

Yes, Ike's 3 hours must be up by now.

KinNora · 15/05/2013 22:18

I bet Ike's busy dropping her iron knick knacks and making sweet sweet luuuuuurve with G Ruse.

WFF that would be an ecumenical matter.

BillMasen · 15/05/2013 22:19

Erm, just for the record, this thread is great, not cliquey, pretty welcoming, certainly open minded and non judgemental.

And there are a couple of half decent blokes still posting from time to time.

mercury7 · 15/05/2013 22:20

yay Bill:o

KinNora · 15/05/2013 22:21

By the way, I do love you all too, you cheer me up when I'm pissed off, you make me see sense, you give me hope that things will be better and you remind me that I'm not the only person who struggles from time to time, so thank you.

Original poster
Flipper924 · 15/05/2013 22:25

What Nora said. There is no way to explain how much you guys helped me during a very difficult and only vaguely dating-related time. You are all very special people, and deserve lots of good things.

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VelvetSpoon · 15/05/2013 22:28

Kirsty it's confusing, but play it by ear sounds good. If you can...I am hopeless at keeping both feet on the ground. And I do need someone to sort out my garden (NOT a euphemism!)

Kin I am Grin at Brides Be Beautiful. Will it make you feel better if I say that in a horrifically boring multi party conference call earlier this week I found myself doodling C's name surrounded by a heart on my jotter and then swiftly scribbling over it because that means I didn't actually do it Blush Blush

Snapespeare · 15/05/2013 22:32
Secretservice · 15/05/2013 22:32

Yes Hey that Baboushka is like the old woman in Insidious - has always been around but looms ever larger the older I get!

Decided to wait to change my profile until I'd had my hair cut, which it was today. Now I'll have to wait til it grows out a bit - tis too short now! But something obviously needs to change, the drought has still been broken Sad It's got so bad I'm almost tempted to take Carman up on his 'drink' offer

smoothieooo · 15/05/2013 22:34

Ah feck it. Even I'm going to de-lurk to wave to everyone!

Why no loo update from Ike ?

Just a quickie to say that I might just fall into the heinous categories of being mid-40's and in a fledgling relationship. OD guy I first met in Feb, but I had a wobble a couple of weeks ago over something nasty he'd said about his ex, all explained and cleared up now. We had the 'exclusive' chat at the weekend. I do believe I'm happy Grin

Sure as shit ain't going to stop me following the thread though...

OhWesternWind · 15/05/2013 22:34

Bill!!! A rival peacock!! It will be beaks at dawn if we're not careful here . . .

Velvet have you done that thing where you add up the letters in his name and your name to make a % score of how much you love each other? Used to spend hours doing that during the less interesting moments in Mrs Bottomley's biology class ...

Currently chatting about coal deliveries, yachts and the weather in northern France. Bed is seeming a better option minute by minute.