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Dating thread no 53

999 replies

Flipper924 · 06/05/2013 21:48

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;

  1. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  2. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  3. Trust your gut instinct;
  4. If it is not fun, stop

Off we go...

OP posts:
mercury7 · 15/05/2013 20:38

oh yeah Tigsy, back in my day exams were properly hard and serious, now it's all underwater basket weaving degree's and what not Hmm
:o

mercury7 · 15/05/2013 20:40

ha ha, pretty sure you know exactly when 'that poster' started posting WinkWink

HeyBeenTryingToMeetYou · 15/05/2013 20:41

OWW It will be MASSIVE!!!!!!! That is so funny, I was listening to Doolittle on YouTube last night, and thinking that I must track down their other albums that I used to own (before they mysteriously disappeared) and was trying to think of the name of Surfer Rosa, and my stoopid memory could only come up with Barbara Rossa (WTF) before I gave up on that thinking malarkey. So thanks for that!

Djangounhinged · 15/05/2013 20:42

Thank you for the welcomes Smile.

I think my profile pics are good, but perhaps my profile wording leaves a bit to be desired! I probably sound way too stand offish and not that interested in dating - which I've been told I'm a bit like in real life.... Just not very good at opening up to new people, although I'm generally very sociable in non-dating-potential situations....

The young man - I call him SF in my head and sometimes in Evernote rants (see how much I've learned from you guys! Nicknames!) - pursued me relentlessly for a few weeks and I was so flattered, so it definitely made me Grin.... But now there are sometimes a couple of weeks between texts and in that time it ranges from Hmm to Confused to Angry. Which is why I know that ultimately I will call a halt. Might even happen soon if new POF man ticks my boxes!

Speaking of box ticking, I'm also thinking that I'm looking for someone with a degree, but wouldn't rule out someone with no degree, but excellent banter.

So, a non-1950s-dwelling, educated, witty (and emotionally sorted) man is what I'm looking for. In a remote part of the country with quite high unemployment. Erm.....

VelvetSpoon · 15/05/2013 20:44

Django welcome - other than that not much I can say which hasn't been said already! But any questions feel free to ask :)

Hey your poor thing if you are my personality twin Grin I do rather think that's more fun than a hand twin! And the glam is not constant, I am currently wearing my hair in plaits and some rather unfetching trackie bottoms with the word OMG up the leg...yes I still think I am 15 Blush

Scrazy I certainly don't expect everyone to agree. As I said, I think everyone should be able to voice their opinions, respect the opinions of others and ultimately agree to differ, just as we have to in all walks of life.

durestasiesta · 15/05/2013 20:45

Mercury, like I have said, I am a longterm on and off lurker.

Djangounhinged · 15/05/2013 20:47

Oh Tigsy height and muscles are on my list too! Although latest POF man doesn't look too muscular....

HeyBeenTryingToMeetYou · 15/05/2013 20:48

Velvet well I am wearing my jammies and a dressing gown, in 15 year old style Wink

Django, I think pics are probably more important than profile, and don't forget you can tweak it as time goes on. I completely changed my POF wording after a few days, as it just didn't seem to suit the vibe on there (whereas it perfectly suited the OKCupid vibe). And hey, I've dated 3 whole different men, so I am a total expert on here Grin.

RockWithaJaggedyBit · 15/05/2013 20:49

Just popping out of lurkdom (again) to say that I have read these threads for a long time (and I mean a LOOOONG time) and I have to say duresta I have no idea what you're talking about. I find the thread at the moment to be the most supportive, friendly and welcoming that I can remember.

The only reason I don't contribute is not because of some "clique intimidation", but rather because quite frankly I really don't belong here. I'm not dating, I am long-time married, happily (not smug, I hope). Oh yes MsC I'm in my forties too, so shoot me. I lurk because I love hearing your stories, how you're all getting on, and because I've been around so long feel as though I "know" you.

Ok if i stick around?

mercury7 · 15/05/2013 20:50

of course it is Rock:o

Snapespeare · 15/05/2013 20:51

Yes it's certainly interesting when one does a search to find other posts by people to establish a bit of background or continuity. I wonder if you might be a name changer Durestasiesta ?

Oh, and I've reported your post suggesting that mercury has an acid-tongue and might wish to get laid as a personal attack. Because it is.

May I gently remind the thread that the last time watch was named, she asked that we desist from talking about her behind her back, because she didn't frequent the thread regularly anymore, and presuming that this is still how she feels, then we should respect that, because she isn't here to defend herself.

velvet your mega-post was fab.

Scrazy · 15/05/2013 20:54

durestia, how come you didn't jump to 'that posters' defense at the time then? Wink

JulietteMontague · 15/05/2013 20:54

Dures

Mercury is acid tongued (er, no)
Mercury is acid tongued because she needs to get laid more (yep, that will sort the uppity woman)

All this in your first posts, irony, much?

TigsytheTiger · 15/05/2013 20:56

rock was it you who posted some very good advice about my STBXH's fraudulent tax situation? Sorry if I've got you mixed up, but of it was you, thank you so much as you made me investigate it further and now have a much better settlement prospect Grin

Scrazy · 15/05/2013 20:56

MsC brought it up, Snape, no names have been mentioned to protect the innocent and all that. The new poster seems to want to talk about it.

durestasiesta · 15/05/2013 20:58

Im sure at some point mercury herself has said she likes to post to wind people up as she likes to amuse herself with it and doesnt take it seriously.

I lurk on and off, Im not on anyones side so dont need to defend or argue with anyone, I saw Mrsc's post today, i felt compelled to post.

TigsytheTiger · 15/05/2013 20:58

Deja vue Hmm

Snapespeare · 15/05/2013 20:58

And sorry, thread, I'll go and look up some doctor who spoilers just now, because I find this casting-up and finger pointing tedious. I shall cluck-off to gallifreybase for a bit or take some Jaffa cakes &rum to the darkened room for a bit.

JulietteMontague · 15/05/2013 20:59

Dures in deference to what Snape just said I've said I'm not commenting further on anything about that the incident with that poster.

HeyBeenTryingToMeetYou · 15/05/2013 21:02

Deja snore

mercury7 · 15/05/2013 21:03

you should go on mastermind with me as your specialist subject Durest:o

TigsytheTiger · 15/05/2013 21:06

mercury Grin

RockWithaJaggedyBit · 15/05/2013 21:07

Yep Tigsy that was me . . . glad to hear the bastard Ex isn't getting away with it!

Scrazy · 15/05/2013 21:07

Agree, perhaps it's better to let it drop now. Welcome to all today's new posters and delurkers.

EternalRose · 15/05/2013 21:10

Velvet- I am genuinely sorry if I came across as sounding like I am all-knowing it was not my intention. It's not the first time someone has said this to me on the thread, so I seem to do it unintentionally, but then I guess that's the downside to communicating on the internet, you cant hear the inflections etc.

I wont go on anymore about it, but I have been on a learning curve recently. I have been reflecting on both my long term relationships (abusive) and feeling like I need to learn from my mistakes once and for all. You sound like a lovely woman, and I am definitely not out to judge you.

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