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I need to get laid

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fastdriver · 26/04/2013 14:37

That's it really.

I separated six months ago (after several sexless years). I was a faithful wife.

I don't want another relationship, I don't want to shag anyone else's man (either deliberately or inadvertently), I don't want to end up with genital herpes of anything similar.

I want a NS relationship that's mostly about sex (God I sound desperate Grin).

I'm fussy about men, don't like bald or shaved heads, beards, paunches or poor hygiene.

I'm 42 and reasonably attractive.

How do I make this happen? Most men are gagging for it, aren't they? It can't be that difficult but I don't know where to start...

Has anyone been in this situation or can give me any advice?

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Darkesteyes · 26/04/2013 21:11

And a side effect of this is that smear tests are VERY painful.

Loulybelle · 26/04/2013 21:23

Oh dark, i need another smear test, omg its awful and last time my tight fanjo was commented on,

Darkesteyes · 26/04/2013 21:25

My last one was 2 years ago and it was so painful i was in tears Its horrible isnt it Sad Thanks

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fastdriver · 26/04/2013 21:27

So you want to be shagged by someone who you like and want to spend time with, who you fancy and who isn't shagging anyone else.

I believe that's called marriage

That's a joke, right? Marriage is none of the above

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fastdriver · 26/04/2013 21:28

Darkest why don't you leave?

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Loulybelle · 26/04/2013 21:28

Fast, it depends on the kind of marriage.

boyfromipinema · 26/04/2013 21:30

Well mine wasn't ..... But in an ideal world it would be the above.
Your description sounds a bit more then a no strings attached thing

Darkesteyes · 26/04/2013 21:30

Im sorry that you had a comment aimed at you when you went last time. In my case both the nurses know my situation well because they were administering my contraceptive injection and they tell me when ever i go for a smear that i deserve better.

boyfromipinema · 26/04/2013 21:31

Tight fanjo loulybelle?
Bet you don't put that on your dating profile

Loulybelle · 26/04/2013 21:32

I dont think she meant harm by it Dark, it was more an observation she noticed i musta had a c section

Boy, that would be my idea of marriage too.

Loulybelle · 26/04/2013 21:33

X posted, Hell no i wouldnt Boy, oh the response from freaks and weirdos would be disturbing.

boyfromipinema · 26/04/2013 21:36

You sound a bit like me louly... A hopeless romantic

Darkesteyes · 26/04/2013 21:38

fast there is a lot to this which includes cultural abuse by my DM. When she found out about my OM back in 2003 after i had been seeing him for a couple of months she cried and shouted and screamed and banged her hands on the floor begging me not to leave. Ive been emotionally abused gaslighted by DM and DH refused to go for counselling when i asked him to before the affair. I veer from crying a lot to feeling completely numb. Last week i started a healthy eating plan. Im having 2 Weetabix for breakfast and fish and vegetables for dinner. I have cut out all treats and all carbs. I want to be attractive again. So ive stopped comfort eating now and hope to meet someone.
Im determined that my next smear test will not be so painful.

Loulybelle · 26/04/2013 21:39

yeah Boy, i suppose i am, i want someone i enjoy being with, doing things with, im adaptable so i would take on someone elses interests aswell as my own, i think thats a key to a good relationship, being able to share knowing the person is interested too.

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fastdriver · 26/04/2013 21:39

Well I would't want a NSA thing with someone I didn't like and fancy.

And the 'no-one else' thing isn't about wanting commitment, rather it's I'd rather have an exclusive arrangement with someone for as long as it lasted. Would anyone want a lover who was shagging around? It's too risky. And without any expectation that it would lead to anything like living together. I love having my own bed and bathroom, my kids aren't at an age where they would want, or I would want them to have, a stepfather.

Definitely wouldn't want to saddle myself with another husband!

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Loulybelle · 26/04/2013 21:41

i get it Fast, you wouldnt want to me with someone whos get his fingers in too many pies, you want exclusive dating.

Darkesteyes · 26/04/2013 21:42

i dont believe in marriage any more. My faith in it has been completely destroyed.

Loulybelle · 26/04/2013 21:44

Dark, i tell ya my mum has been with her partner for nearly 15 years, they have my little sister and all the rights of a married couple, but neither wants to get married again, marriage isnt the main goal in life.

I'd like to get married, and very nearly did, if i did divorce im not sure i'd re marry.

boyfromipinema · 26/04/2013 21:46

NSA relationships are cool, but it probably will require a specific type of bloke who will fit the bill. Probably someone who is not long put of a long term relationship and not looking for anything serious, is late forties, fit and has own teeth and hair ;-)

boyfromipinema · 26/04/2013 21:47

Or a convict who gets day release

Loulybelle · 26/04/2013 21:49

or most blokes that i've encountered.

boyfromipinema · 26/04/2013 21:51

So cynical Loulybelle...at such a young age

Loulybelle · 26/04/2013 21:52

I know, a mardy 30 yr old, but i must give off the i love twats aura.

Darkesteyes · 26/04/2013 21:53

I guess what i meant was i dont believe in relationships any more.

Sorry Bit maudlin tonight.

Loulybelle · 26/04/2013 21:54

Dark, i feel the same, trying to study when you feel like a moody cow aint easy.

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