I need to get laid

[fastdriver]

That's it really.

I separated six months ago (after several sexless years). I was a faithful wife.

I don't want another relationship, I don't want to shag anyone else's man (either deliberately or inadvertently), I don't want to end up with genital herpes of anything similar.

I want a NS relationship that's mostly about sex (God I sound desperate ).

I'm fussy about men, don't like bald or shaved heads, beards, paunches or poor hygiene.

I'm 42 and reasonably attractive.

How do I make this happen? Most men are gagging for it, aren't they? It can't be that difficult but I don't know where to start...

Has anyone been in this situation or can give me any advice?

[Loulybelle]

Spence, i know a girl on another thread has met a guy on POF, its early days, but shes happy and he sounds nice.

[AnyFucker]

What about "my single friend" started by that buxom lass of the Telly?

I think that is a bit less "meat market"

[spenceuk]

well at least thats something then

my issue is that im not looking for No strings sex but at the same time not ready for a full blown relationship after just coming out of one.

Id like to meet someone nice to go on dates with and days out etc and just see where it leads with no pressure. Im just not sure if POF is the best place to find something like that

[Loulybelle]

Haha, i dread to think what my best friend would write about me, shes so bloody fortright, she could be a verbal assassin.

[Loulybelle]

I know Spence, you want that, "Friendship with potential to develop"

[spenceuk]

yeah thats exactly it.

I think its going to be easier said than done though

[Loulybelle]

I think its about patience really Spence, i tried but i got no where, and being a single parent , i dont have the capacity for an in and out style relationship, id rather something that has potential to move forward.

[ItsYoniYappy]

Spence I have heard of one couple who met, clicked and they are still together.

There are a lot of arses and men sending, well arse and other body parts and I have heard the females are just as bad, one guy said there was a female on there stating her rent and asking for guy to pay in return for sex...

I have a profile way too long now stating:

Do not send me pics of this and that

Kal - No just no (copper who came out and found my boys bikes, very pleasant, not looking for sex but ... I just don't erm.. connect with him.

Mikey - please stop stalking me I have blocked you 6 times now and you l keep rejoining it's getting weird (a guy I dated who lived in same bloody town - stalked me for months until I moved)

and

No quick jumps here please but some don't read the profile and just message you anyway.

One guy today wanted me to cam to him and that was me on there looking for 'friends'

I could tell you so many stories of men who looked very normal but turned out to be looking for submissive and wanted to do my ironing whilst wearing suspender. (liked the ironing bit tbh)

AF I may google that tomorrow I need to stay away from POf, a guy I was talking to today 'is waiting' on me. [shudder]

[Loulybelle]

Omg, the amount of dicks i was subjected was astounding, some guys are just so damn desperate, like i see a dick im gonna fall in love with it, i want the man not the dick.

[AnyFucker]

Erk

[rugbychick]

I met my partner on pof nearly 3 years ago. We have a beautiful 1 year old dd, and waiting to move into the new home we have bought together. But I did meet loads of idiots before hand!

[ItsYoniYappy]

Ha! After one was sent to me I sent a message saying:

If I wanted to see a dick I could have looked at your face. Then blocked him

One guy seemed really nice, spoke to him for 3 weeks then he was upfront with me he was leaving he was looking for sex and knew I wasn't going to just do that. I quite liked him - pre that conversation.

Another was into ball busting, (i googled to see if he was abnormal) there was me thinking he was nice and taking an interest in the boys, he asked about them fighting, then moved onto them kicking each other in the balls That conversation did not end well.

Erm... met a guy from America, he was a sleaze too, he had a lot of money but he was full of arrogance and octopus hands

Met another one, he turned up with his work clothes on - he worked on a building site He declared his love for me and told me to remove myself from POF after 1 hour, I said DS was unwell and went home, he phoned for week.

Other one said he was 27 he was 23, I was 38.


If anyone if lurking this never give anyone your phone number if your not willing to change it

I've seen what looks like a nice normalish man on Zoosk (normal I mean older I need to stop dating 30 year olds), he has sent me 4 messages but I have to pay £25 to read them.

Sorry OP I have hijacked your thread. My tales of POF

[spenceuk]

I might just stick to the old fashioned way of meeting someone.

Anyway im going for a well deserved beer since im leaving work for the week. Enjoyed the chat with you all hope you all have a nice night.

[Loulybelle]

Omg Yoni, kicking each other in the balls, what a freak.

That is why i wont go back to POF.

[Mondrian]

Back in my early twenties, the only after hrs watering hole was the local disco and remember something about Tuesday nights being an over 30's (40's?) event. Is that something that went out with the 80's or is that still happening? I think it can work for some, but most seem to prefer Internet nowadays - funny how people find the effort of meeting up too taxing and prefer the Internet yet they wonder why relationships are so elusive.

[ClippedPhoenix]

There are twats on every dating site going, POF is no different, at least you don't pay for twatness!

Just get yourself a rabbit, that'll sort it!

[Loulybelle]

Clipped, me and my rabbit arent on speaking terms, since he caught me cheating with the shower head.

[ClippedPhoenix]

As for positives about POF. I've found it to be one of the best sites and have used it on and off for years. Match was shite, so was Dating Direct etc.

[ItsYoniYappy]

I'm sticking to supermarkets now.

Or maybe if I temp somewhere for work. I have a 'no dating men at work rule'

I have too many rules.

tbh after 16 years in a controlling marriage I was like a loose cannon, I had fun kindof and wanted to prove I was attractive. I done that then stopped dating again. Haven't dated a guy from the internet since August last year.

Last date was December last year.

I would like a date but not sex. I may try mysinglefriend but even the name sounds a bit

Bye spence, thanks staying after calling me twat

[ItsYoniYappy]

I was on Match for a free trial, didn't like it much either. I think my guydar is faulty! I'd rather go to bed with my book just now tbh

[fastdriver]

I want to find someone who wouldn't be sleeping with anyone else but wouldn't want commitment from me. Is that unfeasible?

And it would have to be someone I liked and whose company I enjoyed as well.

It's the holy grail I think.

I might try some of these sites. Worried dh might find me on there though

Not that it's any of his business.

[Loulybelle]

ffs anyone wanna give me a slap, i feel like a right moody bitch today.

I went on eHarmony and got no matches, i must be bloody unique.

[boyfromipinema]

So you want to be shagged by someone who you like and want to spend time with, who you fancy and who isn't shagging anyone else.

I believe that's called marriage

[Loulybelle]

haha, Boy, i think you have it right there

[Darkesteyes]

OP i can relate to how you feel. I feel exactly the same way. Am still in my sexless marriage of 17 years.
Havent had sex since when it was with ex OM at Christmas 2007.
Really getting pissed off now.