Missing condoms

[calidadsuprema]

Hi - namechanged for this.

DP and I have been together almost 3 years. We moved in together a few months ago.

Over the festive break I was looking in the medicine drawer for a sticking plaster and came across about 4 condoms tucked in a paracetomol box. We don't use condoms. Date on them was 2014. I assumed DP might have had them since before we met so said nothing at the time.

Fast forward to tonight - my DD felt unwell so I went to medicine drawer for Calpol sachets. For some reason I remembered the condoms and had a look for them. They are missing. DP is 3 days into a 10 day overseas work trip 8 hours time zone ahead. He doesn't usually travel overseas with work. I have put 2 and 2 together and don't like what I am thinking.....I sent a text about half an hour ago to tell him what I have found, saying that it does not look good from where I am standing.

[akaemmafrost]

I have asked a number of male friends about posh wanks after hearing about them on here. All men looked like .

I would think he was cheating, sorry. What are you going to do next OP?

[VoiceofUnreason]

chewinggum - of course they aren't. but there are only two uses for condoms. one is sex. the other is when you're short of balloons. they may well be 'old' and he may well not be a cheating arsehole. but the posh wank thing is a total red herring. if a guy wants a wank, he has one and makes use of toilet roll - its cheaper and you flush it away immediately

[calidadsuprema]

sarah - he's not back until Feb 3.

[AnyFucker]

chewing read the thread, don't be a buckethead

not everyone on this thread is shouting "cheat" immediately

anyone would think you had an agenda

[calidadsuprema]

akaemma I have texted him to say that I trust him but that we will need to have a talk when he gets back.

[dequoisagitil]

No blokes other than cheaters, ime, have ever heard of posh wanks.

They do tend to be proud of keeping you 'safe' 'though.

[sarahseashell]

really hard to be having to deal with this just now it'll seem like ages I know. I hope your dd is okay btw and I hope you have some things planned to pass the time while dp away. I don't think you can jump to any conclusions, you need to see him face to face

[calidadsuprema]

sarah DD is much better - seems to have been trapped wind!!! I work full time Mon-Fri so will be busy. However DD is going to exH tomorrow so the quite weekend I had planned will now involve lots of thinking

[AnyFucker]

let us know how it goes, cal

[meditrina]

The condoms I bought a couple of months ago have a 2017 expiry date (Durex), so it looks as if 4+ years is a normal shelf life. They could therefore have pre-dated you relationship or been bought by him in the early and hopeful days. He could have shoved them in the paracetamol box before he moved in with you, and they could have arrived in your house like that.

If he were hiding guilty condoms, how likely is it that he would leave them in a medicine drawer you both use, in a box of a medicine you might pick up? Or are there no other, better hiding places?

Yes, you'll have to check they all come back and appear to be the same ones.

Has he done anything else that concerns you?

[chewingguminmyhair]

You've found me out AnyFucker, I do have an agenda. I run Cheaters Pretending To Posh Wank Ltd.

Hope you get it sorted OP.

[calidadsuprema]

Kathy what do you mean by that?

[AnyFucker]

cal, just ignore it

[calidadsuprema]

Ok I will ignore the troll! Off to bed now - thanks all, will post again with an update.

[frustratedworkingmum]

Does Kathy have an HGV license?

[AnyFucker]

no chewing I wondered if you had an agenda in calling all posters on this thread out for telling OP he is cheating

because not everybody has

but you would think so, according to you

[howdoo]

I am quite cynical but, given what you've said, this sounds plausible. He has condoms which were bought before you got together. He is a neat freak who tucks things into other things. He has back pain so took paracetemol on business trip. He is not on trip with anyone he works with. His text back was loving and not defensive.

Sounds fine to me!

[ManInBeige]

Never heard of a posh wank.

That text back sounds legit.

[dontyouwantmebaby]

what's your excuse then kathy420?

OP - hope its nothing to worry about and all is okay, however only thing that troubles me is if he, as you say, has to use paracetamol regularly then how old is the box of paracetamol and if its fairly recent-ish, then why would there be condoms in it?

[Jellykat]

Going against the grain here, but i know men who have posh wanks into condoms.. (or wank socks)

[ZenNudist]

Benefit of the doubt for now. Would not even check his condoms surely demeaning? Keep an eye out but by and large relationships built on trust have got to be best. If he does start to cheat you'll be wary.