Hey, it's the Dating thread... number 37

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Of we got - all dating chit chat here!

...although not any more...

Florentine, do I know you?

Whilst the currently very entertaining Mr Unavailable said of me this week although I look like a frumpy housewife I am anything but, there's no catsuits - rubber or otherwise - in my box of tricks and I'm more of a Gestaltist

ike just focus on how it feels ...

ike that sounds waaaay better than my experience. I mat give it a go again at a more knowledgeable place!

Well, that went down very well (the underwear, that is). Going to get some more! Thank god he didn't laugh (what I was secretly afraid of) - he was surprised but in a very good way . Amazing Lunch and the food wasn't bad either . . .

Torn between feeling a bit flat now he's gone and grinning wildly like a loon.

Joyless, No, I don't think you know me [bgrin] but I've just realised that my post to you above might have some people thinking you are interested in Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and that you have a huge CD collection.

Mind you, it's not for me to disabuse that theory.

IYKWIM. [bwink]

Yeah she was great....knew exactly what it was all about...no probs

Indeed Florence indeed!

Pop some music on and have a dance OWW thats what I do (usually when pissed...) always lifts the spirits...

eeeeeeegh Ike you've put me right off. Tea tree oil is an antiseptic isn't it?! Imagine that on your sensitive bits. Urrrrrrrrrgh.

My worst oral sex experience was (surprise!) with a man who had trumpted his oral skills in advance. I felt like my clit was being hoovered off my body.

I agree that discussion of likes and dislikes are vital .. and Mr Cheeky and I do do that as we are still learning about each other .. but I think it is better t praise what you like and try not to criticise too much unless it is really hideous

STBXH's criticisms of my BJs were after years .. and I think what he wanted was as a result of too much porn ..god I am so well rid of him!!

I hour until pre-night out Coffee

No the chocolate is for the really sensitive bits.. it coats it...then goes hard and gets peeled off....

Judgement required please on an OKC man.

I am a leftie nerdy type and we've been chatting perfectly chastely about films, politics blah blah. No comments either way on looks, no flirting. He had suggested we watch a film sometime... but on his computer (?!)

Last para of his message is this:

We could have a drink somewhere to make sure neither of us is some kind of monster. Though I'm willing to forgo that. If you fancy coming up to Seven Sisters sometime you can come to my house. How's that for an offer?

Also his profile pics are the type where you can't see a clear face. Not cut out married-man style... just dark or unclear.

It's a no isn't it? Or should I just say 'yes I'll take the drink thanks'? As other than this slight weirdness, he seems interesting if a bit serious. (There's a theme of heaviness with my repliers... probably as my profile is nerdy/lefty. Sigh.)

Porn, Kirsty- so much to answer for

Domestic, it would be a no from me. For a first date, I think it's nice if the man actually wants to go out somewhere. It sounds like he doesn't want to make any effort and is probably only really after one thing. Otherwise why not go to a cinema instead?

I'm also a lefty - was most disappointed to meet someone I quite liked on GSM a couple of years ago only to find out he voted Tory!

OWW so glad the underwear, er, went down well. I can't imagine ever doing anything like that, but maybe one day I'll be brave enough.

Domestic - of course it's a no

Domestic - it does sound a bit weird like he's trying to lure you into his house. I'd be a bit wary. Meeting in public I think would probably be fine, if you think he's interesting, but I'd be tempted to either ask him why he's inviting a total stranger to his house, or stop the contact.

Domestic, nooooooo, tea tree lotion not oil, that'd be horrendous.

48, you need to make sure they do hot wax rather than strip wax, it hurts less - sticks to the hair rather than the skin or something.

Lunch sounds marvellous OWW, you lucky devil.

Glad it all went ok, Ike, she clearly knew her way around pubic hair

Domestic I would go for a drink :)

I think the invite to his house is a completely seperate thing, he's just typed a stream of conciousness.

Ah didn't read the first bit about watching a film on his computer. That's a no! Unless he's happy to just meet for a drink.

Libby the last time I did sexy underwear I was aged seventeen. It does wonders for the figure, I must say - a bit of boning (ahem) does help the curves to stay in the right places. I'm getting much more confident about my body and sex again after years feeling very low about both with my ex. Would never have done anything like the underwear a couple of years ago. Or the sex toys. In fact some of the stuff we do is downright filthy and I would have been shocked if anyone had told me I'd ever do stuff like that. I bloody love it .

I love a bit of naughty underwear... long as it isn't expected... soo great to surprise like that sometimes. OWW good to hear you are getting more confident

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