Hey, it's the Dating thread... number 37

[lubeybooby]

Of we got - all dating chit chat here!

My ex was into underwear, hold ups work better with suspenders. Mr R&R just likes to get naked ASAP

Oh no I am changing my mind rapidly about all this now....too late though (Ike trudges off like a lamb to the slaughter) enjoy your days everyone!!

Wearing the underwear!! Yikes.

So, flipping the undercarriage hair thread on its head, so to speak, what do you ladies expect from gents in that dept? Do you expect us to keep it trimmed? Shaved close (but not bald)? Think we should leave our 'unsightly bushes' alone?

bit trimmed for ease of not choking (tmi) but I wouldn't necessarily state a preference, believing that everyones pubic topiary is their own business. I would absolutely not change my preference if requested. That said, bald = turkey giblets and arguably a bit pre-pubescent. I dont personally find that attractive.

Voice Mr Cheeky did shave it all off the first few times but is just going for trimming now

I think as long as it is not growing down to your knees it is fine

voice it depends on just how wild the garden is and personal preference I guess. A light trim to keep things er, trim is appreciated.

There is a huge difference between trimming as a courtesy for getting up close and the pressure to fall for the idea that all body hair is somehow a bad thing. As for waxing, back, crack maybe depending on what you're dealing with but never sack. Bald balls, just wrong for me.

The strangest thing I've ever experienced was shaved nether regions only, leaving a body hairy surround. I had to make my excuses

I think it's best if men at least trim

Personally, I'm happy to be considerate to my partner but anyone who suggested I change my own arrangements would find the garden gate closed.

Another vote for trimmed here.

ditto!
Only a foolish man would look a gift horse in the mouth :o

(that was in reply to Juliette)

And I totally agree .. if anyone suggested that I changed my style they could forgot it .. same applies for criticising technique .. STBXH told me he didn't like my BJs ..(he wanted to treat my mouth as another hole to thud into) so guess what he didn't get again!! Mr Cheeky says I do thebest ones ever so happy to oblige ;)

Kirsty, he told you he didn't like your blow jobs ? Really ? Is he a bit daft ? That'll be a sure fire way never to get oral sex again.

On the waxing topic, I quite agree, any man who objected to me, either with or without pubic hair would be waving bye-bye to Mr Wobbly hides his helmet.

I have to say that despite being a waxer or a trimmer personally (and for personal preference), I really like a hairy man. I have to agree with Juliette about the bald balls but I've never asked anyone to go against their own preference - that would be disrespectful and I'd be dead ticked off if anyone did it to me.

Blimey Kirsty, no wonder he's an ex ... what a twerp.

KinNora I burst out laughing at Mr Wobbly ...

at gift horse in the mouth. Will not mention matron.

As for critiquing technique, many years ago one man actually said 'get on with it then'. Out loud.

I got off him.

I would say that re-growth on someone who shaves (not frequently enough) can be a tad erm scratchy ...

Which begs another question.... if a guy wasn't doing a great job going down on you, would you never say anything? Would you just dump him? Wouldn't you rather tell him so he might improve?

i think enormous amounts of tact are required..and if it feels like the other person just isnt in tune with you, well it can be very difficult!!

but if he evidently has no regard for her pleasure then, yes, drop him like a hot brick

voice I wouldn't just dump him, I would ask nicely.
I would rather a man didn't shave anything, ever but I am very girly and I like alpha manly men (it's a failing of mine!)

I like a man neatly trimmed, if too hairy for my taste would drop a subtle hint. Would be quite happy for a man to express a preference, doesn't mean I would oblige.

As for technique. If in a relationship very early on would be very open about the whole thing. Maximum pleasure for both is the goal.

So ... how/when would you approach the question of technique, or if there was something you particularly wanted (or didn't want) your partner to do? At the time? Later on? I'm quite inexperienced/shy, and struggle hugely with this kind of thing.

Don't want. Straight away.

Do want, sometimes at the time, either during or after. Or I find sex texting a useful tool, if you are going to see each other that night, get a bit off banter going and drop it in. Mr R&R is a master at this, it really is very easy.